To think not many ppl have close relationship with in laws?

[jollybobs89]

Just curious as to how many of you have a good relationship with the in-laws??

I mean like a relationship like you'd have with your own family??

Or whether you have one solely for the children's sake?

I moved abroad to be with my husband so I live hundreds of miles away from my parents and five minutes away from my in laws. Before we moved into our current place we lived with them for several months. We don't have any children.

It's taken quite a long time but I would say I am very close to them.

I love my in-laws.

They are kind, generous, funny and wonderful with my children.

No surprise really given my DH is the same.

We just had a nice chat about gardening and a few other bits. I miss them terribly.

Not the same relationship as my parents, but I remain close to my ex-in-laws. They’re dear friends.

My MIL in particular is the complete opposite of many stories I read on here. She's so non-intrusive, would never dream of sticking her nose in where it's not wanted or making inappropriate comments or trying to take over. But she is very kind, and if I choose to talk to her about something she is very supportive. Over Christmas I was pregnant (unfortunately it ended in a loss) and my parents were staying with us and she was the only one of the parents who knew. She even took my parents out for the afternoon to give me some space.

I get on very well with my in-laws. I invited my MiL to choose my wedding dress with me. She has no daughter's of her own and cried when I asked her if she would like to come with me. Before FiL become ill they came on holiday with us every year. Before we married DH did not have a great relationship with his parents but I think family is impossible and keep in touch with them. My MiL has told me I am the daughter she always wanted but never had. I love her because she has always treated my sons from first marriage as her grandchildren. My children love step grandparents too. Now as young adults with their own cars they sometimes drive the 340 mile round trip to visit them, even if DH and I are not going. Since my own parents have both died I have become even closer to in-laws.

From a mil's point of view, I love my daughter-in-law, she's a fabulous person and a great mother. She's also one of the most positive people I know. I really enjoy spending time with her, my son and their two boys.
I was lucky enough to spend regular time with my first grandson, I collected him from nursery twice a week and watched him until his mum came home from work.
I couldn't do the same for my second grandson, this was due to me having some health problems. They aren't local so a lot of driving was involved. Obviously that's all stopped now.
My daughter-in-law is really close, physically and emotionally to her parents. They were heavily involved in childcare, I really feel for her and her parents now. Both are over 70 and shielding, they've gone from regular weekly contact to nothing. It must be extremely difficult for them all. I hope that at least they've been able to see them from a distance now. I don't ask because the last time I did my daughter-in-law got quite upset because she couldn't see them.

We have a good relationship, get on very well, but I'm not as close to them as I am to my own parents. We've become much closer and seen them more regularly since I had children, and that's been really nice to see that relationship develop.

My ILs will always see me as a silly teenager because DH and I were young when we got together. They treat me differently to their other DIL. They think I have DH under my thumb (not true) and nothing I do will ever be good enough so I've given up.

I love my PIL and SIL. They're a very close family but still make me feel completely one of the family. I'm not as close to them as DP is, but I'm much closer to them than to my own parents who I don't speak to often.

I'm pregnant. They were the first people we told, and they were so excited and have been asking about the pregnancy and sending us a few little gifts. They will be the first to hear when baby's born.

My first ils have rewritten history. Never bothered with dc until me and ex split up. They never kept in touch with me - taking his side despite knowing his abuse. Ds hit adulthood and they started contacting me.

Odd.

I love my ex in laws they are fabulous and I love my ex’s new wife and their new baby ! I’m really lucky we all get on brilliantly

My partner is very close to my parents. I think my Mum actually prefers him to me

I, however, cannot say the same about his parents, and god knows, I've tried!!

I'm much luckier with in-laws than I am with my own family. MIL lives with us, has done since FIL had to go into a care home a year before he died.

She's everything I imagine a good Mum should be. Involved enough to be a huge part of our lives, but respectful enough to know where the lines of that involvement should be.

Every since my Nana (who brought me up from 7 because my parents were abusive) died MIL has been like a Mum to me

DH was widowed when we met. His MIL is an amazing woman. How she has been able to be so supportive watching me with her grandson, when in her shoes I'd be seething at the unfairness of losing my daughter so young, amazes me. She christened herself my Other-MIL. We're all missing her very much in lockdown as she is shielding.

Very close to my inlaws and to my ex inlaws.

We're NC with my in laws. My parents love DH and definitely think of him as one of the family but they wouldn't call him or meet him alone without me or the children. They like and respect each other,get on well at family occasions but aren't close.

Can’t stand mine, I’m NC with them after they treated me terribly last year, I’m still quite upset about it but much happier without them in my life.

Yes, I love my in-laws. It's not exactly the same as the relationship I have with my own family (for better and for worse!) because the history is different, but I've known them since I was fairly young and they have always been above-and-beyond kind and generous towards me and I will be forever grateful to them.

MIL and FIL are quite different personalities but I miss them both when we haven't seen them for a while and actively enjoy their company.

My lovely MIL sadly died suddenly last year but she was wonderful.

FIL I’ll gladly never see again.

Lord no, I cannot suffer my ILs and I reckon the feeling is mutual. On the other hand, my DPs adore DH, which is lovely for him.

I'm close with my inlaws. We are all close; with my parents too

My ILs are fab, but live hundreds of miles away so visits are just a few times a year, but we do alternate christmases with them. I only wish they lived nearer.

Nope, I like FIL he is lovely, I will never be good enough for MIL. I'm from a different background and not accepted.

It's been hard to deal with as I was so close with my ex MIL and guess I expected it to be the same, family is so important and I really want to make the effort for my partners sake but I now feel too uncomfortable in her presence.

I'm close to my in laws. I've been with dh since I was 16 though (30 now) so I didnt meet them as a proper adult.

Prior to ds we went round every sunday for dinner and both pil have been fab at helping out with house stuff etc. We often went for dinners out.

Mil and I went to some wedding fairs together before our wedding. Etc.

Since ds (and pre lockdown) it's very much the same except they have ds one day a week for us.

They're not quite like my own family in terms of closeness but we are quite different as family units in general but I would say I'm very lucky to have such a wonderful family on dh side (as well as my own!)

I have a good relationship with my parent in laws. I've known them since I was 16y - 21 years now.

FIL died at the beginning of last month after a long illness. I was really upset. It's been really rough for us all as a family.

MIL has been living with us throughout the lockdown, since a few days before FIL died. It was my idea as I couldn't have left her living at home alone over this time and over the period of her husband's death. Whilst I wouldn't normally choose to have anyone else live with us, including my own parents who I love dearly, it's been fine. Our relationship has remained good throughout.