Best CF Stories

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Lockdown sucks, what’s the best CF stories you’ve read?

Daisyhut
I don’t do jealousy. I’m pretty secure in my life and achievements. Me and DH work hard for what we have and don’t resent or envy anyone. Multiple times this CF has asked favours, don’t expect it in return because DH is nice and happy to do a good deed. However, this man is perfectly happy to take advantage of DH good nature by saying ‘we’re family’. Been on holiday and loaned him £500 he still hasn’t paid back. Had his daughter stay with us for 2 weeks for uni. BiL asked the same for his daughter in CF city and he said no. Eventually ML intervened and he wanted to charge the poor girl rent for 10 days! Mutual uncle party and son gives DH and CF 24 cans beer to store in their fridges and bring with them. 24 cans DH brings and CF says sorry forgot mine! DH races out to buy a another 24, as host would be really put out. CF of course forgot his wallet.

@blablabla25 your MIL sounds like my Mother, who did the same to me. She bought an exact copy of my unusual engagement ring. Very, VERY odd. She's not spoken to me for 5 years now. It's been wonderful, actually!

I think it is always that seeming small thing - the straw to break the camel's back- that others cant see that finally tips the balance! Henrietta, sounds like it has been one thing after another for a long time, and when he saw DH had got a lovely car, somehow wanted to ask a favour using it, that his family could have done.
All that others see is "well I only asked him to take a few bottles/drop me here/split a bill after a lovely time" but it is rarely just that is it. Totally get it

Another story which pops into mind is my dad's side of the family. Whenever there was a get together, birthday etc, we would do the 75 min journey to their house to celebrate. His brother and sister only live 15 mins away from each other, and we are the only ones who live far away. It was always my dad's job to pick up nan from her house, drop someone else off home because they had been drinking, making the 75 min journey home sometimes close to two hours after all his taxi rides around.

The worst part is that whenever he would come to their house they always needed help with something - putting up curtains, fixing a table, hanging a photo. My dad being a sweet person is always happy to help, but mum clocked very quickly that every time we went over there were at least 2 jobs for him to so. Sometimes the jobs were so time consuming, he would be missing the party! Then drive everyone else home and go home!

Mum said you have another brother, and two grown up nephews, why do they only ask you?!

So one day he said no, and they were so shocked by it, they never asked him again!

Henrietta... are you sure you were not the CFs in this occasion? Given he asked a favour after you enjoy what you describe as possibly a lavish party paid by the person you are calling a CF.

He may have not paid enough for the corkage, but you didn’t complain about drinking that wine?

TheMotherofAllDilemmas

Pretty sure we are not CF’s as we take into consideration the people around us including on many occasions CF’s which has never been reciprocated.

Party wasn’t lavish by any means, standard fare that any of us would put on, compliments to a nice do we said to the couple.

If you cant afford a party and all the bits that go with it - don’t put it on! FYI I was pregnant and DH and a shandy to drive us back.

As for the favour - all his nephews, brothers and father were all there with their cars, why ask DH? Because they’d tell him to FRO at his cheek.

Why are a couple of posters being rude to Henrietta?
I am sure she knows the history and the circumstances better than you or I.
Her experience is exactly that, hers so you don't get to judge.

I don't think posters are being rude to @Henrietta75 , I think her BIL sounds generally unpleasant, but the incident she recounted isn't a CF scenario.

People sitting in train seats really bugs me.
Last year I had a 5 hour train journey to make with my 7 year old dgs.
I decided it would be a treat and less stressful to travel first class. I booked a table seat for two so that we would not disturb other travellers. Boarded the train and a couple about mid 60’s were sat in our seats. I pointed out they were in our seats and the man said ‘ well you can have our seats opposite.’ ( table for four with one person already sat there). I said no thanks, I specifically booked these seats so my dgs won’t disturb anyone.
They moved, but reluctantly. They really thought I would just swap so they could sit on their own.

I’d say compared to the Mexican house and gooseberry it’s relatively tame.
In the context of putting up with the CF ways for many years it’s typical.

One day a mutual cousin invited us to his daughters wedding. It was very expensive and the aunt hinted to everyone in a diplomatic fashion that even though the invite says ‘and family’ keep it to couples please and no kids and contacted everyone to that effect.

Hey ho day comes, the host mills around saying hello to everyone when a waiter whispers that a family have arrived and there are no more tables, it’s all allocated seating. CF had brought his parents, 4 kids, brother, his girlfriend their, 2 step kids. I assumed they must be closer to the bride in relationship. Later the Aunt is fuming because several of her family had to squash round and she kept jabbering nobody invited the extras. Perhaps they didn’t get the message.

Surely they shouldn't have put and family on the invitation. I'd be pretty if my family was first invited and then uninvited. Perhaps he was trying to make a point.

My CF Uncle charged everyone in the extended family of 15+ people $25 per head for Christmas lunch, including his widowed mother who also paid for the $100 ham.
My kids, aged 4 and 6 also charged $25 each plus each guest had items they needed to bring to share, such as soft drinks for everyone, antipasto platters and BYO alcohol.
Out came this stingy lunch, one slice of ham per person. One chicken. Three salads.
Naturally his step sons didn't have to pay but his own sons did.
We ate, swam in the pool (hot Australian summer), did the dishes and left.
Next year we hosted Christmas. Uncle and wife were asked to bring a trifle for desert. They took most of it home along with a plate of leftover cut ham because 'my mother always buys the ham so I can take it home for my evening meal.'
Two years later they hosted again. Asked for $25 per person. I was a single parent by then getting financially shafted by my XH and they still wanted money.
I paid, left and never spent a Christmas with them again.

See I think it's super CF to put "and family " when you only mean "plus one".

@Colbinabbin They must have earned a fortune! You could have hired an airbnb for less since all they did was provide a place for you all to put your food!

@Henrietta75 sorry, I know he's annoying, but again, I don't think that was CF. The CF was whoever put 'and family' on the invite with no intention of hosting the family! You say she 'hinted'-maybe he didn't understand. I'd find that confusing too

@KindnessCrusader who made you the judge? I think that was incredibly CF behaviour!

I started seeing a guy and during the course of our relationship he (unbeknown to me) got back in touch with his ex and was essentially seeing and sleeping with us both.

Unfortunately for him me and his ex have a very distant mutual friend who put us in touch with each other and obviously we found out what he'd been up to.

When confronted he was absolutely aghast with us for being 'fucking sneaky' for discussing him with one another. He genuinely couldn't see that he had done any wrong and accused us of ruining his life. It would have been funny if he hadn't been so serious!

@Lochroy no one, I'm just observing that if the invite said 'and family' I can totally understand why he came along with his family!

For those who had their train seat nicked here is karma you might enjoy:

I was on a train that was heading from London to Liverpool and, as it was a Friday evening service, there were reservation slips on most of the seats. My friend and I were settling into our seats and a guy came up to the seat opposite. He took the slip out of the seat, tore it in two and chucked it on the floor. Unfortunately, the man whose seat it was was standing on the platform outside the widow. He got on and challenged the person who had taken his seat, who smirked smugly and said "no I didn't, prove it."

The man whose seat it was took out his warrant card and said "move or I'll nick you."

I did enjoy watching him schlep off down the carriage dragging his bag and coat.

I was friendly with a couple of friends.
Their friendship is definatley one sided.
A the CF had a very hard time and B did all sorts to support her over the years.
B then had an accident and couldnt drive for 4 weeks,so because she lived near A she asked for occasional lifts.
A slagged B off to me saying how cheeky B was expecting lifts.

Another time A had gone into hospital.
Her house is disgusting,never cleans up....totally up to her if she wants to live like that...
B had A's daughter staying at her house.
B had a key to A's house so she could go around for the childs clothes etc.
Whilst there B had washed some pots and cleaned the sink
When A came out of hospital there was no thanks for looking after the daughter...B was screamed at....what have you used to clean my sink,I am particular in what I use.

I said to B I wouldnt have been able to hold my tongue and say you have never cleaned your sink or anything else in this house.

@TheSecondMrsAshwell
That is too funny. I love the fact that he threatened to arrest him. I wonder if it made him think twice before he pulled that stunt again.

I have a holiday one.
A friend called Beryl (not her real name) had a series of set-backs. Both me and DP ended giving her loads of emotional and practical support including loaning her just over £2K for legal bills etc. This was done on the basis she would pay us back when she was back on her feet.
She got together with a new man and they decided to go into business running a slightly dilapidated country house as a catered holiday home.
Each year we did a week’s self-catered extended family holiday (8 of us in total). Beryl suggested that we go to their house in exchange for writing off the cash on the basis that we would do it as a self-catered holiday and share the cooking with the friends. We agreed as it was a way of drawing a line under the debt (we could have gone somewhere in the same location for less).
About a month beforehand she told us that her DP had invited his daughter and her family that week (we had never met them but been told relations between daughter and Beryl were strained). Then the week before she invited another friend (who I knew only slightly). At this point alarm bells were starting to ring.
On the day of arrival we sent texts saying what time we were going to get there. On arrival Beryl was nowhere to be seen. She had gone shopping for supplies and decided to have a boozy lunch with mutual friend. They arrived about 3 hours after us (there was no food in the house and no shops/takeaways nearby) so the kids were starving by this point.
It all went downhill from there. Basically Beryl had a reputation for being lazy and had decided that she was going to have a week off and did nothing in terms of cooking or clearing up.
When we finally divvied up the bill for the week it became clear she had purchased large multi-packs and stuff that was going to keep her in food (and booze) for a good couple of months at least. We were thoroughly pissed off by that stage and didn’t want to have an argument in front of the kids so paid up. After that we broke off contact.
When we moved house a few years later I had to contact her as she had stored some boxes of her stuff in our loft. I received a snooty reply telling me I could sell it on Ebay and donate the proceeds to a charity of my choice (which I had no intention of doing). The stuff she had made such a fuss about keeping safe was loads of junk that she obviously just couldn’t be bothered to take to the dump herself including two black bin bags of women’s underwear. I'll never forget the look on DP's face when he opened those.

Can we not do the "that's not a CF, you're a CF" on here please. It really spoils the thread!

I agree with @Noshowlomo

My contribution to the thread is about an acquaintance who I share mutual friends with. Many of those friends don’t have a lot of money - one is a single parent who receives no money from her ex for example. Whereas this acquaintance doesn’t have children or loads of expensive expenses (very much a homebody and admits to being frugal) so she’s better off than many people in the group.

Often we’ll go out for a meal somewhere cheap and most of us will chip in to get a few dishes we can share. She very rarely chips in unless someone specifically asks her for the money. But she’ll always eat more than her fair share. She also always makes a point of only buying herself drinks - never pays for a round, but happy to accept when it’s someone else’s.

The worst story that pops into my head right now is the time a few of my friends (including the aforementioned single mum with her children) were out with her. They’d been shopping and stopped for a bite to eat, paying for the meals separately. The kids food was served first, and as my friends DC were eating, the CF started taking the as of yet uneaten chips off their plate! Apparently she was hungry and her food hadn’t been served yet. But there’s no way she would have given her chips away even though she’d eaten someone else’s. I wasn’t there but I believe my friend did have a word and ask her not to eat her children’s food. I just can’t believe the cheekiness of feeling it was alright to take a child’s dinner, because yours was a little slower coming out the kitchen.

Why didnt you call the police, dadshere?