To really hate it when people talk about DTD on here?

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It's so puritanical and 1950s and makes sex sound shameful and dirty, as if its something to be done on Sunday, behind closed doors and with all the lights off. Like going to the toilet.

This is a discussion board for adult women, the majority of whom have or plan to have children. You are allowed to have a sex life (if you so choose) and to discuss it. For Pete's sake can we stop talking about DTD?

I prefer, “a good seeing-to”. DTD sounds like weed killer.

We could go very Daily Mail and call it a "romp".

But you'd then have to include the Daily Mail stock picture they have on any "romp story"....

You say people wouldn't use it IRL well you're right but then I also wouldn't be talking to random strangers about my sex life so 🤷🏼‍♀️

Language is different depending on who you're talking to.

Also, some people ARE uncomfortable talking about sex for many many reasons. Maybe saying DTD makes some people feel more comfortable?

@steppemum I thought that DTD was a very specific form of heterosexual sex with the intent of the woman getting pregnant. That's why it's 'THE deed' not one of several pleasurable activities - it's only DTD of its the sort that can result in pregnancy. So, straight piv (maybe artificial insemination should also be THE deed, but I'll leave that for people who have tried it to decide)

But that is my point.
The Op says why don't we just say sex? My point was that 'sex' includes many many acts, including non hetero sex,a nd that therefore it does not have the same meaning at all.

I have never personally used DTD but I do recognise that it is veyr specific to the act of heterosexual intercourse and therefore relevant in the context of TTC.

Just saying - 'we had sex' doesn't convey the same meanign at all