I am disgusting!

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This isn't an AIBU but people seem to get more responses here!

I am extreamly obese. I'm 5 ft2 and weigh nearly 14 stone. I'm so upset every time I look at myself and absolutely hate myself. My body is covered in stretch marks from having a baby nearly 3 years ago and I know that these are here to stay. It's not as though I'm fat because I've been pregnant...It's because I'm greedy, lazy and have no motivation or will power what so ever!

Please can someone give me a bloody good talking to before I ruin my body and my health forever. My OH isnt that supportive of me loosing weight (not in a horrible way but I think he has heard it all before and knows I'll give up, plus he doesn't mind what size I am so even if I lost loads of weight or stayed the same it wouldn't bother him)

I just need a bloody good kick up the arse! Anyone willing to do that for me 🤔

Thanks!

The thing with intermittent fasting, is that however hard it is to eat nothing, it is a damn sight easier that just having two biscuits or one chocolate without eating a lot more than you wanted to.

I would recommend not denying yourself anything, but have it tomorrow or next week.

Whatever you do, don't do the I'll pig out today and start my diet tomorrow.

OP you are certainly not disgusting - your body has done something amazing! BUT to all the posters saying they are the same height and weight (or heavier) and are not extremely obese... I’m so sorry, but you are. At 5ft2 and 14st you’d have a BMI of nearly 36 which is extremely obese whichever way you look at it, regardless of what size of clothes you can make fit you. One poster said she’d ideally be 11st - that’s still seriously overweight! I think everyone’s perceptions are so skewed now that people really don’t even realise what fat is any more. That’s not to say that OP or anyone else is disgusting. But extremely obese, yes, I’m afraid so.

How about heart problems, high blood pressure, risk of stroke, and arthritic knees..or the shame of splitting the seams on your clothes?
Losing weight gets harder as you get older and after menopause is almost impossible, so start to make some changes now. Instead of thinking “I am on a diet” and feeling punished, make it “I am eating healthy food”.

Suggest no snacks in between meals and don’t have your “trigger” foods in the house. If you want to calorie count, the Pinch of Nom books are good, and the Hairy Bikers diet books are useful too.
Keeping a food diary is very helpful, as is meal planning. (Slimming world has a good meal planning app which calculates your daily limits)
If you get the TLC channel, look at “my 600lb life” it’s very motivational!

I'm 5ft 2 and average 10 stone which is classed as overweight, unfortunately for our height the ideal weight is between 7st something and 9 st 10 I think.

I wouldn't go drastic and start cutting stuff out, drink plenty of water. I don't know if you do but try not to binge, and remember you can save food for the next day and don't have to eat it all in one go. I've been guilty of eating all of chocolate or crisps because I've nearly finished the bag but now I can put it back in the cupboard lol

Oh op I'm nearly the exact same measurements as you and had my baby 2.5 years ago. So similar! I feel exactly the same and I also have a partner who doesn't mind the extra weight mainly cos he's happily put some on too which doesn't help haha.

Used to be a size 8/10 before pregnancy and now I'm easily an 18. I really now regret not taking better care of myself post birth but I was suffering PND at the time.

I am a serial snacker and know I need to cut it out. I feel sluggish and shit most of the time and I hate it. Whenever I sit down I grab a pillow to hide my stomach, I wear baggy clothes, etc I just have no confidence.
It's like I know what I need to do but just am lacking so much motivation right now. I feel like I'm constantly on the go as well its just the diet for me really I get so hungry that I just binge absolute rubbish 😩

I think it's great that you are recognising the need to change.

I would suggest that you start by not keeping junk food in the house. Get loads of fruit to snack on.

If you have an issue with portion control then it is likely because you have stretched your stomach (and your portion expectations!) over time. You can fix this through intermittent fasting. It will also teach you to get used to the feeling of hunger.

I would also suggest the Noom app as it addresses some of the psychological aspects of weight loss, and can be really rewarding.

Lastly, small changes make a huge difference, you'd be really surprised. I switched lattes for filter with milk and lost a fair bit of weight over 6 weeks. Try swapping out things you eat regularly for something else. These incremental changes really add up and are actually the lifestyle changes that make for permanent weight loss.

Good luck with it all x

Find a really supportive friend.
When you can go out properly, walk around a supermarket or shopping mall.
Point out to your friend those people who you think you look like.
Let your friend also point out people she thinks you look like.
It’s mean people spotting
But it works.
You are probably not as fat as you think you are.
It doesn’t mean you don’t have to shed some timber, but it does raise your confidence that all is not lost.
I did this with my daughter and it made me realise that I wasn’t quite the fat mess I thought I was, and losing weight didn’t seem like a lost cause.

You said you've always hated your body.

Your weight isn't the issue, your brain is.

Weigh everything so you know exactly how much you’re eating. My fitness pal. Low carb/ high fat. No alcohol/very low alcohol

This is what worked for me, I’ve lost 7 stone

*I weighed myself this morning and was already feeling pretty down - reading your description of yourself as disgusting at 2 stone less than me is shit, so thanks for that.

That's such and emotionally manipulative thing to say to the OP.

She feels how she feels about herself and that's nothing to do with you.

Your weight is your own responsibility. No point in trying to make it the OP's problem.*

I agree. The OP can jolly well say what she likes about her OWN BODY. You can't control what other people think and say about their own self. How ridiculous.

Being a good role model for your child might motivate you. I dont mean to scare you but I would also be worried about the risk of a heart attack or diabetes and being around and healthy for my child. Diets as such don't work if you go back to eating what you did before - you have to commit to eating less than you do now for the rest of your life if you want to be thinner. My own personal tips are to never eat standing and do nothing else while eating so no watching television or reading a book. Have no chocolate in the house at all. If you were trying to give up smoking you wouldn't have a few packs sitting around.

Switch to smaller plates. Only eat from a plate, never out of a packet/wrapper. Overeating on one day is just one day; don't despair the following day. Keep well hydrated; thirst feels like hunger. Be kind to yourself; you are a lovely person at all weights. HTH and GL! Xx

I feel exactly like you do. I could’ve written this. I am an inch or so taller and same weight more or less. I am my own worst enemy.