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Will you be seeing your family if lockdown is relaxed?

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CandleFlames · 06/05/2020 19:16

If lockdown is relaxed on Monday, will you see your family from other households again? I had a baby last month and none of my family have met him and I’m in two minds whether to stay isolating or to let them meet him if the rules change.

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Drivingdownthe101 · 08/05/2020 12:04

I'm used to seeing my family every day but I would rather they and I stay healthy and I'm going crazy not seeing them

Well... ‘going crazy’ isn’t really healthy is it? Some people’s mental health will really be suffering for it. Or is only physical health important?

poshme · 08/05/2020 12:25

Absolutely yes. We will self isolate for 14 days first, and then go and see my parents.
They're shielding so they haven't been out.

No risk to them or us.
Would have gone already but it's a bit of a trek & didn't want to risk getting turned back by police.

ktp100 · 08/05/2020 12:49

No. At this point I have no faith in government decisions at all. We'll be continuing full lockdown for at least a month & watching death figures.

Bienentrinkwasser · 08/05/2020 12:53

DH has got toddler DS on his own Mon-Weds (I’m working). He’ll be over to visit family in a shot if restrictions are eased 😂

Parker231 · 08/05/2020 12:55

I don’t think that level of change will be announced. Wales have held their briefing and the lockdown remains in place for another three weeks but can go out to exercise more than once a day but it must be local.

SpillTheTeaa · 08/05/2020 13:03

I would love too but it isn't going to allow that. I think all it will be is that it's unlimited exercise.

ineedaholidaynow · 08/05/2020 13:15

@poshme 14 days doesn't definitely mean you aren't carrying the virus

Drivingdownthe101 · 08/05/2020 13:22

It means you’re very unlikely to be though. And like with all things, you have to carry out a risk assessment.

ineedaholidaynow · 08/05/2020 13:24

But the PP said no risk, and that isn't strictly true.

Ilovetea09 · 08/05/2020 13:25

We won't be. I am in the clinically vulnerable group and I am really scared. I am an anxious person anyway but this has made me feel like i'll never be comfortable being in close contact with people and touching /hugging them ever again. I'm sure over time I will relax and forget but right now there is no way.
We aren't close to either set of parents anyway, we just speak on the phone once a week. I have one close friend who i cant see anyway at the moment as she's in Birmingham hospital with a sick baby.
Im a sahm so don't see people at work. My husband works full time and is a key worker so he will just carry on as normal

Barney60 · 08/05/2020 13:31

I dont think it will be relaxed that much, I think will be some garden centres open and able to exercise more, but if anything possibly 1 other person can be added to your group.

Spied · 08/05/2020 13:32

I want to continue as we are.
If government do give us the go-ahead to mix with other households then the shit will hit the fan in many ways.
Not only will this cause a second peak I'll also have Mil demanding to see the dgc because "it's allowed" and I will be the devil for saying no.This will cause issues with my dp who is a bit of a mummy's boy.
My own dm and her partner are shielding due to really significant health issues but she will cause chaos if I allow mil to see the kids and not bring them to visit her.
It's going to be interestingHmm

Babdoc · 08/05/2020 13:35

I can’t wait to see my adult DDs. But DD1’s partner is vulnerable with heart valve problems, and I’m still weak and breathless on week seven of Covid infection. I got out of hospital a month ago, but recovery is proving a v long haul.
I think it would be risky for any of us to exchange germs at present, even a common cold, when my immune system has taken such a battering.

poshme · 08/05/2020 13:42

Ok- not NO risk. But seeing as in my area (the 5,000 people level) not a single person has died of CV19, and as a region the numbers are very low, it's very unlikely.

The only contact I've had outside my house for all of lockdown is once a week supermarket shop. In an area with hardly any deaths.

My parents are happy to take that risk- once I've self isolated for 14 days.

I don't think there'll be a vaccine any time soon. If I wait for zero risk, I will never see my parents in person ever again. For years- until they die.

yummytummy · 08/05/2020 13:47

no. but only as i don't have any family. single parent and dcs are with me anyway. i will visit my best friend though not seen her in ages.

FelicisNox · 08/05/2020 15:30

No.

Unless they have all been in quarantine and had their food delivered they still mixing with other people in supermarkets.

A 6 week old baby has just died from Covid. Think on that.

We are still treating patients and seeing new cases every day.

SporadicNamechange · 08/05/2020 15:44

Well it seems that DH’s ex has decided that lockdown is over and she can see whoever she likes. She’s been seeing her mum and invited her boyfriend and his family round today for a VE Day Party. She’s just dropped the DSC at ours and they’re really excited about the party they’ve been having a mummy’s house with everyone there.

Tbh, the prime minister and the press have been really irresponsible in the last few days. So of course idiots like DH’s ex will decide they can now do what they like.

GinghamStyle · 08/05/2020 16:34

I’d like to change my answer to a solid NO

The families on my estate have decided lockdown is over and have planned a VE Day piss up later. One family has a parent that works in a nursing home where there have been cases and also staff cases. I’ve had a chat with my DM today and have told her that I’ll be continuing the lockdown measures for 2/3 weeks as I’m expecting another peak due to bank holiday idiots. I’ve managed to get supermarket shopping slots for this week and in another fortnight, so planning on not going to local shops and just going to and from work/school and really keeping myself to myself. I can’t believe people are being so stupid this weekend.

RonSwansonIsBuff · 08/05/2020 16:46

I seem to have driven past about 10 streets on my way home that all think it's now okay to be out together having a jolly good piss up for VE day.

Makes me wonder why I'm bothering not seeing anyone tbh.

Maybebabymaybenot · 08/05/2020 17:04

Surely street parties are ok though as long as they are observing social distancing? I haven't had one but a few streets nearby are and I can't see the problem with that.

I won't be seeing family even if and when restrictions are lifted as the risks are still there

RonSwansonIsBuff · 08/05/2020 17:09

None of the ones I drove past seemed to be giving distancing a second thought. One of them, they were all sat in a circle on the grass bunched up together about 15 of them and some drunk idiot in the middle dancing about with an England flag on his back.

Usually I'd laugh but it does grate when I'm not seeing my family and friends and I think why the fuck am I bothering if others aren't.

Timeforredwine · 08/05/2020 17:48

No mental health is very important, my son suffers and so do I but we try and alleviate this by walking and music and we are lucky to have a dog. I posted in a rush so going crazy wasnt the best term to use! I was just saying I have gone from every day to nothing but to ease restrictions I feel is trying to rush and undo what we have been trying to avoid.

lobsterkiller · 08/05/2020 17:55

My parents are over 70 and live 50 miles away. Their area has a low infection rate, my area has a lot higher. I'm not going anywhere near them. Sad

TwoZeroTwoZero · 08/05/2020 18:00

Yes. I've seen my dad and sister anyway so will be able to do that properly without feeling like I'm a granny-killer or something.

stickerqueen · 08/05/2020 18:45

family, I won't see them only see them a few times a year anyway and it's not Christmas yet, so unless lockdown goes on til Xmas won't affect seeing them. But I will take ds to see his friends and dd to the swings as soon as I can