To not have bunting up?

[Magicra84]

Neighbour a few doors down has put up some plastic bunting in hers and and her next door neighbour's garden. I don't mind it at all but when she came to me and asked if I wanted some up and I turned it down she took great offence and questioned why. I told her the truth I don't want it in my garden because my garden is the one place that looks nice and plastic bunting will make it look untidy for me. I just don't want it to be honest.

Well, she said I was a spoil sport and had a go at me for not being a part of the community and she had also noticed I don't clap on Thursdays. I just tilted my head confused and told her I was going to leave her to enjoy the rest of the day. She flounced off and slammed my gate. Aibu to think she's a cf?

That’s shit @whyayepetal. Sorry for your loss 💐

Thank you Alyic - will do. Fortunately we all live in the same house so cake and tea without worrying about social distancing.

Thank you @Alsohuman - much appreciated

Who died and made your neighbour Blockwart? If you don’t want to hang bunting, or clap, or anything like that, it’s your right. Don’t think I’d be joining in either if I lived in the UK.

'odds are that they happened to have them in the house anyway after whatever the last football tournament was'
@DdraigGoch

Except there has never been England flags on the houses of my estate for anything else before (bar one with a Union Jack following Brexit and then the election) But yes, I'm sure that's what it is...

This country is going to shit so fast during this bloody virus it's beyond stupid. You MUST:

1. Clap like a seal on Thursdays and hero worship the NHS, even though before all this started you slagged them off.
2. Report your neighbours for any slight misdemeanour during this dramatic "lockdown".
3. Put bunting up
4. Take part in any street organised fun or be frowned upon.

The country will recover from this virus, but it will never recover from the stupidity that it's generated.

If you do t want bunting in your garden then that's good enough, what wrong with people just minding their own business and respecting others boundaries. So many busy bodies and doormats about.

Ugh, don't not do t!

I think it would have been a nice neighbourly gesture to offer you some bunting, if she hadn't been so rude when you said no.

Obviously, without being there, it's difficult to know whether your 'no' might have been a bit rude too. You did, after all, suggest that those gardens displaying it - including hers - were unsightly.

But some of the general objections to VE Day on here are a bit mad. People are celebrating the end of fighting in Europe, and victory over Nazi Germany. I'm sure it felt like something to celebrate 75 years ago, and it's something worth commemorating now imo. Not wanting to decorate your house - fine. Sneering at people who want to mark the occasion - hard to understand.

Wonder if they celebrate in Germany? Probably not

It’s your garden, you choose what goes up and what doesn’t!

@meemaw12
I think they do in some parts: Berlin has a public holiday.

But some of the general objections to VE Day on here are a bit mad. People are celebrating the end of fighting in Europe, and victory over Nazi Germany.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with celebrating or not celebrating, people should do what they like. But it has got me thinking... we commemorate the end of world war 1 every year, but it’s quite a somber affair. We use it as an opportunity to remember people who have died in all wars. But then commemorating the end of ww2 for some reason involves a bank holiday celebration, bunting and cream tea.

@meemaw12 they do, but it is more of a sombre remembering of the dead like the WW1 events rather than jubilent street parties, and they commemorate the fall of fascism and 'liberation' of Germany from the Nazis - remember that the Nazis were not beloved throughout Germany, they ruled through fear and oppression. Ordinary people had no choice and for the most part were completely ashamed of what transpired, which lasts to this day in many of the slightly older generations, the first and second ones after the war.

Bunting? How naff.

My garden’s too naice for bunting.

Really? You tilted your head?

Absolutely not being unreasonable to not want bunting, or to not clap.
Nothing wrong with neighbour offering you bunting but her reaction when you politely declined is just downright rude.
I also am surprised at the amount of people who have neighbourhood what's app groups etc.
Our part of the street take part in the Thursday clapping, some weeks we do, some weeks we don't. Nobody seems to care.
I get the feeling most of our neighbours do it just for a bit of community spirit and a friendly chat as with the exception of us, they've all been neighbours for 20+ years.

I am proud of my grandparents who fought in WW2, I remember the stories they told & I have a few old photos, but they would be having a fit at the thought of putting bunting up & street parties 😂, old school Scots through & through.

The most important thing today is the 11am 2 minutes silence. A lot of the other things are to try to cheer us up during lockdown.
Good luck to all who want to celebrate. I will go outside and wave to neighbours and probably hold up a glass of wine.
I remember VE Day as a child sitting on a long table with sandwiches spread with margarine and anything else that could be sourced from a ration book nation. Then there was a Punch and Judy show with a lot of bashing about while the adults stood alongside, many in uniforms. There was bunting hung around on the walls which the porters in our flats had hosed down to get rid of the dust accumulated from years of bombing. I will be remembering today and especially my grandad who died at the age of twenty as a result of the gas used in WW1.

YANBU, it's your house. I'm not putting bunting up either, mainly cos I physically can't and I don't have any.

See, some of the responses in this thread are why I'm finding the whole VE Day thing difficult. If you're not participating for whatever reason you're a grump, a spoilsport, disrespectful, sneering, and people sacrificed their lives so you could have the choice not to hang bunting. It's totally OK, you don't have to participate if you don't want to but we're going to imply we think less of you for not participating.

Just be honest and say you want us all to join in or else we're bad people, guys.

I am proud of my grandparents who fought in WW2, I remember the stories they told & I have a few old photos, but they would be having a fit at the thought of putting bunting up & street parties

My parents did too. They’d have absolutely loved the bunting and street parties because they weren’t miserable joy suckers.

@Alsohuman good for them, be boring AF if we were all the same eh!

Decorated father and great uncle. Not my thing. I'll watch the Queen tonight and might shed a tear. In private.
The war ended on VJ Day. Not VE Day.

Absolutely a good thing we’re not all the same. It was an attempt to show how meaningless citing the attitudes of the dead is. But you knew that anyway and were just being snarky @salemcat.