To ask what age you started feeling ‘adulty’?

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Because I’m 27 and I still don’t! I feel like I’m pretending and on the inside I’m still that insecure teenager worrying whether or not people like me. I have a job, a mortgage, bills etc.

I watch my friends having kids and am often broody myself but then I think oh my god that’s something ADULTS do, I’m not an adult yet!

Where am I going wrong? When did you all start feeling like a proper adult?

‘Adulty’ or Adultery?

If the former then about 16, if the latter then about 78.

39. But only sometimes.

The first time I hung my baby's clothes on the washing line to dry in the sun. I felt so grown up!

27 when i finally escaped from a difficult home life and got married,

About 30

I'm 62 and still haven't hit it!

Im 51 and still struggle 😂

I'm 41 and still call my mother when in a bind

I’m 42, I feel like an adult and have done for about 5 years. Doesn’t mean you don’t have insecurities though

Mid 59s and I'm still not sure I feel adulty all the time.

Sometimes I'm spouting something profound in a meeting at work and I get this feeling that people will see right through this kid from Wales.

Never

Haha I’m 31 - still feel like I’m not an actual adult yet! Hahah

We are trying for a baby and saving for a house and everyday I feel like I’m so grown up and that I feel very young to be doing all these grown up things lol 😂

I’m 50 married with 5 kids. Still don’t feel like a proper grownup 😭😭

Most of us are faking it, OP! I didn't really feel like an adult until I was in my 30's with children, but I still do daft things sometimes...now I'm mid-40's I can blame it on a mid-life crisis!

The one "adulty" behaviour that I expect from mid-20's onwards is a decreasing reliance on your parents and an increase in helping them out. I know some ppl who still rely heavily on their now-elderly (70's-80's) parents and I (secretly) think it's wrong to ask that of elderly ppl. I don't mean never asking for help, I mean constantly asking for it.

Currently 47, not got there yet. My mum (76) said she briefly felt grown up when she realised she was the oldest generation in the family, but then had some kind of mishap (I forget what) so it didn't last.

About 28

I'm 26 and feel the same about the marriage/kids thing. When people ask if I have kids in conversation I have to hide how horrified I am and stop myself from saying "you do know I'm only 26" as though it's impossible to be a mum!

It wasn't at15 when I gave birth to dd1.

I can still remember all these years later my mum returning to work 3 weeks after she was born and I was left alone with her for the first time.

I felt a grown-up when we moved into our own house when I was 18, dd was 3.

29, had very premature twins and aged twenty years overnight. Definitely an very adulty adult ever since

No idea, both my kids are now adults and I still think I'm a kid and someone will look for the adult in the room when shit goes wrong

When I turned 40 and my dad phoned me to ask for advice. Felt all grown up😂

I'm 37, single mum with a full time job and a mortgage and I don't feel adulty!

I had a moment when I was 31, was cooking something on the stove, barefoot and about 7 months pregnant that I must really be a grown up now

Why it hit me then when I was a qualified midwife and had been for years, was over a decade into paying a mortgage, was married and already had 3 other children I have no idea

I still have moments of not feeling like a proper grown up, despite having two adultish children (adultish as in they are legally adults)

19.. living independently.

34, house, businesses of my own, two relationships and years of proper jobs behind me - still don't feel remotely adult. And don't ever intend to, really.