To tell him to clean the fucking toilet?!

[BrutusMcDogface]

I’m so furious. Spent ages scrubbing the bathrooms yesterday. Today, dp has absolutely destroyed the toilet and left skid marks all over. When I’ve mentioned it to him before I get “that’s what toilets are for 🤷🏻‍♀️ “ I also get accused of nagging.

But ffs, how disrespectful can you get?!

@BackseatCookers yes its annoying that he doesn't clean the toilet but to be fair he does other things around the house including my cats litter tray and was the first one upstairs when ds was toilet training and needed help wiping, doubt he sees the truly disgusting jobs as being beneath hin. Think it's more thoughtlessness than being a dick in general. I could kick of and shout everytime but doubt that would work, i focus on ok, he's useless in that respect but overall he's pretty good. I know men who are useless overall and that isn't fun

There is no excuse for this in my world! It is discussing and demeaning to those around.
Not sure why bring it up now OP? After all you coped for 15 years.
This is thought in early childhood and obviously your MIL did not do a good job.
Perhaps ask your DH if you need to call his mum to catch up on those early years habits.

I think it’s thoughtlessness. Next time it happens I’m going to have a word, and in the meantime I’m going to buy a toilet brush for each toilet- we have a silicone one upstairs (eco egg one I think) so he’s not excused for making the mess as it was upstairs!! But I want to train all the kids as well so there’s no question and people should clean up their own crap.

His mum would be MORTIFIED if I told her!! I think I have enabled him, to be honest, not her. Well, it stops now.

Stop flushing the toilet. Seriously. Men, more often than not, stand facing the toilet to pee. Having a pee while staring down at someone else's crap is just plain disgusting. For some reason my kids go through phases of forgetting to flush so when I go in for a pee I have to flush before I can use it.

You start leaving bowls full of shit for him to pee on and he'll soon get the message.

About men and pee...
I retrained my DH and now teach my son that in your own house you need to sit for a wee.
That is how my mother taught my brother years ago.
When not at home, use your judgement but at home you have to sit and not sprinkle.
This is what comes natural to my men.
It might seem a bit unusual to some but plenty of men do it.

I think it’s hilarious that you have trained a grown man to sit down for a wee! My dp would laugh at me if I suggested it. My friend’s husband and son do, though!

IP, you’re really not in a position to laugh at a man being trained to sit to pee, considering what yours does. 🤢

I think it’s hilarious that you have trained a grown man to sit down for a wee! My dp would laugh at me if I suggested it. My friend’s husband and son do, though!

This is a bit rich considering the reason you started this thread OP!

He left skidmarks ALL OVER the toilet, expected you to clean it up as per usual and in fifteen years has never cleaned a toilet. He's let you do it every time.

It's gross, not hilarious, it's so demeaning.

It is hilarious to “train” a man to sit down for a wee, yes.

I’ve talked to dp about the incident now, and he’s apologised and said he doesn’t bother to check the loo, just flushes it. I’ve asked him to please check it’s decent before leaving the room and he seemed to take it on board, so let’s see!

So you’re now training your full grown man to clean up his own shit?

It is hilarious to “train” a man to sit down for a wee, yes

Missed the point there really.

I think it's absolutely gross and demeaning to have to "train" a grown man to clean up his own shit.

Good that he's said he'll try to check his shit. You said in your opening post you have mentioned before and he's said that's what toilets are for, let you continue to clean up after him and hasn't cleaned a loo in the entire 15 years you've been together.

So it's probably a good thing you got a laugh out of this thread one way or another!

You said "ffs how disrespectful can you get" when you started the thread then got on the defensive when people said just how disrespectful it is. But magically he's now seen the error of his ways.

Happy teaching

I suppose the OP is embarrassed reading about how disgusting posters find her husband’s behaviour, so mocking another poster makes her feel better. Way to lose support OP. 🤷🏻‍♀️

That is disgusting! If my 9&11 year old do this I call them back to clean it ! Vile , I couldn't live with someone who did that ! Xx

mrsBtheparker

I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you in this very difficult time.

OP: Is my husband being a disrespectful dick?

MN: Yes, he's such a disrespectful dick!

OP: Well he's not as bad as YOUR one!

The most annoying thing is they always make a mess, (not only of the toilet), when something has just been cleaned. Why!! Bloody infuriating.

Ok ok. Please back off. I apologise profusely for posting when I was having a bad day and then trying to lighten the mood (or something?! I don’t know). Anyway, thank you for all the responses.

I’m not saying my partner is any better than other man children who do this kind of thing, but one thing I’ve learnt is to take the rough with the smooth as I’m sure he does for me.

Though I don’t see it as “training“ as such; I’m not his fucking teacher.