Should I drive 7 hr round trip to see my dad

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It's his 80th. Hes all alone. Me and my son would drive down. Stay in the garden. Drive back. What would you do as they are lifting restrictions next week anyway. No symptoms been following the rules until now. Need an answer quickly thanks

I'd go.

It’s your dad’s 80th. By seeing him from a distance, “in every respect, you are acting responsibly, legally and with integrity.”

I’d absolutely go. And I would have said that before this weekend.

Go see your dad

Wouldn’t!!! I wouldn’t have said that. 🙄

Given the briefing yesterday then yes I would go.

If you are all in agreement that its worth the risk then do it.We have seen both sets of parents recently.

I would, if your dad happy for it and would go inside too.

Before yesterday's briefing, I woukd have said no way, just wait. Today, however, it's a fine, responsible thing to do.

Good job Cummings didn't have ancestors at Eyam is all I can say. 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you had asked last week I would of said no, but you may as well now as the governments rubbish advice, if I have to send my five year old to school with 15 other children five days a week for six hours, I’m sure a few hours with your Dad is fine.

I'd go too.
Use your dad's bathroom and just sanitise it afterwards. Wash your hands thoroughly when you get inside. Spend the day with him if you're driving all the way there. Heck, spend the night if you can and there's a spare bedroom that you can go in and sanitise afterwards and ask your dad not to use for a few days after you've gone.

This is all madness. I think where people are being sensible, like you're planning to do, then we have to start living our lives again. It's a changed world but family are at the centre of that and we can't stop seeing them totally.

Yes, go for it. Take a bucket for emergency loo breaks. Bottle of hot soapy water for handwashing. Enjoy.

I would definitely go.

go.

Definitely go. He's 80 and lonely, he needs company especially on his birthday. Don't care what other people think, your birthday is special and this is a horrible time to be alone on your birthday.

Do it - I would take my own food and drink though.

We’ve made the decision to do similar with my parents today, and did last weekend and will again next weekend. In all other respects we’ve been super strict. From 3rd June my year one will be back in school so will be significantly riskier to do again. I’m making the most of it while I deem it “less risk”.
My 3 year old was very good at staying distant and they have a puppy play pen round their back door they can retreat behind if she gets too over familiar. They also have a field where the kids can run free and we will have a picnic (without them).
We’re also really lucky as they have an outdoor “gardeners” loo that they don’t use. I will clean it when I arrive and before we go and they don’t use it anyway!

You are allowed to drive for longer trips, why wouldn't you go?

I wouldn't stop at services (and some are only open for petrol anyway). Take your own food and drink. Unsavoury as it sounds, I would find a bush for a wee, I just think it's safer for you and others not to be using anyone's toilets except your own. But not anything more than a wee! And only my personal opinion.

Personally I would take a mask and gloves and use them as that's what I have been doing all along, whenever I go out. But up to you, they have not been made compulsory, your choice. You can't hug and must keep a distance and must stay outdoors, but otherwise why wouldn't you visit a lonely person, your dad. It is allowed given the other criteria....

Good lord
100%
Yes yes yes
Go and enjoy

I'd have said no, but apparently you should 'follow your instincts' instead of the rules now. It seems very low-risk to me, so it's fine to go. I hope he has a good birthday!

if you have been sensible about your social distancing and likewise for him then I'd go absolutely

and take him a cake and go in the house, clean the toilet if you have to use it! I'd avoid the services...talk about a festering hotspot!!

I am seriously thinking about an overnight to my mother's, she's coming up at the end of July...assuming this shitshow is done!!

We'll go collect her, but I know that's about the one thing she is hanging on to atm.
She's three hours away so it's on the edge of feasible for a day trip.

And I’d stop at a garage on the way with one of theM&S chains and buy a birthday cake and some birthday treats

I wouldn’t worry so much about the visit itself. The distance thing is about breakdowns and accidents in cars.
You don’t know what the rules will be in a few days, might even get tough again if cases rise.

Yes I would go & take cake & card & food

I would not go into the property
I would stay a good 6 ft away at all times

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Today 10:10 Miriel

I'd have said no, but apparently you should 'follow your instincts' instead of the rules

No, not instincts. Common sense, and that entails balancing your father alone, yet again with the very small risk if you have both been socially distancing carefully during lockdown.
And so time with him in the garden at a distance, making sure he’s holding up ok and basically boosting his mental health and your own.

No, it will put him at risk. Just because Dominic C is an idiot doesn’t mean we should all put our elderly relatives at risk now

Apparently you just have to trust your instincts, there is no law against it. Go, be with your dad and enjoy yourselves.