To not have bunting up?

[Magicra84]

Neighbour a few doors down has put up some plastic bunting in hers and and her next door neighbour's garden. I don't mind it at all but when she came to me and asked if I wanted some up and I turned it down she took great offence and questioned why. I told her the truth I don't want it in my garden because my garden is the one place that looks nice and plastic bunting will make it look untidy for me. I just don't want it to be honest.

Well, she said I was a spoil sport and had a go at me for not being a part of the community and she had also noticed I don't clap on Thursdays. I just tilted my head confused and told her I was going to leave her to enjoy the rest of the day. She flounced off and slammed my gate. Aibu to think she's a cf?

It's the 75th anniversary of the day Germany (or to be more precise Hitler) was defeated. Yes there was still fighting in Japan, and I don't think those people are forgotten. It doesn't mean that today has no significance. I dread to think how today might have been celebrated if Hitler had won.

See, some of the responses in this thread are why I'm finding the whole VE Day thing difficult. If you're not participating for whatever reason you're a grump, a spoilsport, disrespectful, sneering, and people sacrificed their lives so you could have the choice not to hang bunting. It's totally OK, you don't have to participate if you don't want to but we're going to imply we think less of you for not participating.

I agree with you. But there's the other side too - if you don't want to mark it for whatever reason, don't make a big thing of announcing it and don't sneer at those who do.

and feel superior to her neighbours?

Isn’t that exactly what OP is doing?

@Alsohuman, glad you can see into my mind👍🙄

We don't have any bunting up.

As it's Europe Day tomorrow I said to DH I wished I had an EU flag to put in our window. He said I shouldn't be provocative, can't think why ;)

Anyway I will raise a glass tonight to my dad (who survived the war), my uncle who did in the RAF and to Dir David Attenborough as it's his 94th birthday, which is something worth celebrating.

My uncle who sadly died in the RAF (my mother's eldest brother).

And Sir David Attenborough. I really should preview my posts.

I dread to think how today might have been celebrated if Hitler had won

He's be long dead and we might have had a very different world by now. Might have been good, might have been bad.

But it's quite interesting in the Man in the High Castle when John Smith, head nazi in the US, moves between his world and our world and witnesses black people in the USA being refused service in a diner. He rightly wonders whether our world is so perfect.

After walking by a house with bunting and wartime music blasting out in a look at us type of way I'll say yanbu!

I think humouring her and putting it up would have caused you 24 hours of aesthetic annoyance. Not being nice might have cost you months/years of good neighbours.

Yanbu op, people should be able to participate or not without being called spoilsports.

On another note, anyone who’s been nabbed by a self appointed ‘clapping monitor’ might find this video funny - it popped on my twitter and made me howl
twitter.com/willdhislop/status/1258457955189641224?s=21

Well-deflected, OP. She was obviously gunning for a row and you maintained your dignity and didn't give her one. Kudos!

Not being nice might have cost you

To hell with 'nice'. In any case, nothing the OP said was at all impolite and it isn't a crime to want to live privately and keep yourself to yourself.

The neighbour, on the other hand ...

Having seen so many photos of 'socially distanced' VE Day street parties, I am so glad I'm an antisocial sod. Nothing makes my toes curl more than a 'community get together'