Should I be offended?

[doublestriker]

Got this message from someone on bumble! Should I be offended? AIBU?

Perfectly appropriate way to start a conversation, stay well away from this person as what they must be looking for is not reality, he obviously is asking for sex talk

@DontTouchTheMoustache

What the???!!!!! I fear I am too delicate and naive for online dating lol!

Negging

Oops I’ve just done similar to someone who approached me with the hi how are you - I wrote a few lines back so he could have something he could use to reply to, he then didn’t respond for over 24 hours so I wrote that I was so glad we had this riveting conversation. I do find the ‘hi how are you’ starting conversations are the ones that are slow paced and plodding sometimes.

Amused to see that the 'wanna pound your pussy hard' bloke ends his message with a little 'xx'. So sweet!

I beg your pardon, I meant 'pound your pussy hardd' Mustn't forget the extra 'd' to emphasis the hardness of it all!

'I've asked, but the cat isn't interested in being pounded hardd. He's not into kinky stuff'

This thread has made me feel old! Never heard the word “negging” before, I assumed the first person who used it made a typo! Just had to google it when I seen people continued to say it!!

The point isn't whether or not the OP's response was boring - the point is he felt he could tell her that. It is negging. I wouldn't respond OP.

God, he thinks he's special, doesn't he. Tiresome.

@iklboo

has a point, when I was online dating I’d ignore any messages like that, it’s so lazy!

Indeed, the last thing one wants in an unknown prospective date is that they are able to behave within social norms for the first sentence of a conversation with a stranger.

Greeting people with 'would you like to see my collection of human?' teeth would be so much more quirky and interesting.

I've never done OLD or heard of negging (had to Google it), but he sounds like a patronising, arrogant prick. You disappointed him! Who the fuck does he think he is? Lucky escape OP if you ask me.

“I’m disappointed”?

Hardly a great basis for romance. A red flag, if you ask me. Move on, move on, move on...

Bumble is primarily for men who can’t be arsed or don’t have the balls to make the first move. That’s why it’s flawed.
However, I think ‘hi how are you’ seems a bit lazy. He should have ignored it if he didn’t like it rather than sending those messages though.
Sometimes I reply to a hi with just ‘hi’ just to show them that they have to make a bit of effort (or leave me alone!)
If you want to continue on Bumble I think it’s best to write a short opening message that at least shows you have looked at their profile, not one that you have just sent to all your matches. Something like ‘hi Steve, cool photos, what did you think of [place in photo]’ and you might be more likely to get a conversation going.
But if you want a man who makes more of an effort you might not find one on Bumble 😄

I'd send him a dick pic and ask him if that's a better intro? If you find a good one, ask him if he measures up...