Be honest.. how many of you have seen family during lockdown?

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Family from other households... and why? No judgment here!

Thank you to those who have replied to my message and been supportive of my decision, it has eased my anxiety a little and made me feel like less of a crap mum.

No, as everyone live far away.

My brother, sil and lovely nephew came to ours yesterday but didn't come in, we socialised between the yard and street, no physical contact at all. Which was hard as I wanted to cuddle them all so so much but god, it was good to see them. My nephew is the loveliest little boy :)

Yes been to see my parents in their garden at least once a week and vice verss

No.not seen family. My daughter and her family live a hundred miles away. But my adult son lives in the same village as me. He is paralised from the chest down,and obviously a wheelchair user. He does have a lodger, and two dogs, and cars, etc. He can work from home, and does online food shop. He told me not to visit,because any kind of virus, that could affect the lungs,would be quite horrible for him,because the paralysis means that violent coughing etc is a difficult situation to contend with.

Yes, it was DH's birthday a few days ago and it's DS's birthday next week. A few family members have been and done kerbside drops with gifts and stayed to chat for a few mins at the end of the drive.

Deliveries of food and money to pay for milk to nearly 90 yr old parent. Collecting letter to post on Some conversation from at least 4 metres away me out side, them in the house. Normally parent has help with cleaning and laundry once a week so I'm trying to keep an eye on how they are coping without looking into the house. Have had to go in and mop floor once, whilst they sit on chair in the middle of the back lawn. I am keeping a dress in the front porch, so when I had to go in, arrive freshly showered, remove all clothes but bra and knickers and put on dress in porch (in view of the road - luckily quiet road) gloves, home made mask, go in, mop. leave mop and empty bucket not to be touched until next visit, then retreat to porch, take off dress, not to be touched until next visit dress and depart. Will have to do this again next week.

Technically no. I did see my son on Mothers’ Day though.

No not at all and it's very hard. However, my neighbour has started seeing her family again over the last couple of weeks but is still out clapping for the NHS

Yes have seen my mother

Yes.

I order my 87 year old grans shopping with mine online and deliver it once a week, leave it at her front door then go to the window to speak to her through the phone. I've took my 2 year old with me once to let her see her great gran.

My parents live on the next street and are both still working. My mum has dropped shopping to us once and yesterday sat at the other side of my garden as I needed a bit of mental support. 37 weeks pregnant and terrified of giving birth during this.

Yes, we walk to my parents once a week to sit in their garden whilst they talk to us out of the window.

I don't feel guilty at all. We started doing it after I realised that every time I went for a walk, I'd chat with people who were in their gardens, so why not just walk to mum's? It's an hour each way so is great exercise too.

No, have had video calls with my best friend and my parents, and texted with my DB and DSIL, but other than work and the supermarket queue I’ve not seen anyone in person

Seen parents from a distance only because we're shielding and they've dropped shopping off at the door, they stand 2 plus metres away and chat for 5 minutes maximum.

Yes, my son went to stay with ILs while I was giving birth. I didn’t see them, but my husband did

My only living relative is my reclusive, bipolar brother who lives 165 miles away, so no. DP's family are close though, and he hasn't seen and he hasn't seen any of them, neither has his brother.

His sisters have been getting their mother's shopping, as they are closest. I don't even think they've been popping in.

OP I would do what you have done if my parents were closer and ILs happy to (they aren’t)

OP please don’t feel guilty/anxious - sounds like you’ve maintained social distancing even when seeing your family and that you did what was needed for your mental health at w time when you needed the support.

DH and I have seen the in laws and had a chat at a distance when we’ve dropped shopping off to them (not both of us together - one or the other, mostly DH to be honest as I’m in a vulnerable though not shielded group and also pregnant). He’s also had to go into his 93 year old grandmothers to provide care and to then drive his mum to the grandmothers house as it was becoming clear grandmother wasn’t coping well so the mum moved in with her - DH now goes to deliver shopping and collect washing which I do (no machine there) - all done with social distancing but he has a chat whilst he stands over 2m away and they come to the door or window.

I’ve seen my sister for a brief chat when I had to go to the midwife as sister works at the health centre. She took her 5 min break and we stood over 2m apart and had a quick chat face to face (we phone most days anyway). I’m there again next week and we’ll do the same again and I’m really looking forward to it.

My other sister lives almost opposite the health centre. I considered having a chat with her and my nieces from the end of her drive on the way home last time but didn’t do it as didn’t want to break any rules. This time, after a really bad few days mental health wise and some pretty crap stuff happening within the family getting us all down, I’m going to bloody do it and I don’t feel a tiny bit guilty either. And then as I’ll need to get petrol on the drive home I’m also going to get a hot chocolate from the machine and maybe a pastry and I’m really feeling like I have an exciting day out planned and it’s pretty much getting me through, tragic as that sounds!

I'm shielding. A family member dropped some shopping on my doorstep as he drove past anyway on his way to collect a prescription after an online consultation.

I spoke to him from an upstairs window for 5 min.

But delivering shopping to a shielding person is allowed so don't think we did anything wrong there and he was literally on another trip anyway that goes past where I stay.

Yes. One relative has cycled to my house to see us in the garden a couple of times and I have visited my parent to deliver shopping each week and stay for a chat in the garden.

I live with my 2 dc can't get away from one another 😂😂

On MN we are all supposed to hate our relatives so nope have not seen any of mine. Is quite a relief really.

Yes, over the fence. They live next door

@IvinghoeBeacon Ahh how wonderful you had your baby! Congratulations

My mum lives 6 houses away we are both vulnerable so isolating and we share a shopping slot instead of taking up 2 slots so she just sends me her list and i drop the shopping to her house but only to her door. I am used to seeing her twice a day so i am missing her terrible. I haven't seen any other members of family and have only seen my mum through glass