Should I be offended?

[doublestriker]

Got this message from someone on bumble! Should I be offended? AIBU?

I wouldn’t be offended but I probably would’ve be arsed to engage further

I think you should avoid anyone who starts off by negging you.

*wouldnt

Well I definitely wouldn't be messaging back that's for sure! Classic PUA negging.

Harsh but he has a point, when I was online dating I’d ignore any messages like that, it’s so lazy!

Is bumble a dating app. Consider it lucky you didn’t waste time getting to know this idiot

I wouldn’t be offended because I agree that is a very boring way to open a conversation! Especially on a dating app , you’re trying to stand out not blend in.

I much prefer that than a cheesy line or corny icebreaker.

Rude!

I’d send back ‘My photos may be attractive, but your personality isn’t. I’m glad you made it clear so quickly’.

Nah, that’s negging, block and ignore. He’s the unimaginative one.

he's right, a dull opening but i'd down grade him on the 'girl' aspect.

Block

Block him and move on. How else are you supposed to start messaging?

How's asking how someone you're chatting to for the first time, how they are, dull? That's literally my first message to them!

Definitely block and move on.

But If I received a ‘hey, how are you’ message I wouldn’t reply at all.

On bumble, I always pick something interesting on their profile to talk about:

“Hey! I see you’ve visited X. Did you visit Y when you were there’ etc.
“Hey! I love your dog! What’s its name...’

And so on...

How's asking how someone you're chatting to for the first time, how they are, dull? That's literally my first message to them!

It’s just lazy. Why not pick our something from their profile / photos and start conversation that way?

There are sicil conventions to opening a conversation and how are you is probably the most popular. Exciting? No. But what would he rather have you say?
His response was hardly scintillating either.

I wouldn’t respond to messages of hi how are you either tbh. When I was old I got way too many of them so I usually only responding to the ones who stood out of said something interesting. But I don’t think it’s offensive what he said but I just wouldn’t reply.

Look, he dropped his red flags.

Block him

He's being honest. It's a boring first message. I rather like his style

@ShirleyPhallus even if I wanted to ask about their life, I'd start with a "hi". Him frustrated about that does not mean it's "dull".

I think he's been an arse and I wouldn't be interested in getting to know him any further. When I was OLD I never replied to people who just sent the opening message you did though. If they couldn't be bothered to read my profile and make some sort of acknowledgement then I couldn't be bothered to talk to them because, inevitably, they'd ask questions that I'd covered in my profile. It got really tedious really quickly I'm afraid.