To ask if you like your siblings

[User5672]

Me and my sibling were close when children but now don’t really get on.

[Highfivemum]

I have a DB who is my world. We have such a bond and are just Best friends. We both also have a DS who we are NC with. She is an aggressive controlling bully and my DB stopped contact with her as a teen. I carried on «trying «‘and cos I have mug on my head. But a couple of years ago she did something that I can never ever forgive and that was it for me. Now NC and it’s so much better not to have her drama in my life. She brought nothing to it anyway. I feel truly sad to read so many of you on mumsnet also are NC with siblings. I also feel truly blessed to have my DB. 💐

[MayFayre]

Close as children because neither of us has other friends. Now, complete indifference. I don’t really see him.

[Mawbags]

I treat mine like colleagues.... in a scuzzy old firm headed by out of touch CEO’s, mum and dad...

We get on when we have to, can be profession and wear our game face.

Deep down none of us ever got unconditional love and we are all hugely competitive and unsupportive of each other

We can cope with the team building exercises (Christmas and birthdays)

But secretly we all hope one of the others will be fired

No bonus and no employment rights

Flaky uncommunicative management

Honestly it’s like Succession without the money 😂

[UnaCorda]

My sister is a nice person, but she is a bit overly interested in beauty products and procedures, and not very interested in anything I consider more worthwhile (history, politics, culture, travel, languages, etc.). so we don't have a great deal to talk about. I think she sells herself short with the way she lives her life, but it's her choice.

My brother is both an arrogant male chauvinist pig and an evangelical Christian which can be an aggravating combination. Having said that, we get on better now than we did as children.

I wouldn't ask either of them for emotional support, much as they'd like me to.

[CuppaZa]

I like and love my siblings. I really disliked my younger sibling as a child. It’s only been the past 10 years or so that I realise what a kind, loyal and special human they are. One of a kind. I always got on with older one as there was more of an age gap, so I think it meant less competitiveness. My siblings are completely different to each other personality wise

[MadCattery]

Two brothers, two sisters and haven't seen or spoken to any of them in years. Life is more peaceful, less stressful and all of the negativity is gone. I think of them as people that I used to know.

[SpillTheTeaa]

Yes love them all. Have 4 but younger sibling ruffles my feathers. She's a very nasty and cold person when something doesn't go her way or something is said she doesn't agree with. She picks fights about anything but I still love her.
I'd hate my DC hating each other though!

[PotteryLottery]

No. But our mother felt threatened by our closeness and divided and ruled.

[RingaRosie]

I always got on with my sister (except when we were teenagers!) but now we’re in our 40s, it’s different. She has changed (she might say same about me) and become quite conservative / not fun.

[MissMarks]

Tolerate. Very little in common and he is a bit of a prat.

[Spermysextowel]

I love both of mine, but our relationships have definitely changed over the years. Was very close to my elder sister (17 month gap) for years. Moved to London together, worked together, shared a room together. Since I had children & moved to be closer to my mother & younger sister (5yr gap) it’s understandably changed. My younger sister has also changed from being the wild-child to the most sensible & efficient of all of us.
Despite the changes we have lots of shared memories, family jokes etc. Just one tiny phrase can have us all in stitches. Just before we set off for our father’s funeral one of us said a ‘dadism’ which still makes us giggle now.

[Jennyie1]

I have a twin Sister. We are soul mates and best friends. We are so lucky, don’t know what I’d do without her. We lost our beloved Dad two weeks ago and she is getting me through it.

[HalfOfWhoIUsedToBe]

We were close til about 15 years ago. He was a genuinely nice bloke and we’d been through a terrible childhood together so I thought we’d always have each other. He changed a lot due to some things that happened in his life and I just didn't like who he’d become. We haven’t spoke in a few years now after a few arguments. He can’t accept that not everyone thinks like him so he’s lost quite a few friends. He only gets on with family members that let him control them so that was never going to be me. I think he’s quite unhappy but would never admit it now.
I really hope my kids are close when they grow up.

[Originalyellowbelly]

I have one sister, she was the golden child who always got the best of everything and even now both of our parents have died she still thinks she deserves everything. I don't like her, I don't like her children and I don't like her politics, I don't care if I never see her again but she seems to want to keep a connection to me, because it feeds her ego to feel superior to me even though it's very misplaced.

[GrumpyHoonMain]

My sister and I are really close.

One of my brothers is a bit up himself and likes to portray a certain image and I don’t really fit it - we get one well enough when we meet but I do think he’s a bit ashamed of me in a way he isn’t with my other siblings eg they get invited to parties / dinners with his friends but I don’t.

[sweetkitty]

One younger DB we get on ok I guess but are very different people. He is very opinionated especially about politics and a bit sexist. He does things like plays the benefit system which I don’t think is ok. For instance he’s never officially moved in with his partner. She works part time and claims tax credits. On paper he still lives at home. He works in quite a good job.

[Greengrassgravy]

No - they are not my kind of people -overly controlling and disrespectful when Mum and Dad die I will never see them again.

[scrivette]

Jennyie sorry to hear of your loss.

My brother and I were very good friends growing up and in our early 20's but we barely speak now. I miss the relationship we used to have.

He told me a while ago that he didn't like me and listed the reasons why - I haven't changed and the things he listed have always been there but didn't used to bother him (or other people, all very minor things). He has changed and I miss the way he used to be and how close we were.

[Thurmanmurman]

Yes, my brother is my best friend. I trust him more than anyone else.

[DramaAlpaca]

I don't see much of my sibling, but yes.

[WillowUfgood]

I tolerate my 2 older siblings, but love my younger brother to bits (we're all in our 30s)

[AllsortsofAwkward]

I got 2 bros who were older, I'm closet to the eldest, the other bullied me as a child. Hes an awful adult.

[AgeLikeWine]

I have two younger brothers. One is a good guy, with a lovely family. We get on well enough when we meet up, which is infrequently as we live in different parts of the country, but we are not close. We never did have much in common and as adults we are very different people with very different lives, interests, attitudes and values. I left my home town at 18 to go to university in the big city, and I never really went back. He never really left.

The third sibling has had no contact with his family for many years. He is an individual who has made some very bad choices in his life and is now learning the hard way that actions have consequences. Enough said.

[AmelieV88]

DS and I have lived on opposite sides of the world now for about 9 years. Well before that, I think I had some abandonment issues since she left for university and never really looked back. I’ve never spoken to her about that. We do get on, but we aren’t very close. Sometimes I wish I could see her whenever I wanted but in a lot of ways I think we’d have had many a fall out if we still lived in the same city or country. When we do speak, I try harder to be amicable than I would if she was always around because it’s not very often that we do, and if we fell out now I’d worry it would be a severing of ties. I’m quite glad we only see each other once every couple of years and only speak on WhatsApp every couple of months for that reason. She is very self involved, egotistical and used to be competitive with me, but she is still my sister and if I had the same experiences as her, maybe I’d have turned out the same way. I always really wanted a sister I was very close to and am envious of people that have a best friend relationship with their sibling. That’s the way it should be.

[cleanasawhistle]

One good,the other keep at arms length