Should I be offended?

[doublestriker]

Got this message from someone on bumble! Should I be offended? AIBU?

go on then !? Divine intervention?

I hate this, I use tinder and simply cannot be arsed to come up with some hilarious witty opener that is quite possibly going to be ignored entirely. It shows the level of entitlement that they expect you to study their profiles in minute detail to desperately gain their attention.
I'm not a fucking peacock, speak to me like an adult or bugger off

Yes, “hi how are you” is a bit of a rubbish opener.

But I would not continue this conversation with someone who feels they have the right to criticise you within the first two sentences! No way!

Who does he think he is? Cheeky git.
You could say something along the lines of not having anything interesting to comment on based on his dull profile. But I would just ignore the fucker.

I'd also like to mention the guys criticising you for boring openers are probably the same ones currently opening with "hows lockdown treating you" and thinking they are incredibly original.

Though I had an opener last week asking me immediately if I would have anal sex with him so I'm more than happy with a simple "hi how are you?"

I would message back and say I'm not interested in chatting any further with someone who starts off so negative and nasty from the first message. Then block.

I’d reply with a laughing face then block him.

My God he's rude

He's right but still rude.

Reply this the block.
Your first interaction with me was negative, I now know why your single.
Bye.

In fact just to add some perspective here are some delightful openers I received from badoo a while back...suddenly boring doesnt seem so bad 😂

@Bbang - I don’t disagree with you! I’m just saying that not everyone who agrees with him thinks what he said is acceptable and certainly not worth engaging any further with!

Classic negging.

You're supposed to turning yourself inside out now proving that you're not like all the other girls.

What a tosser!

DontTouchTheMoustache wow I think I would prefer dull after seeing those messages

I like @DianaT1969 's response!

Although the OP is absent from this conversation so sadly I think she's now busy proving that she's not like all the other girls.

[sigh]

I mean, he’s right, a ‘hi, how are you?’ wouldn’t really have me excited or interested but he does sound like a right pompous twat so I’d avoid him anyway 😂

@DontTouchTheMoustache Wow! That’s very descriptive (well actually, without the grammar it’s really hard to tell)

I did have a delightful guy message me asking if I was into ‘being eaten out and choking’ the other day - I’m not sure who was choking who. I blocked before getting clarity on the matter.

Haha @TedandJill I always wonder who do they think is going to respond to these messages? It's the online equivalent of cat calling from a car surely?

To be fair, it’s a dull opening and so overused on dating sites. Look at any of the OLD threads in relationships forum and you’ll see woman after woman saying they ignore the “hi, how are you?” messages , as they’re boring and a sign that they haven’t read your profile and are most likely sending the same message to lots of women hoping someone will bite. I think it’s expected that you should say something in your opening message that shows you have read their profile and have an interest/curiosity in it/then because of it.

It's a dull opener OP, like you're going through the motions. But if was was decent he should have said nothing and just unmatched.

I'd be disappointed that his first comment to you was him being a negging arse. What a twatty thing to say. You're just trying to say hi to someone, like a genuine normal human interaction. Your first message doesn't need to be some amazing epic one liner. Don't even respond.

Please reply with what @DianaT1969 said. And then block him, he’s clearly a fundamentally unkind person and kindness is the first trait you want in a partner IMO.

He has every right to ignore your message if he thinks it is boring or unoriginal. That’s a separate issue.

Pointing it out like that and saying he is “disappointed” - what a complete and total arse. Rude, condescending negger.

I'd reply with 'Ok how about this then... go fuck yourself you self-indulgent prick'

What does he expect - 'Yo, yo, yo bitches! Doublestriker in da HOUSE'?

@DontTouchTheMoustache - that's horrific. I'd have been tempted to reply 'Is that you vicar?'