To ask if you like your siblings

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Me and my sibling were close when children but now don’t really get on.

Growing up my sister was not very nice to me, she was a fair bit older and I was terrified of her. We get along pretty well now as adults and message a couple of times a week but it's fairly light and superficial, though I think it's improving slowly.

My 2 brothers I get on well with but they don't get on well with each other! DB1 can be a bit arrogant, DB2 a bit touchy, but overall we all would be there for each other if we needed it. DB2 I speak to every day pretty much, we are close and understand each other well. I think who we all chose as partners has a part to play too. Luckily none of my siblings are married to nasty people but my DB1's wife is very reserved and it's impossible to know what she thinks/feels, even though I've known her for 15 years now, and this inhibits me somewhat with DB1.

No haven't seen my siblings for many years and doubt I'll ever see them again, hopefully.

I LOVE my siblings! They just "get" me. We live far apart but they are there when I need them and vice versa.

I have 8 siblings and love all of them so much, closer to some than others but know any one of them would be there for me if I needed and know the opposite is true as well! I especially feel so protective over my younger siblings, missing them is the thing that's making this lockdown hardest for me.

1 of 6.
Older 2 in 50s. Youngest 4 in 30s.
1 - sister, will love her forever and never give up on her but she is extremely bitter and jealous and temperamental, can be very nasty if you disagree.
2 - brother, haven’t seen in years, amicable, text and message over Facebook to check on one another’s children.
3 - sister is my best friend in the whole world, detested each other as children. Have very similar morals and live 5 mins away (deliberately) so our kids have an extremely close relationship.
4 - love him, his quite quiet, love his partner, love his babies.
5 - my twin, exactly the same person, sadly see the least as they are the furthest away but call regularly.

All in a WhatsApp group, speak regularly.
Love all their partners.

This is very telling..

I love my brother, but I wouldn't necessarily choose him as a friend.

He's rather judgemental, quite full of himself but we'd support each other through anything. I keep him around for my Niece and Nephew! He's very much the golden child for both my mum and my grandmother.

He'd probably say some less than flattering things about me too though.

I have a brother. I used to adore him. He met his now wife who completely dominates him, which he'll openly admit he likes and out went his family. He couldn't give two shits about us now. He looks down on me, he's a self righteous ass hole.

I find my brother immensely arrogant and intense. He came to stay for a week a year or so ago and I felt totally suffocated and like I had a third child. I get on better with my sister but, again, if we were not related I would not be friends with her as we have little in common (big age gap and she has no DC). My family are just very fragmented and I can’t see that changing.

I love my sister and sometimes we get on really well but other times it can be a struggle. She sometimes treats our mum as an emotional punchbag, which is deeply unfair. In many ways she hasn't developed emotionally beyond her teenage years and when she's in the wrong mood she can pick a fight with an empty room. She can be extremely kind, sensitive and supportive, but I walk on eggshells around her as I never know what will make her flip

Also, she calls my DS 'lil bubby' which makes me irrationally cross!

Love my 4 siblings. We do lots of stuff together. Chat on whatsapp every day, family do's, weekends away, babysit for each other - not so much now the kids are older, but a lot when they were younger.

Very close - so much so that our blend of friends have all blended into a group. For example if I wasn't up for going on a night out, but 'my' friend wanted to, she would go along with my sisters', no qualms.

I feel very very lucky and I can't wait to give them all a hug.

Love my sister to bits. Really missing her at the moment.

I have 5 brothers and I'm the only girl, I have feelings of indifference towards 2 of them, hatred for one, uneasiness around another and just anger and shame at the other.

1 is a liar, a thief and a complete and utter narcissist
1 is lazy, a drug addict and wants everything handed to him on a plate without doing a dot of work
1 is a criminal, been in prison, been in court multiple times and still won't change his ways for the good of his son. His ex is a heroin addict who is in prison. His son is basically my mothers 6th child, they live with her and my brother couldn't give a toss
1 is hateful, arrogant, lazy and just downright rude.
1 I have felt uneasy about since I was young and would never want to be left alone in the same room as him (we grew up in separate households and he's much older than me)

Only 2 out of the 5 have a job and they're all adults.
I am held to some higher standard where nothing I do is ever impressive or good enough. One brother acts vaguely interested in his kid and my mum acts as if he cured cancer. Meanwhile I have two severely disabled children, work full time, pay my parents bills where I can and generally try my hardest to be liked. Nothing is ever impressive or makes them proud, I should really stop trying.

Nope me and my brother fight like we are kids all the time. If it wasn't for my parents I wouldn't see him at all.

It's complicated. I love them all, definitely. But they don't like each other and I get tired of being piggy in the middle.

My sister is my best friend and we talk every single day. I fee lucky to have that!

Love all of mine. They are a huge source of support for me and I would be lost without them.

Going NC with family/hating various of them is something I've only encountered on MN tho, in RL all my friends are close to siblings. E.g. I don't know anyone who hasn't had sisters as bridesmaid etc.

I have one older brother. I was sexually abused by him for most of my childhood into early teens. Never told my parents, he was the golden boy and they’ve always wondered why I hated him for no apparent reason. If I did tell them I don’t think they’d believe me anyway. I have very low contact with him, and once my parents die I know for a fact I will never speak to him again, and if I have kids I won’t ever let him anywhere near them

I always feel so envious of other people who have lovely normal sibling relationships

He’s also just not a nice person in general, even without all that. Typical narcissist and everything is about him. His Facebook page is the most judgemental, self righteous pile of shit you’ll ever see because in his world he’s the best at everything and everybody else’s opinion about anything is wrong if it’s not the same as his opinion

Love mine and my DHs siblings and we all get on really well... That said we dont see very mich of each other. One of them is married to one of the nost controlling people I've ever met and is not allowed to visit family (I could rant all day about that), one is a bit of a recluse and the other lives hundreds of milea away. That said when we do see each other it's great. I hope my chikdren are close when they grow up, but with all the arguing they do now its very hard to imagine

I’m a triplet and have an older sister. All girls at similar ages meant we constantly argued as kids. We still argue occasionally and I sometimes feel resentment towards them.

I don’t think I will be close with any of them when we grow older. Maybe only my older sister.

I wonder for people who have become close to siblings as adults when they didn’t get on as children, what brought you closer?

I more or less ignored my younger sister when we were growing up (4 year age gap). Now we’re really close, go on holiday together & get each other through crises.

I think we started getting on once I left for university & we weren’t living together any more. Growing up probably helped too as the age gap became less & less relevant. I think it also probably helped that our parents didn’t push us together & we didn’t have to share a room except on the occasional holiday. When we started to spend time together it was through choice.

I’ve always got on ok with my brother (2 year age gap) but wouldn’t call him for a chat like I would my sister.

We played together as children but from my side I played with her because it was either her or noone. I always found her quite annoying and we had a 4 year age gap so were never really at a stage where we liked the same things.
As adults we send whatsapp messages for birthday and christmas and that's about it. We may see each other a couple of times per year at family events but never make any effort to meet up between ourselves. There's never been a falling out but we are just different people and have nothing in common.

I mean, I like them, they're OK, but we have little in common. I see my sister a few times a year, my brothers only if they happen to be with my parents when I am.

We get on, just all lead separate lives.

Love my sister. She's bonkers! There is only a 15 month age gap, so we've always got on well.

I love my sister. She's my absolute best friend in the whole world. I miss her so much at the moment and we talk every single day via one medium or another.
She's the best