To wonder how something this big can disappear?

[LakieLady]

A few weeks ago, DP cleared out the cupboard where all the pots and pans live, gave it a thorough clean and put everything back. Well, almost everything.

I have (had?) a large stainless steel carving plate, the sort with spikes to hold a joint of meat and a recess for the meat juices to drain into. It'll take a big sized turkey or whole gammon, so it's pretty big. It has lived in the pots and pans cupboard for 20 years.

I roasted a chicken last night and because I'm crap at carving I always use the spikey plate. It wasn't home. I asked DP where he'd put it. He intially denied ever having seen it, then started looking in other places in the kitchen, including on the tops of the wall cupboards. It is nowhere to be seen.

It's not in any of the drawers or cupboards. It's not even in the Cupboard of Doom where all sorts of mysterious stuff gets shoved when we have to have a panic clear up because someone's invited themselves round at short notice. He couldn't possibly have thrown it away, unless he did it in his sleep, because he knows I use it.

How the fuck can something approx 20" x 14" and 2" deep possibly disappear?

I'm unfeasibly attached to it too, I bought it just before I cooked my first Christmas dinner in 1975, so it's practically an antique, and much heavier gauge steel than modern ones.

If and when it eventually turns up, WIBU to ram it up DP's arse, spikes and all?

Is it in the actual oven , we have a double oven and I never use the top one so all the baking tins etc get left in there . My dh decided to deep clean / spring clean the kitchen at the start of lockdown and he’s moved my knives / peelers into a different drawer and 6 weeks on I’m still opening the wrong drawer every single time .

Do you have a little panel like a kick board (but metal and part of the oven appliance) just under your oven door? I had never investigated this part before, but having discovered it, now use it for baking trays, etc. Have lots of cupboard space, but like this for awkward size/shape items. If your oven has one of these, could he have shoved it in there?

If he's anything like my DH, it will be in the most random place you can imagine. At least the hint has given you something to do during lockdown!

Hunt*

He might know you use it, but at the time he had it in his hot little hands while he was tidying up, he forgot and thought "what on earth is this? why have we got this? I'll just get rid of it" and later on, when you started going on about it, he had a dawning sense of horror and pretended he never saw it all.

Maybe it’s gone on holiday with my similarly huge oval plate that I used to at Christmas. When we were having a new kitchen put in, I emptied all the cupboards into boxes. When the kitchen was finished I unpacked the boxes back into the new cupboards. Sometime in the intervening weeks my large platter had vanished.

I remember the ironing board thread too - did the poster ever find it?

I think maybe it’s upside down and something else is standing on it and it’s blending into the shelf and hiding.

But I’m so glad Im not the only one who seems to spend ages trying to find things someone else has ‘helpfully’ moved. I think my teens do this subconsciously as a protest at being asked to empty the dishwasher. Things turn up all over the place after that and it drives me nuts 🤯 Everyone always denies any involvement, but I know!

I lost a sleeping bag once to the point I thought my ex must have taken it with her when we broke up as it wasn't in any of the cupboads where it could be/fit. It was only when I asked her that she reminded me we'd not long before got an ottoman type bed and it was most likely in there. I'd completely forgot about that storage facility!

Odds are he binned it and is now refusing to admit it.

It’s not like I would go into the garage and dispose of a vital piece of his socket set.

If you do, it's the 9mm/10mm/11mm that you should hide.

Defo been binned

If he's anything like my DH it's on top of a kitchen cupboard, as he conveniently forgets I'm 8 inches shorter than him so have no chance of reaching it. Failing that, in the greenhouse being used as a seed tray?

@Ninkanink I’m very happy for you, unfortunately, some people are in less than ideal relationships.

If it makes anybody else on here feel better about themselves, some partners may throw things away with out thinking, some on the other hand, would do it on absolute purpose - and that’s the point.

Yes...and that was my point - I was replying to someone else who seemed incredulous at the idea that some people (men and women actually; it’s not necessarily a man thing) do behave like this.

My friend's husband had a big clear out and got rid of her degree and other qualifications certificates, some handbags that she still wanted - one of which was her grandma's and had lots of sentimental value - and loads of her shoes. It wasn't malicious. The certificates were with some unimportant documents and he did it by mistake. The other things were binned on the grounds that he didn't think she wanted them as hadn't used them in years. She was very forgiving, I'd have patioed him.

Do you have pan drawers? Stuff gets lost behind ours. Check behind the kick boards, back/bottom of oven, in the gap behind corner cupboards etc

(He’s so thrown it out )

Couldn’t find my favourite salad bowl - searched high and low and discovered it in the garden- my six year old decided it would make a good bird bath!

Checking the oven or behind the oven warming drawer.

@Oysterbabe I would literally have packed up my stuff and left him the very same day. Wtaf.

High-five @Oysterbabe for the TP reference

If he's anything like my DH it's on top of a kitchen cupboard, as he conveniently forgets I'm 8 inches shorter than him so have no chance of reaching it.

Yep. I dread coming home from work to DH announcing he's 'tidied' the condiments cupboard. Basically pushing everything to the back where I can't reach anything and rearranging it all so I don't know where anything is. AND he puts bigger stuff in front of smaller things so they get hidden.

My dh once threw away a bagful of stuff he found in the loft - including my childhood teddy bear that I’d had since I was newborn. When I realised what he’d done, I fell apart completely, and made him drive me to the tip to see if we could retrieve the bag, bit it was too late.

I hope @LakieLady‘s carving dish has not suffered a similar fate.

’I put it conveniently in the bottom of a locked filing cabinet, in a disused lavatory with a sign on the door saying ‘Beware of the Leopard.'

knowing look.

@Winniewonka do you mean like these?

It's probably eloped with that ironing board that disappeared.
I still occasionally wonder if the op in that thread ever found it.