Be honest.. how many of you have seen family during lockdown?

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Family from other households... and why? No judgment here!

I will 'fess up to taking shopping to an unrelated elderly lady (94 ) once a week, a family friend but everyone else of that age group has died . Not only do I put her shopping away (she's in a wheelchair, and finds it tricky to do too much) , but I go and empty her bins from upstairs & downstairs (she's semi continent) and hoover upstairs, and clean the loo, her commode and anything else needs cleaning, but I also change her bed, do her washing, hang it to dry, and put it away (washing is first job I do before going shopping). I do all this while she is shut in the front room. I carefully wipe everything over I have touched /could have breathed upon with disinfectant. Then I help her outside (she is very unstable and afraid of a fall) if the weather is nice to sit out in the sun for 20 minutes with a cup of tea - I figure the vit D benefit outweighs the risk of infection, while I hoover her front room. I wear gloves for the cleaning bit.
Finally I help her back indoors and go. I've refused to do her hair (mobile hairdresser used to come fortnightly) as I think I'd spend too long in close contact (I'm not good with hair), and she says she has so far managed to wash herself adequately (carer used to help with that)

She would normally have a cleaner once a week and a home help twice a week that she pays for, but they both cancelled before lockdown. I cannot see what else she/we can do as she has no family able to help, and she certainly cannot manage to do it herself as she can't take the bins downstairs and out for example. I'm careful, and we know the risks, but if I didn't do it all who would? And she'd hate being in a home which I am sure is far worse.

No. They live a couple of hundred miles away and due to one thing or another we haven't seen them since Christmas and probably won't see them this year as they are shielding.

It staggers me that anyone who has been out of the house at all and been prepared to take the risk of being around other people, be it on a daily walk or trip to the shops wouldn't have stood at the end of the garden path and talked to their parents.

If it's safe enough to be two meters away from a stranger in the street it is safe enough to be two metres away from a loved one in the garden.

Unfortunately I don't have the option to visit my mother, but if I did you can be damn sure I would take it (at a distance, outside and briefly).

No they're too far away but if they were closer I certainly would have taken the kids to see them with them in their garden and us standing outside.

Nope

@milkysmum. Same here. Me and dh are both nurses in understaffed and overstretched areas (pre covid but now it's worse) we send the kids to my parents when our shifts collide.
No choice. No other childcare options for 4dc aged 1- 15, no way to alter shifts, no choice to not work.
It's a risk, but it's just the way it is.

I've seen my Mum.

We work together in an environment where it's impossible to practice social distancing so I had a cup of tea across her 10ft garden table last week as she was struggling mentally.

Not ideal and I usually only see her at work but felt like she needed a bit of "normality. Mental health is important too.

Nope not at all

My parents live near me, I see them once a week when I drop off shopping. I stand on their drive and adhere to social distance. I feel lucky to be able to physically see them.

I saw my daughter x2 from the car as I dropped off food shopping at her door. I did a large Costco shop and took route home past her house. Shopping was also for neighbours. My shop every 2-3 weeks mean people are making less trips to the supermarkets. Daughter was also unwell.
Partner has made trip x1 to his mum's. Her carers have all been stopped. Shopping & medication are being dealt with but her bed hadn't been changed for weeks. There were also problems with her mobile which meant she was becoming more isolated. We/he had no contact with anyone for 7 days before he went through. His mum has serious health issues.

Nope.
My parents live about 5 miles away. I had contemplated cycling there to say hello but decided it was against the rules so decided not to.

My siblings live even further away.

No

You can travel and gather in a public place to provide care and assistance to vulnerable people (includes over 70s) where reasonably necessary so if you're doing that it's not a breach

Doesn't talk about gathering in a private place however so you could travel to your parents house if over 70 to provide care and assistance and nothing to stop you gathering in the house

Beyond once through a window, nope. Hell no. Everyone can wait