To ask if you're a long time married do you spend time with your spouse?

[Orangesandbananas]

My DH and I have been together 20 years. Two teen DC.

In the evenings we spend time in separate rooms on our laptops.

What does everyone else do? I mean couples together 15 years plus, after the honeymoon years are well behind you.

Do any couples still talk or spend time together?!

If you watch TV together how does it work if you both like different things?

We’ve been together 18 years and married for 13 years. We love to be together so any time we can get we are together for. People say we’re still in the honeymoon phase and don’t understand how but we just enjoy each other’s company.

I couldn’t live like that OP. Married over 30 years and we spend all our evenings together watching TV, going for walks, playing Scrabble. We do surf the internet in the same room too . He has a time consuming hobby of his own and I have lots of other interests, but I would be incredibly lonely living as you do.

We’ve been together 14.5 years, we have 3 children....13, 12 and 3. We watch TV together every night. We live in a small house so there’s nowhere else for us to go to be apart as the 3 year old sleeps in our room. But we get on well and like to watch the same programmes.

We've been together for 23 years, married for 16. Three DC. In the evenings we have a meal together, then after the kids have gone upstairs we watch TV. If you like watching different things you have to take turns or compromise! Sometimes one of us will be out (obvs not at the moment), but we would never (or very very rarely) spend the evening in separate rooms in the house.

Been with my husband for 20 years and have 3 children. The evening has always been our time. We get children settled and up to bed / rooms and we always watch something, have a chat about what's going on. When our 1st was little we always used to have a 7pm bonk when we got her to bed but with 2 others that's kinda gone.

Well I think the honeymoon period is over been together around 47 years married for 40 this year.
Still spend evenings together more so now the pubs are shut and my activities have gone online
Was debating earlier in the year what to do for our Ruby wedding anniversary well this bloody virus has answered that. Have already cancelled 3 holidays we go away a lot as we have our own company and if we don’t he doesn’t stop working

We've been married 28 years. We enjoy time together and apart.

If we're both at home a typical evening would be dinner together, an hour or so doing something separately (he likes his computer) then some TV together before bed.

In normal times we like to go on bike rides long walks together and love a good restaurant but we also have our own friends who we see separately.

Oh dear OP. I can't imagine it will take much for one of you to turn to someone outside your marriage if this goes on for much longer as if you are lonely and not telling your husband, I expect he feels the same. Do you feel like trying to improve this or have you both given up on it all?

Been married for 23 years. Pre-lockdown we were both travelling into London for work and we'd travel up and come home together. I had a couple of dance classes a week and DH would stop for a pint with his workmates once a week on one of my dance class nights. We go to the football together and see friends. Even sitting at home in the evening we watch tv together. If he's watching something I don't want to I'll sit in the same room but just surf the net or watch something I've downloaded on my tablet. We're both now WFH either side of the dining table and we did wonder how that would work but it's fine. Don't think that we are smug marrieds though, sometimes he can be a right twat and I have no hesitation in telling him so.

33 years and rarely spend time in the same room or do activities together.

20 years together. We also spend most of our time in the house in separate rooms I suppose (& we sleep separately). We have very different tastes in music/tv & are always really pleased when we can find something we can watch together (thank you Grace&Frankie atm). We cook and eat together, go for walks together & have a good laugh. Works for us.

22 years living together, have 2 teens.

we have a living/dining/kitchen, it's the hub of the house. DH, DC and me may wonder off to play PS4/PCs or homework for a few hours but in general one of us stays watching tv or pottering about in the kitchen and garden and others pop in and out for chats or to join in whatever's going on.

DH and me have certain tv series we watch together.
the things we don't watch jointly the other quite often will lounge with the other on the sofa whilst reading on their phones.

DH sometimes games in our room after dinner, but winds its if up for our bedtime, then we sit in bed chatting with the tv on in the background until we decide to sleep.
80% of the time we go to bed at the same time, one of us will announce (roughly same time each night) that they are off to bed, the other normally will follow, then as above chat then sleep.

The living room is pretty much obsolete. it's a lovely comfy room, but everyone feels cut off and lonely being in there. Although I will head in there sometimes when DH and DS2 are having a watching football marathon together in the kitchen. I can't relax with the noise of football on.

Been together 38 years. I'd say time both together and apart. I sometimes work in the evenings, he might do his painting, but when we're not doing anything else we're normally in the same room. Reading, watching the telly, chatting, sometimes go for a walk together. Companionable but without pressure. Now that both our adult kids are home they often join us in the living room.

Me and DH have been married 40 years. We spend every evening together. We like a lot of the same tv programmes but if DH wants to watch something I am not interested in I will read or use my laptop and vice versa.

We also sometimes play scrabble in the evenings, listen to music or sit and chat.

Before lock down DH worked and some weeks it might have been 6 days and depending how far away the work was could be out of the house anything between 8 and 11 hours. So we would make the most of the evenings and the days he didn't work.

Now in lock down he is not working at all and we are together almost constantly. We have been decorating together, gardening together, improving our French together. We do sometimes do separate hobbies.

We get on brilliantly. We are best friends as well as lovers and would rather spend time with each other than anyone else. I think it helps that we are childfree by choice

Been with dh for 25 years, married 17 years, 3 dc (2 teens and dd2 11). We always sit together, watch a film, read, play games, chat, love being in his company.

We have two nights a week where we watch tv together (taking turns to choose films). The other evenings he's either at work or on the Xbox. I watch a lot of history/archeology programmes which don't interest him. It works well for us.

dh and i have been together 20 years, married for 17 and still very much in the honeymoon type situation, adult dc, have been likened to victoria and albert [though we don't look like them]

Together 7 years now.

We watch TV, game, cook, face mask together I would say in a month - about 28 nights out of 30.

We never really had a honeymoon period honestly lol, 5 kids between us. Too busy with them!

Make that 9 years... Oops

Married 31 years and we have a 6pm rule. All devices are switched off / put on charge for the morning.

We watch telly, play cards, music, take the dog for a walk. It's always been the time we set aside for 'us'.

Together 24 years, married for 20.
In the evenings we are in the same room, usually watching something on Netflix like a box set type thing. If he wants to watch something I don’t want to, he has it on and I sit in same room And read my book/crochet/mumsnet/whatever.
In normal times we normally go for brunch together on a sat and maybe a walk. He also has hobbies like motorbking or walking on the moors which I don’t share the love of, in which case he goes off and does that fora day or so and I’ll do my own thing. It works