To wonder how something this big can disappear?

[LakieLady]

A few weeks ago, DP cleared out the cupboard where all the pots and pans live, gave it a thorough clean and put everything back. Well, almost everything.

I have (had?) a large stainless steel carving plate, the sort with spikes to hold a joint of meat and a recess for the meat juices to drain into. It'll take a big sized turkey or whole gammon, so it's pretty big. It has lived in the pots and pans cupboard for 20 years.

I roasted a chicken last night and because I'm crap at carving I always use the spikey plate. It wasn't home. I asked DP where he'd put it. He intially denied ever having seen it, then started looking in other places in the kitchen, including on the tops of the wall cupboards. It is nowhere to be seen.

It's not in any of the drawers or cupboards. It's not even in the Cupboard of Doom where all sorts of mysterious stuff gets shoved when we have to have a panic clear up because someone's invited themselves round at short notice. He couldn't possibly have thrown it away, unless he did it in his sleep, because he knows I use it.

How the fuck can something approx 20" x 14" and 2" deep possibly disappear?

I'm unfeasibly attached to it too, I bought it just before I cooked my first Christmas dinner in 1975, so it's practically an antique, and much heavier gauge steel than modern ones.

If and when it eventually turns up, WIBU to ram it up DP's arse, spikes and all?

Checking the oven or behind the oven warming drawer.

I store things in my drawer, I had to remove it to get at my large baking sheet which had fallen behind. My smaller baking sheet has completely disappeared. I live alone, never have guests who could have taken it, (because my place is too small, 437 square foot studio). There is no other place it could be!

I've got one of those spiky steel plate thingys. When mine goes missing it usually turns up on top of the cooker extractor hood, which has a flat steel bit surrounding the grille bit. So not only is it just out of sight, above my eye-line, but it's also perfectly camouflaged. DH puts it there out of the way while we're tidying up...and then forgets about it.

I can forgive that, but I'm still annoyed about the time he "helpfully" put away a pack of spare lightbulbs which I had already put away on the shelf in the utility room where we have always kept spare lightbulbs. He decided they needed to be in the garage, in a box, on a high shelf that I can't reach, with a snow shovel on top of it. Because that's the obvious place to keep them, and easy to find when the lightbulb has gone ping and you're fumbling around in the dark. Pillock.

@oysterbabe I very nearly had a similar situation with DH clearing out and deciding to bin a box of my "crap" er yes that will be my professional materials that I don't need right now but are very valuable indeed!! I just spotted the edge of the box in time before it was chucked.

I very nearly Patioed him but we had A Chat (I threatened him with all sorts of painful repercussions) and now he knows to ASK and CHECK.

OP I also reckon he's binned it cos the "fake search" sounds exactly like DH's routine coverup before we had The Chat.

He threw it out.

You wouldn't believe how keen people can be to throw out kitchen stuff just because THEY don't use it.

Do people’s DHs really just bin things without checking what they are/if they’re needed?!

My abusive ex did. He had a trick of suddenly beginning a search for something he "needed" at, say, 10pm. I'd have to join in the search or I'd find loads of my stuff in the bin as it "wasn't needed anymore". It was always my stuff that got binned. Funny, that.

@Stealthpolarbear

Yes, they look remarkably like them😀

Really, the motor went on mine so these are useless, just not got round to throwing them out. If you want to pm your address I will happily post them to you

I managed to lose a Christmas tree quite a few years back. Took it down after Christmas,stashed it back in its box and put it back in its usual place,in the meter cupboard in the hallway. Next Christmas comes around,and it's nowhere to be seen. I practically ransacked the entire cupboard looking for it. I mean,how on earth can a six foot bloody Christmas tree just vanish?! My Dd and I looked in all the obvious places it could have been put,but nothing. That was 10 years ago and it's never been found. It's a standing joke in the family now.

It probably eloped with that ironing board that disappeared

@Stealthpolarbear

That's very kind of you. Thank you so much. I'll have one last look tomorrow and get back to you.

I'm pretty sure the ironing board was found ... can't remember where, but was hidden in plain sight !

I need to know for definite if the iron board was found. I was overly invested at the time but I'd forgotten all about it until this thread.

It’s probably in the same place my cast iron griddle pan is! How the heck I’ve lost that I’ll never know! One day I was using it, the next day it’s vanished. It’s huge and heavy! Can’t even blame anyone else as there’s only me and ds and he would never think to a) use a pan for anything, or b) put anything away without me nagging him. It’s a mystery.

I though that the owner of the ironing board just never came back so the thread never got resolved.

I had forgotten about the missing ironing board thread, did it not have a creepy vibe as she lived alone? I’m sure the OP never came back.

I remember the ironing board thread, I'm very sure her mum or sister let herself in to her flat and borrowed it, she found out a few days later

something along those lines, i remember it being a bit of a let down lol

Lord Lucan borrowed it,

I’m really fussy about cupboard organisation and tidiness. I would have thrown it out

Do people’s DHs really just bin things without checking what they are/if they’re needed

Er, yes! Mine once binned £100 when he was clearing all the wrapping paper etc at Christmas, our daughter's present from her grandmother. Luckily he found it, having emptied the bin all over the garage floor.

I had similar with my wok. My DH (who doesn’t cook) took it upon himself to do a clear out in the kitchen. He didn’t like the size/shape of the wok so threw it out.

I personally think if the guys don’t cook, they need to stay out if the kitchen. (He’d fine similar to my spices. Names he didn’t know I’d almost gone - he threw away, almost gone to him meant about halfway down.)

I don't think ironing board thread got resolved either.

So unsatisfactory.

If you still are on here please update us.

@LakieLady I also think the platter hiding in plain sight-top of kitchen units? flat against the back of a cupboard?

I am struggling to find things as DC unload dishwasher and put things back randomly but have decided to just be happy for the help!

Ré ironing board thread I too don’t remember that is was ever resolved.
It was slightly creepy because she lived alone and there was quite a bit of speculation about the landlord etc.

Sorry op your spiked platter thread slightly derailed for a few moments by this.

Good luck finding it / replacing it.

I'm on the binned it theory.
Plate with spikes, never seen it used, that's because the spikes are hidden when in use.

He caught his hand on the spikes while clearing the cupboard, then couldn't fit it safely back in the cupboard. Decision made it's an unnecessary H&S risk. Bin!

He's binned it.

Threads like this remind me why I'm fine with 'bloke' living in his own house. I currently don't have a patio, so it's just not worth the risk...previous (live together) DP's have well understood it's the kind of behaviour that life insurance was designed for!

Hope it turns up.