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How many of you have broken lockdown rules?

465 replies

vulvic · 09/05/2020 17:27

I'm just wondering. I thought the vast majority had stuck to it but seeing more threads and hearing more stories, it seems there is a lot of people still seeing close family.

Anyway, I'm in the Channel Isles. Still in lockdown but slightly easing.

I'm not interested in shopping, garden centres or more exercise. I'm not even interested in socialising or catching up with friends.
I just want to see my mum.

I think it's badly affecting her mental health now as she was depressive anyway, and my DS is struggling having not seen her for 2 months.

So, I'm just wondering, have any of you still been seeing close family? Or were you sticking to it and now given up and started visiting? Or are you encouraging to stick firmly to it for as long as possible?

I've been a firm sticker to the rules but now starting to feel the negatives are outweighing the positives but still completely paranoid.

OP posts:
TokyoSushi · 09/05/2020 22:12

We've done pretty well. Not seen any family or had anybody here/been to anybodys house. I have had a few local friends drop things off and stay for a quick chat standing in the front garden, and we went to the street party yesterday. We live in a tiny cul-de-sac though with 4 houses avd we did all stay in our own front gardens.

Cazza6474 · 09/05/2020 22:14

Nan is 95 and has just me she lives in a sheltered housing kind of place once a week i put on full PPE and clean her bathroom kitchen etc bleach floors do shopping and put some home made meals in fridge
Also sat in the hallway talking to a few of the other people who have no one

Tangledyarn · 09/05/2020 22:15

@Boomclaps It sounds like you did just what you needed to and I hope you start to feel a bit better soon Flowers

Hoggleludo · 09/05/2020 22:15

@glitterwobbles

Hugs xxxxxx

HeimdallSaysNo · 09/05/2020 22:20

I've stayed away from my parents and my brothers family. I have taken the bus to the supermarket when I could have walked. I went to my parents in law's house on the bus with some shopping for them, they made me a sandwich which I ate in the garden and they stayed inside the house. My PiL have driven to our place to drop off shopping (they found flour!) they stayed in the car and handed it to us through the car window. I have been to Sainsbury's Local in search of beer. I should know better, I am a transport worker on the frontline. This is the end of my confession.

glitterwobbles · 09/05/2020 22:28

Merryoldgoat. lots of hugs so sorry for your loss. Glad you got to say goodbye.
Hoggleludo thanks hugs back take care

Merrymumoftwo · 09/05/2020 22:30

I am a key worker (emergency services) i will be technically be breaking the rules from Monday as my daughter will be going back to school. Partner is SAHD so she could stay home. However on speaking weekly with her headteacher who is also the SENCO, she and seven other children are returning and they will be going to their centre rather than a hub that they run. We were prepared to keep her off longer even though it has had a significantly negative effect on her. However the headteacher pointed out she is considered vulnerable and as she has an EHCP is entitled to be in school. Especially as partner has several medical conditions.

NerdImmunity · 09/05/2020 22:31

I did last week. My parents live on a farm and when I was cycling with my youngest we dropped off some shopping instead of yelling across their driveway area I went to the back garden/field and we chatted for about 45mins. Didn't get closer than about 4meters but youngest DS had a run around the field and loved the freedom!

VerticalHorizon · 09/05/2020 22:32

@NerdImmunity love the name!

Tiredtiredtired100 · 09/05/2020 22:33

I’ve stuck to it, but I’m currently self isolating completely for 14 days despite no symptoms and then going to be merging households by moving back in with my parents just so that they can see their grandchild. By that point I will have had 8 weeks as a lone parent and for my sanity and the benefit of my DS its best if I move in with them for a bit. My toddler is completely bereft at not seeing his grandparents (he’s a toddler and doesn’t understand) and has become very afraid of people where he was previously extremely confident and outgoing. It breaks my hear that he clings to me every time we are out on a walk and see people, do lockdown rules or not I’m going to see them and let him be cuddled and kissed and spoken to by someone other than me.

Winnipegdreamer · 09/05/2020 22:37

I’ve stuck to them. Mostly as I’m not the type who thinks things don’t apply to me Grin

TheGreatWave · 09/05/2020 22:40

Hoggle Flowers

CaptainButtock · 09/05/2020 22:42

There's a pub near us that has stuck a catering van in the car park. Burgers, nuggets, falafel...you know the kind of thing.
Whilst you are 'waiting for your food' you may sit in the pub garden and enjoy the ice cold beer you purchased at the same time.

Does this count?

CaptainButtock · 09/05/2020 22:45

#saved my fuckin sanity

Megatron · 09/05/2020 22:46

Just feels like some people are trying harder than others

@glitterwobbles you're so right, they really are. My sister is a doctor and rang me when she got home after her shift last night. Absolutely shattered and so pissed off that the neighbours who wave and clap for her every Thursday night were all sitting in the one garden getting hammered and on the karaoke. Message me this morning to say that they were still out there at 3am so she hardly got any sleep before getting up to do another shift. She doesn't want people to clap, she just wants them not to be fucking morons.

RonSwansonIsBuff · 09/05/2020 22:49

Your vertually all a bunch of thick selfish wankers

Oh the irony.

BananaBabies · 09/05/2020 22:50

tiredtiredtired we are considering very similar ie moving in with parents (or them moving in with us) for the next phase. We are both classed as key workers, although can currently both work from home so not that* key, but our work schedules are now incompatible with childcare. Given key worker status we should be able to send our kid to nursery but it's shut even for key worker kids. I'm struggling with the rights and wrongs of it. I mean, I'm confident that it doesn't put people at more risk (will halve the number of trips to supermarket required between 5 people, for example, and none of us have seen anyone til now and noone's sick). But it's prob against the spirit if not the letter. And I'm nervous about what the neighbours will think. I'm really hoping what the PM says tomorrow will enable us to make this one move without fearing the police will chase us down! but it doesn't sound promising at the moment...

Menora · 09/05/2020 22:55

Some people are trying harder than others
And are accused of being goody 2 shoes for doing so basically! And judgemental Hmm

I don’t think it’s ok to bandy about the word sanity like it’s something you can easily lose along with a load of first world problems.

Some people really do face terrible challenges in life (sorry to hear the poster in hospital right now I hope you are ok) and truly do struggle to manage
I find it tasteless and crass for everyone to be competing about who is less resilient than each other, and therefore the rules need to be broken or adapted

MrsKingfisher · 09/05/2020 22:56

I have, my best friends mum died she is absolutely devastated so I hugged her, I couldn't stand 2m away watch her breakdown and do nothing.

indemMUND · 09/05/2020 22:58

Not even once. I locked down over a week before it was made official and have exercised outdoors twice since, no close contact with anyone. Two shopping trips, weeks apart. Online shopping deliveries. Taken no risks at all. Happy to stay this way for as long as it takes.

VaggieMight · 09/05/2020 23:12

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glitterwobbles · 09/05/2020 23:13

@ megatron hope you're sister made it through her day. I agree with her about the clapping. Stop clapping and partying and stay at home. Do something useful to show your appreciation like be polite to the shop assistants, buy some PPE for a care home or make this shattered nurse a brew.

mortforya · 09/05/2020 23:26

Yes of course I have. I regard mental health as important as physical health. Why on earth would i put one so far ahead of the other. My family come first over any government policy. We meet our parents once a week in their back garden, we stay 2 meters plus apart. So we are being totally safe. We don't enter their house and use the back entrance. So why would I leave my parents suffering with loneliness. There is absolutely no one here who can give one valid reason why I shouldn't do that. And by reason, an actual scientific fact and not just the stupid herd, sheep mentality that "the government told us too" I'm proud to follow my own safe rules and to look after my parents in the elderly years

returnofthemollymawks · 09/05/2020 23:26

No. I have only left the house to go to work since March 22nd.

PurpleFlower1983 · 09/05/2020 23:29

I have been in my gran’s house, she’s 88 and I do her shopping for her, she struggles to put it away as it tires her out, I still do that for her.

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