To ask if you like your siblings

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Me and my sibling were close when children but now don’t really get on.

My younger sister who I grew up with, is sadly now a drug addict and very much estranged, she's never met my daughter.

My half brother on the other hand, best pals! Him, his wife and my niece (my daughter's 'cousin' I guess!).

Yes, I think they're brilliant. We don't spend heaps of time together and we all have strong and opposing political opinions which makes for heated discussions but it's good sport and I miss them a lot right now.

Used to loathe my brother and idolize my sister growing up. Now I'm on good terms with my brother, he's the godfather of one of my sons in fact, and I barely speak to my sister, no ill feelings (any longer) we just aren't that involved in each other's lives.

I’m eight years older than my sister, so we’ve always been a bit out of step with each other. We’re now in our thirties and we get on most of the time. Like a PP said, in some ways we’re very similar and in other ways we’re chalk and cheese. She’s very hard-working and can be helpful, kind and generous, but she’s also a bit bossy and abrasive. I can’t really confide in her, as she’s very much of the pull-your-socks-up-and-get-on-with-it type.

My sister asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding (albeit at fairly short notice) and I was touched. But she didn’t invite me to her hen do. When I mention

Yes. We don't live close to each other and we aren't the kind of family who metaphorically live in each other's pockers either, but I know I could always rely on my siblings 100% if needed, and vice versa. There is quite a big age gap between them and me, so when we were children we weren't that close. I am sure I was a very irritating little sister in fact. But as we got older we started to get on a lot better.

Yes, mine is absolutely my best friend.

Mentioned this, she said she just wanted to invite her friends.

Which says a lot really. We’re sisters and we get on pretty well, but we’re not “friends”.

No. We never really have, although we played together while small.

No. Have a brother who.is 3 years older. We never had major fights but were never close. Apparently he adored me when I was born but never remember him sticking up for me at school at primary school and by the time I started secondary school, he was in 3rd year so wanted nothing to do with me. We had no shared interests either.
He settled down young and had kids and married but they split up in theirs late 20s. He went a bit wild for a while then got together with a horrible woman. Stopped seeing his kids but settled down with her and hers. Caused lots of stress for my parents for a number of years, with debts and rows, splitting up every other week, him turning up with a bag and was nowhere to be seen when my mum was diagnosed with cancer, leaving all the stress and hard work to me and my dad. He turned up when she was dying and stayed throughout that then fucked off again after the funeral. Sees my dad sporadically although he lives a 10 minute walk away. I see my dad every day. Not sure when he last saw his boys, probably at my mums funeral nearly 6 years ago. Can't remember the last time I saw him, he's pretty much a stranger to me. I do feel envious of other people who have several siblings and are really close to them.

Yep. Adore them both. My sister is my absolute best friend in the world. My brother in less close too, probably speak to him weekly but my sister I speak to several times a day.

Nopes.

One of my brothers is just a absolute twat and I have very little time for him.

My other brother is ok - don’t not get on with him I just don’t actively seek him out.

My sister is dead we had a love/hate relationship wouldn’t have changed it, it’s the way we were.

I thought after my sister’s death we may have become closer but I just think we are all too different and we have different lives.

Nope. Might as well have been an only child.

Yes, I’ve always been close to my brother. He’s 3 years younger than me. He lives less than 10 minutes walk away from me. We Usually meet at least once a month for breakfast or lunch out. Phone or FaceTime a couple of times a week.

I wish I'd been an only child.

No

Love my brother. He's almost 2 years and a bit older than me and when we were kids we were together alot either having great fun or fighting like dogs. As adults we are great friends though he lives far away now but we message or phone each other regularly. I'm lucky to have him as a brother.

One sister. We hated each other as kids. Since growing up and living separately she's my best friend!

DH thinks she's scary but I know how to handle her.

I love that I have a friend who I can tell to bog off who won't get offended.

I am best friends with my sisters and they are absolutely fantastic but I am NC with my brother as he’s a narcissistic arsehole.

We never got on as kids but he made a big effort a few years ago apparently to make up and be nice with myself and my sisters. All good for a few years until he gradually slipped back to his old ways and one day caused a whopper row that has resulted in all contact being cut with him. Sad but I can’t honestly say I miss him as he never added anything to my life.

As a bonus aside because my parents think the sun shine out of his ar*se, they have also stopped talking to me following a subsequent attempt by them to force me to accept my brothers shitty treatment of me as me not doing so made their life harder.

Families are great eh? The older I get though I realise you need to love and make an effort with the people who do the same with you, and stop wasting time and energy on people who do the opposite

Adore my baby sister, there’s nothing she can do that would change my opinion. She could run off with my husband and I’d still love her to bits. It’s a maternal thing I think. There’s around 10 years age gap between us so I remember her being born, teaching her to talk in her cot, etc.

Brother was my protector from our violent mum as a kid, but as an adult, I’ve only recently learnt he a)went to prison b) holds decades-long grudges against people including other siblings c) is manipulative d) is currently having an affair I always remember he was a bit secretive as a kid, but I’d never have thought he’d turn out like this

My middle sister is a highly successful narcissist. She’s also living with a man who got a 13 year old pregnant when he was 35, and participated in an online hate campaign against me that my DV ex started, so no, I don’t like her at all. But I do have sympathy for her. This phase of her life will crash and burn soon, it always follows this path.

No, he’s not a nice character. When my first child was born I asked myself, would I want this person in my child’s life if they weren’t related and the answer was a resounding “no”. That decided it.

Yes. Love younger DB and we got on well for the most part while we were growing up. He’s no longer here and I’d do anything to have him back. Miss him and his dry sense of humor terribly

No. Same as op, got on as kids, but not now.

I got on ok with my brother when we were kids. As we’ve got older we’ve got on better. Contact each other every day, even if it’s a stupid meme. He still lives with dm, but as dm is elderly he helps her a lot.
He dotes on dds and spoils them.

I am an only child and always wished I had siblings. We deliberately had two kids, hoping they would always have each other and be best pals.

I always had this stupid idea that sibling love would conquer anything- blood is thicker than water etc. They bicker like hell just now. You lot have given me the fear!

I have a brother and sister. I love them both but I like my sister best even though she is nearly young enough to be my daughter. Both are married and I love and like my BIL. But my SIL who is married to my brother - I adore her. She has the patience of a saint and I tell her this.