To ask if you're a long time married do you spend time with your spouse?

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My DH and I have been together 20 years. Two teen DC.

In the evenings we spend time in separate rooms on our laptops.

What does everyone else do? I mean couples together 15 years plus, after the honeymoon years are well behind you.

Do any couples still talk or spend time together?!

If you watch TV together how does it work if you both like different things?

Married 25 years. The thing I most dislike about my husband is his neediness and one manifestation of that is the amount of time he wants to spend in my company when we are both at home together. I wfh and he works outside of the home usually. But when he's here he literally follows me around the house and garden. Occasionally I yell at him to please go away. I really like being alone and he doesn't respect that. Honestly, it is divorce-worthy behaviour.

15 years together and yes, we spend plenty of time together. When quarantine's not on one or the other of us might be out once a week with hobbies, but we spend at least some time together on the couch every night chatting, gaming, catching up on TV.

15 years together. We mostly try to have one tv programme we both like on the go to watch together for an hour maybe 5 nights a week.
We eat together 4/5 nights a week and we love to spend a day together cycling or walking if we had childcare but this was rare before covid and obviously nonexistent now.

Been married 33 years and we spend most of our time together when we are not working
Watching tv, we compromise, I watch football with him and I make him watch casualty and holby city

We are usually in the same room in the evening, and maybe watching the same programme once or twice a week. Mostly he’s watching something and I’m online on my tablet.

During the day, again, majority of time doing separate things but sometimes together.

I wouldn’t say we have a great marriage but it works for now, while DC are still at home

We watch TV and films together relax in bed on our phones or read, play games and do diy together at the moment. So a lot of time together still. When not in lockdown we go to the cinema a lot and also regularly have casual meals out together. We get on very well and are very much still in love.

We've been together 15 years. But early and mid 30s and no children so think that makes a difference. We also share housework equitably so I want to spend time with him. We do have seperate hobbies and interests too. But probably a lot more together than a lot of people I know. But that's just as it works for us. I think it's ok to be independent of each other as long as you both are happy with it.

We barely spoke before the lockdown and if we were in on the same night, we spent time in different rooms. Now we are watching TV together, chatting and even playing games. The enforced togetherness has been quite bonding much to my surprise!

My gran and grandad have been married 60 years and they spend every evening in their matching armchairs holding hands while watching tv and it melts my heart.

Nearly thirty years married but together for longer.
We do spend time together but also time apart doing different things.
We watch television together but one might be more engaged than the other. He’s watching at the moment and I’m in the room but on iPad.
We walk together, swim together when possible and go to church together. We do cinema, theatre, supper parties and meals out and obviously see the children together.
We also both work full time so have time apart too. We like each other and make each other laugh.

*@Mkh873w you can divorce him without his agreement.

Well I do now my oh has a disability meaning he can,t work or do most of his hobbies.

I've been with dh 13 years (so not as long as you asked about, but it feels quite long tbh). We tend to sit in the same room in the evenings, often on our own devices, or he's on the computer and I'm marking (teacher, obviously). We don't talk all the time, but we will chat about what we're watching on TV, or about the kids, families, work, etc.

I don't want to spend every minute of every day with him, but generally enjoy his company. I'm very happy when he goes out to work at the minute, only one day a week but it's enough of a breather right now. I'm happy enough to then spend the rest of the working week during in separate rooms during the day and getting back together in the evenings.

Been married 33 years. We’re barely apart now, we’ve both retired in the last few years. For 30 years of our marraige DH worked 6 days a week. I love spending time together now. In the evenings we’re together. Sometimes on ipads, but also chatting and watching tv. He’s my very best friend.

My parents have been married 35 years. They spend all their time together in the evenings. Mutual hobby and watching tv shows together or gardening together. If my dad is watching sport my mother will sit beside him reading. They also hold hands still when walking around. They are how I aspire to be with my DH when we’re they’re age

48 years this July and we tend to spend the evenings apart on separate computers, however during lockdown we have been together binge watching our DVD collection currently criminal minds

I've been wondering about this for a while. We've been together (happily) for 18 years but have very different interests. Once or twice a week we commit to finding something on Netflix that we'll both watch. But generally we're off doing separate things.
We have jokingly said we'll need to find a joint hobby otherwise we won't speak at all when the kids leave, but I think we'll be ok!

12 years here - in the last couple of weeks we’ve been in separate rooms in the evenings a couple of times, but this is due to us both WFH and being in eachothers pockets all day. Normally eat dinner together, watch a bit of TV, drink on the balcony, etc.

Married 28 years nearly, offspring 20 and 17.

During Normal Time we're out together 4 nights a week doing hobbies (originally they were all with the boys, now not). Weekend evenings we had a pattern of TV watching together, though a lot of the things we were working through are now finished.

Husband has always watched a lot more TV than I do - he's just been watching Great British Menu with older son, and has now moved on to the next episode in his grand re-watch of Spooks. I play on the computer instead, either basic SM or my current forum obsession or on-line crosswords. Used to do this in the study upstairs but now sit in the dining room (off the lounge, which is why I know exactly what he's watching and that I don't feel I'm missing anything) with my laptop. Sometimes I might read a book. Sometimes he reads a book. Occasionally those coincide and we sit in the same room to do it.

During school holidays or when with grandmother we have been known to play games as a family eg cards, Mah-jongg or occasionally Monopoly. Before the kids were born we even had a go at learning backgammon (can't remember anything about it though).

When we go to the pub we generally manage to hold a reasonably decent conversation .

Together 16 years. We spend every evening together, don’t get me wrong we are often on our phones but we chat in between or watch telly.
We always go to bed together.

Married 30 odd years. We have our own interests and happily inhabit separate parts of the house. He sleeps with the television and radio on and I like quiet. I would find anything closer exhausting a as d stressful.

20 years together. Most evenings were sit in the living room together and watch something, have a chat etc. We have separate interests in 'normal' life so pre lockdown we had our own hobbies, but we still spend a lot of time together.

Together 14 years, married 11 years, 4 kids. I cant be around him for long periods of time. But spend about an hour every evening with him. We have a date night once a month, either I cook a meal or we go out.

Together 16 years, we start the evening both on the sofa. DH working on his laptop (in term time), me mooching (reading, MN, whatever - working in lockdown, boo hiss!). TV usually on but rarely fully watched. I’ll drift off for a bath about 9:30 then meander back to persuade DH that it’s bedtime (or get engrossed in a book in the bath and DH will eject me because I’m getting cold). DSs are 7 and 4. I’m very content in the routine. And very pleased at how well we’ve got on as a team during lockdown (both working FT, DSs at home).

If you’re not happy could you get a comfy chair in the room your DH is in and curl up there with your laptop?

I've been with DH for 16 years and we spend all our time together. We do all the grocery shopping together, clothes and Christmas shopping together and the school runs together (when he's not working). We watch the same tv shows or we'll watch our own shows and the other messes about on their phone but still in the same room usually and I've had the poor bugger out all day doing up the back garden (we're talking serious manual labour) with me. It's lovely.

16 years. Mainly watching TV together, if I want to do some sewing, or he's got paperwork to catch up on, we give each other a heads up (so the other one can choose something else on telly!). If I go out for the evening or he's late back he often says "oh don't go and do X, I want to talk to you!". Nothing specific, just for company.