To really hate it when people talk about DTD on here?

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It's so puritanical and 1950s and makes sex sound shameful and dirty, as if its something to be done on Sunday, behind closed doors and with all the lights off. Like going to the toilet.

This is a discussion board for adult women, the majority of whom have or plan to have children. You are allowed to have a sex life (if you so choose) and to discuss it. For Pete's sake can we stop talking about DTD?

It's very coy. If you want to specify intercourse there is an alternative: PIV.

DTD is an acronym for people who don't like sex but do it to keep their marriage. It makes my flesh crawl

Wow. Really? How do you know that?

Blame Betty Boo - she started it.

Euphemisms don't always denote feelings of shame, but often just sound a little more discreet - even poetic.

For example, King Lear famously said "Blow, winds, and crack your cheeks! Rage, blow!" and it sounded so timeless and linguistically expressive. Would people still be performing the play now if he'd just cocked his leg and said "Bwah, cop a whiff of that one, love!" ?

My husband so calls it “nookie” so stick that in your pipe!

I assumed DTD was specifically trying for a baby. Doing the deed that would result in one? Nothing to do with not liking sex or marriage saving.

If you want to specify intercourse there is an alternative: PIV.

That sounds clinically precise, though. Would you really say that IRL? You still have to say/write more though as, like 'sex', it requires a verb: 'we were having (some) PIV'. It's not even like there's a verb 'to piv/pivving'. Telling your friend that you had some PIV would be like saying that you need to expel waste urine from your bladder via your urethra into a suitable receptacle. It hardly makes you sound like Wodehouse - just a weirdo when everybody else would just have said "I need the loo" or "I have to spend a penny" (granted, the latter of those is at least 3/16ths Wodehousian).

My husband so calls it “nookie” so stick that in your pipe!

Well, assuming you accidentally closed the quotation marks early there, at least there's no mistaking what he's proposing (or reporting having happened)

I like 'doing the deed,' it sounds very important and serious.

Dp like 'how's your father' which I do not like.

DTD is infinitely better than the horrendous "baby dance", which is then shortened to BD.

But yeah, I'm quite happy to "have sex" both figuratively and literally

I like 'doing the deed,' it sounds very important and serious.

'Conjugal ghastliness' is even grander still.

An work colleague referred to having sex as 'having a bit of rude'. I know this because she lived in the next road to work and went home for 'lunch'.

An example of language policing. I've never thought of it with any negative connotations. And so what if it's old-fashioned? People of all age groups frequent this discussion board. What differences does it make what people call it.

OP, do you only go to the toilet on Sundays with the lights off? I would probably focus on this instead of MN acronyms as it really can't be good for you. Maybe try a Tuesday with the lights on

In The Sun you would "enjoy a steamy romp" following the performance of a "sex act".

I really couldn’t care what language posters use when talking about sex, I find it pretty that you find it astonishing OP

@Lollypop701 that gave me a laugh. So random, but probably the wrong thread.

FleecyMoo EXACTLY.
Everything about it says to me here's someone who doesn't really enjoy it and considers it shameful but knows they have to do it to either keep their husband from running off with his secretary or to get PG.

🙄🙄🙄 I do apologise.
Posted my Q on this random thread!
Im new to NM...
How do i delete 😂

@steppemum I thought that DTD was a very specific form of heterosexual sex with the intent of the woman getting pregnant. That's why it's 'THE deed' not one of several pleasurable activities - it's only DTD of its the sort that can result in pregnancy. So, straight piv (maybe artificial insemination should also be THE deed, but I'll leave that for people who have tried it to decide).

'Conjugal ghastliness' is even grander still.

I used to like on The Big Bang Theory when they used to call it 'coitus'.

*Too many used to-s

Keep it on. It reads great. Something about well-being whilst they are discussing sex, it's so random and in the context funny.

Now randomly wonering what acronym I can use when aiming to get pregnant without DTD