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To not have bunting up?

113 replies

Magicra84 · 07/05/2020 16:20

Neighbour a few doors down has put up some plastic bunting in hers and and her next door neighbour's garden. I don't mind it at all but when she came to me and asked if I wanted some up and I turned it down she took great offence and questioned why. I told her the truth I don't want it in my garden because my garden is the one place that looks nice and plastic bunting will make it look untidy for me. I just don't want it to be honest.

Well, she said I was a spoil sport and had a go at me for not being a part of the community and she had also noticed I don't clap on Thursdays. I just tilted my head confused and told her I was going to leave her to enjoy the rest of the day. She flounced off and slammed my gate. Aibu to think she's a cf?

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nitgel · 07/05/2020 16:22

The ve day stuff is odd imo but i would prob have let her put up the buntung for AN easy life Grin

OwlBeThere · 07/05/2020 16:25

YANBU. She sounds like she needs to get a life.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 07/05/2020 16:36

Nah you did right. There is no obligation to participate in this performative bollocks. Well done, enjoy your Friday how you want to enjoy it !

TheGinGenie · 07/05/2020 16:41

Tell her VE was about the fascists not winning and therefore being allowed to not hang things if you don't want to and not clap things you don't want to. Kinda ironic really.

Dialdownthedrama · 07/05/2020 16:45

I'd have said yes as it's just for a day so hardly spoiling your lovely garden. Also fine that you didn't want it.

OneandTwenty · 07/05/2020 16:45

when did this country turn into a nation of sheeps, meekly following the latest trends and unable to have 2 original thoughts? Is it being subjects of a royal family that turns us into such a pathetic nation?

You have done nothing wrong OP, and your neighbour would put me off from doing anything at all frankly!

The whole bunting things up is nice and fun. ONLY as long as it's completely optional, not spoilt by your idiotic neighbour.

dannydyerismydad · 07/05/2020 16:47

Sorry. I think your neighbour might be my mother.

She's an embarrassment.

I8toys · 07/05/2020 16:47

YANBU. You do your own thing. I've put some up but don't expect anyone else to have it if they don't want.

shushymcshush · 07/05/2020 16:58

Haha @TheGinGenie - spot on.

DH and I had a discussion about this yesterday. Couple of houses near us have really gone to town with bunting and crap.

For me it just feels meh. Celebrating "woo aren't we great". Its like the last thing we ever got right as a nation. Don't feel there's anything to celebrate at the minute with this sh1tshow of a gov mishandling all this pandemic. Also I always remember my Nan talking about the war in the far east which went on for longer than in Europe, we seem to forget about those who died in the far east.

MIL is doing a quiz this week, all about VE day and they are having a street party Hmm (apparently socially distanced). Just all feels a bit jingoistic and sheep-like.

BlueJava · 07/05/2020 16:59

Why would you (or anyone) want bunting up? Is it NHS bunting or something?

BuffaloCauliflower · 07/05/2020 17:01

@BlueJava it’s the 75th anniversary of VE Day tomorrow.

I will be putting bunting up. I’ve done no clapping for careers (although I appreciate them very much) but I do want to commemorate this.

BlueJava · 07/05/2020 17:03

Ah I see @BuffaloCauliflower! In which case I don't think the OP is unreasonable for not wanting bunting up. I guess some will celebrate and some not.

mimbleandlittlemy · 07/05/2020 17:09

I would rather eat my own feet than have bunting up and if I have to hear even the first bar of We'll Meet Again warbled by anyone at all, I might take the law into my own hands.

My mother was two days off her 21st birthday on VE Day. She's two days off her 96th birthday now and thinks the whole thing is ridiculous so I'll take my tone from her.

chunkycoke · 07/05/2020 17:10

YADNBU!

mrsbyers · 07/05/2020 17:12

She sounds like she would get on with Hitler

PileofToss · 07/05/2020 17:17

I’m part of the volunteer team for my town which I really enjoy, but I keep being sent message after message about the plans for tomorrow and I just cannot get onboard. I don’t like “we‘ll meet again” and I certainly won’t be singing it on my doorstep.

If you don’t want bunting, that’s totally fine. I can imagine your neighbour is utterly FURIOUS!

HeyBlaby · 07/05/2020 17:19

Near me it's England flags all over houses, because England won the war Hmm

Somanysocks · 07/05/2020 17:23

Oh is that why there's loads of bunting up, for VE day anniversary? I just thought people were trying to brighten things up in these dark times. 😆

KKSlider · 07/05/2020 17:24

Where I live it seems to be that the people who think they're responsible for policing everyone else and making passive-aggressive posts in the residents group about who did what are the same ones who have bunting and flags up.

Tellmetruth4 · 07/05/2020 17:27

Your neighbour sounds a bit strange.

Starting to itch at the thought of Katherine Jenkins being wheeled out to sing ‘we’ll meet again’.

ThanosSavedMe · 07/05/2020 17:31

I can’t stand that bloody song

FlamedToACrisp · 07/05/2020 17:32

I can understand why your neighbour was upset. You basically told her you think gardens with bunting up (like hers) look awful and messy.

BananaPop2020 · 07/05/2020 17:33

I cannot bear the prescribed nature of this, It’s awful. The events programme list circulating round social media is not for me at all.

Marigold101 · 07/05/2020 17:33

The village I live in has been putting it up for weeks, called Bunting for 'insert name of village'. It's to signify we are having a massive village party as soon as we are able. I told my other half it's to ward off the virus, like garlic and vampires Grin. I think some people are also doing it now for VE Day too. Each to their own. Most of it looks lovely.

funmummy48 · 07/05/2020 17:37

I don't mind anyone getting involved but I won't be taking part in any bunting business personally.

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