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To ask why you are not taking your kids back to school

106 replies

daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:25

Not trying to start an argument here just genuinely curious to know your reasons?

I'm not talking about those that have children with underlying health conditions.

And I will repeat, this isn't to start an argument I am just genuinely wandering if I've missed something/other reasons people aren't sending their kids to school if and when they have the opportunity to?

And if you aren't, when are you planning to as it's could be a while before there's a vaccine?

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ScrewBalls99 · 19/05/2020 21:30

It's not open

PickUpAPickUpAPenguin · 19/05/2020 21:31

Lots of reasons I can think of

  • their kids won't be with their friends
  • their kids won't have the teacher that they had in March
  • their kids are likely to get upset at the new routines, environment and rules.
  • it's going to be more childcare than education. By September the school will have hopefully found an optimal routine
  • kids can't see grandparents and family but can be at school all day and mix with germs from 15 other families?(14 classmates plus adult) Something wrong with that logic)
  • sibling not attending school will cause problems
  • no breakfast club/after school care
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daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:33

@ScrewBalls99 lol when they open obviously!!

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june2007 · 19/05/2020 21:33

Neither currently open, (except for keyworkers.) Primary is opening up to a few years in June but not my sons year before the 15th at the earliest. (if that.). Daughter no set date to go back.

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daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:34

Kids can't see grandparents mainly to protect the grandparents as they are likely vulnerable group though so I do see logic there

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AllieAct · 19/05/2020 21:35

We have decided that sending them back (they are in early years) to school that’s not as they know it with potentially a different teacher isn’t worth the disruption - we’d fortunate to be able to juggle work and the children at home.

We’re also hopeful that by September there will be a better test/trace system in place so social distancing won’t be as stringent at school.

There is so much conflicting scientific advice and so many factors that influence everyone’s decisions - there is no right answer. We can only make the right decision for ourselves and our family.

DahliaDay · 19/05/2020 21:36

We’ve fucked up everything so far as a country with this virus

Our statistics are embarrassing

Why should the returning to school be any different?

GreenTulips · 19/05/2020 21:36

No plan given other than online work set by current teachers. Adult supervision but no teaching. Sit at desks all day. Staggered start and finishing times. Lunch at desk.
No equipment sharing. No books or iPads available.

Doesn’t sound like much fun.

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daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:36

Also I'm talking about those who are planning to not send kids back if there's an opportunity to either now or in the near future.

I'm talking about those whose schools are shut so don't have the option to.

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daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:36

Doesn’t sound like much fun.

School isn't meant to be fun though?

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Fluffybutter · 19/05/2020 21:37

Yabu to ask the same question that’s been asked so many times in the last week and no “I haven’t been on here for ages” does not make it any better

AllieAct · 19/05/2020 21:39

It kind of sounds like you are spoiling for a fight Hmm

And school is supposed to be fun in early years - and to an extent in year 1.

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daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:39

@Fluffybutter you didn't have to click on the thread! Sorry I don't stay glued to MN all week lol but I genuinely haven't looked at it.

I asked because a friend of mine said she isn't and got quite funny about it all so was curious to know if there's something I missed??

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arethereanyleftatall · 19/05/2020 21:40

My friends husband is currently unemployed and they have 1 y6 child. Father and son are currently having a blast never previously afforded to them as he worked so many hours previously. They go bike riding, long walks, he's learning coding online, they've joined a learning French class together etc. Basically they're using the opportunity to bond massively and friend says he's learning so much with the coding and French.

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daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:40

It kind of sounds like you are spoiling for a fight

I'm not, I said that in my intro just want to know why that's all

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RigaBalsam · 19/05/2020 21:40

The test track and trace isn't up and running. Cases numbers are too high. If we want to be like ' Denmark' we need numbers as low

To ask why you are not taking your kids back to school
MrsG010814 · 19/05/2020 21:42

YABU look up all of the other (probably 100's) of threads about this same issue. Why somebody chooses not to send their child to school in the current situation is a personal choice, what difference does it make to you?

ILoveYou3000 · 19/05/2020 21:43

School isn't meant to be fun though?

It's supposed to be enjoyable for young children. I think it's pretty sad you don't feel learning and education should be fun.

ScrewBalls99 · 19/05/2020 21:44

Do you have an article to write OP?

Atomsaway · 19/05/2020 21:44

Mainly because I am shielding but even if I wasn’t, my year 6 child wouldn’t be going back.

He is benefiting hugely from the one to one teaching from me. He’s SEN and doesn’t get the attention I can give him at the best of times, let alone now, when a teacher cannot even get near him.

My son is asthmatic, therefore at a greater risk.

The new set up will be distressing for staff and children.

Year 6 will be doing transition tasks. DS is the only kid going to his secondary school and it is where I teach. He is feeling fairly at ease about the move as he knows the building well and the staff have all know him for the last five years.

I am not satisfied that it is safe for children and staff to return, especially when the virus is still at large and the government haven’t given proper guidance to headteachers.

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daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:45

It's supposed to be enjoyable for young children. I think it's pretty sad you don't feel learning and education should be fun.

This is a temporary thing, I don't think it's fun for kids being stuck indoors in lockdown to be honest.

And also, yes it can be fun sometimes but not all day everyday. The real world isn't like that so kids should learn from an early age life isn't a barrel of laughs perhaps then they wouldn't have such unrealistic expectations growing up.

Kids are at school in the main to learn and have fun sometimes, not all the time.

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daisydukes7576 · 19/05/2020 21:48

YABU look up all of the other (probably 100's) of threads about this same issue. Why somebody chooses not to send their child to school in the current situation is a personal choice, what difference does it make to you?

Is this forum not to talk about personal issues? Why are you on this thread commenting if you're taking offence to it.

It doesn't make a difference I'm trying to understand others perspectives on the situation.

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anyoldname76 · 19/05/2020 21:48

I want my yr6 child to start back but he's been put on a waiting list as they don't have enough staff or classrooms to accommodate all the reception, y1 and y6 children, as it's only 8 children per class, in those 3 years alone there are 240 children!

PickUpAPickUpAPenguin · 19/05/2020 21:51

A major reason why kids like school is their friends.

Shitfuckoh · 19/05/2020 21:53

1 of our schools sent out a survey asking which parents intended on sending their child(ren) back.
I asked a few questions of the school before responding - I was already unsure as to whether to send him anyway.

Their responses made me realise for now, he's best off at home. He wouldn't cope with all the changes, he wouldn't be in his own classroom with his own teacher & friends - most of his friends parents have already said no. He'd be at a desk all day without teaching as it was due to social distancing. It was something that's kept me awake a few nights over. Nothing at all to do with the risk of the virus (as for our family, I believe the risk is low) but to do with all the changes which are massive for such a young child.

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