Reached a new low tonight

[ShambalaHambala]

Single mum to 18 month old. Haven't seen my mum in 2 months. She loves round the corner. Trying to work from home and look after my son. He's teething and I'm just desperate for a break. He's going through a sleep regression and has gone from waking once a night to waking every 1-2 hours. I'm already on medication for anxiety and it's just getting worse. I'm exhausted. I need a hug, or an uninterrupted bath, or just to be able to eat without the fear in the back of my head that my son will wake up as soon as I pick up my fork. Boris' speech made me almost cry with frustration. AIBU to just be totatlly falling apart and terrified that I won't be able to see my mum for weeks and weeks? How can I distract myself? I can feel myself falling apart.

Can you not move in with your mum or her with you?

Are you wanting the go-ahead from us to say take your ds to your mum's?

I don't think that's allowed!!

No @spied I am not. I would have done that a long time ago if I wanted to and don't plan on it until it's allowed. My mum only has a one bed so can't move in with her.

It’s awful isn’t it. I’m a single mum to 4 and I don’t think people realise how awful this is for single parents who are on there own in all this. No break at all, it’s extremely hard.

I think (and I may get short down in flames) that you would be totally justified in asking your Mum to move in or you move in with her for the remainder of lockdown.

I've been really struggling with my mental health recently because of lockdown and I don't have a toddler to look after. If you've both been isolating and have no symptoms, I really would consider it. Apologies if this is incorrect advice but it sounds as though you're really struggling too.

We talked about it but we both love in small houses and just don't have the room. It's so so hard. I get about 3 hours a day to work, clean, cook, ear, bathe etc.

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If you can all completely isolate for 7 days, you could move her in.

Just call her and her her to come over. From Wednesday you'd be allowed to go and sunbathe in the park with her but she can't come to help you- how stupid is that? Think of it as she's caring for someone vulnerable - because it sounds like youre extremely vulnerable. Please - it sounds like you're on the edge and you can't carry on like this.

I'd love to but my place is too small.

I don't think I can go to the park with her? Fairly sure Boris said that you can only do with members of your household. Though happy to be corrected if I'm wrong.

Seriously, what is the increased risk of a person living in a single residence household solely mixing with another person living in a single person residence?

I will probably be shot down. But I think if you need help then ask your mum to help. Be extra careful with washing your hands and watch what you touch, then if either of you start to feel unwell stop contact for two weeks and isolate. If your mum is happy to help support, I think take her up on it. Make sure she is being cautious too.

You have done a good stint on your own, your mental health and well being is also important. Can you get an online food shop so you further limiting any social contact you have to protect you both.

Best of luck, life with a baby is challenging at the best of times.

The guardian says “ Unlimited exercise, some sports and meeting one other person outdoors to be allowed from Wednesday”

Yes but 2m apart and outdoors. Very different from being in a house with someone else.

If you are that miserable just meet her for a socially distanced chat at the end of the drive or walk. You don't have to sit at home going stir crazy you know?

Are either of you in the vulnerable category and/or in contact with others? If the answer is no, then I’d put your mental health first

you are risking getting sicker... that is reason enough to have help for a vulnerable person.

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I don't think meeting at the park to sunbathe with someone you don't live with will be 'permitted'. (There was something in the papers in the morning, but at the briefing he was very clear it was ONLY with people in your household) Yet another fuck up in communication.

@ShambalaHambala If you genuinely feel like your MH is being pushed over the edge (rather than just fed up/tired of doing it all - then your Mum is allowed to help you.

It's a risk you both need to assess though.

Take care - hope the little sausage sleeps better tonight! 🌷

If neither of you are vulnerable and you've followed all other social distancing rules then I'd allow her around or see if you can drop your don to her for a few hours.

This BBC article says two people can meet on the park as long as they stay 2m apart.
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-51506729
For the benefit of this situation, I’d interpret an adult and an adult with a child in a buggy (ie confined) as two people. It doesn’t seem to be confirmed as yet but the BBC are very cautious about their reporting usually.

Article is from the evening.

If your mum sees nobody else, and you see nobody else, why can't your mum come round to help? Regard yourselves as a household. I know that's a creative interpretation of the rules, but your well-being is important too. If you feel you can't do that, then have a socially distanced meet up in the park. If we can do it in the street for ve day, why can't you do it with your mum? And if you do, don't come here and tell us about it, you'll never hear the end of it. But if you're sensible, there's no harm.

Mental health is important too. I'd go and see your mum and let her childmind. Lots of people are going to have to start using childcare is boris wants people tonphysiclly go back to work

I hear you. I’m a single parent of 3 and really struggling