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Will you be seeing your family if lockdown is relaxed?

335 replies

CandleFlames · 06/05/2020 19:16

If lockdown is relaxed on Monday, will you see your family from other households again? I had a baby last month and none of my family have met him and I’m in two minds whether to stay isolating or to let them meet him if the rules change.

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CambsAlways · 07/05/2020 19:46

No I won’t be , I will be carrying on as normal high risk category, I will be indoors still as I have been for many weeks, I want to remain as safe as possible

Bubblesbubblesmybubbles · 07/05/2020 19:53

@ofsheffield will have DC2 any day now, parents are coming to look after DC1 and will stay a few days to justify the 3hr each way journey. We have all self isolated for weeks for this and midwives are actively encouraging mothers to have birth partners as the mental benefits are so great.

Dotty1970 · 07/05/2020 19:56

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I’ve been seeing mine all the time as it’s was clear the whole thing was a joke from the start. It’s all unravelling now and proves the lockdown was not needed or required.

you, my dear, are a very large prick

LovelyIssues · 07/05/2020 20:00

No in laws are in 60s and 70s so won't risk it obviously as I have children that are potential carriers. Own parents are both looking after their own extremely old & vulnerable parents so again won't risk it.

TigerQueenie · 07/05/2020 20:15

No as we're shielding.

My mum and dad are both shielding too. My parents in law have been seeing people, as has my sister in law, so even if we weren't shielding it'd be a no.

marmitelover13 · 07/05/2020 20:36

No. My family live 1.5hrs away so would be too far to just wave from outside. I'm worried my parents might just turn up at ours though, and they're constantly running unnecessary errands, going out to shops etc, they're a bit unpredictable so it could be pretty awkward.

Choccylips · 07/05/2020 20:57

If you feel you can stay in isolation until you feel safe then do so. For your own peace of mind if nothing else. It's the most natural thing in the world to want to protect your baby so I'm sure they will understand.

superstressy · 07/05/2020 20:58

Already met family 3 times over the last 2 weeks.

Retired65 · 07/05/2020 21:07

No as my son and his wife are in London and my daughter and her partner are in Canada.

backmadeofglass · 07/05/2020 21:15

No - DM decided to move her partner in at start of lock down who has severe COPD . She now thinks I’m being unreasonable 🙄 as I’ve said I still won’t be visiting her even if restrictions are lifted as he obviously needs to shield until such time as it’s declared safe for him not to. We have no other family but she’s made her bed.

MaintainTheMolehill · 07/05/2020 21:18

I've been able to see my parents as they are shielding, live in the next street and I've been doing their shopping so I've stood outside and had a chat when dropping it off. I don't see that changing/visiting other family until there is a vaccine or better treatments.

Bubbletrouble43 · 07/05/2020 21:51

Yes! Dms birthday Tuesday, if lockdown is relaxed and I was able to bring her granddaughters to see her for her birthday I know that would make her so happy.

purplevamp · 07/05/2020 22:45

I'm definitely going to see my Mum. I haven't seen her since Christmas. She was told on Friday that she has MND and is very unwell. She has rapidly gone downhill in the last few weeks and having this lockdown has not helped (she's in hospital and cannot have visitors) Sad

JustStayHome · 07/05/2020 23:39

@superstressy

In emergency/ caring or just because?

Lovely13 · 08/05/2020 01:40

As far as I understand, lockdown was to stop NHS going into overload. As they ease restrictions, expect further deaths. It wasn’t a magic cure. No vaccine for a long time. But if they don’t lift it, economy will die. Taking us with it.

MrsPilkington · 08/05/2020 09:00

Yes I will. While they’re all still off work and being as safe as we are. If they end up back in work in June we will have to stop again until things are safer as we’re shrilling. But I trust them enough to have been seeing them from two weeks in. They’ve been very strict as have we, I just haven’t because I’m a sucker for rules and regulations. But yeah. I need a hug from my dad and my sisters desperately. And nan. I’m desperate to run to my bestie for a hug but she’s a nurse so will wait until things are bit easier and the Advised twelve weeks are up

MrsPilkington · 08/05/2020 09:00

Shielding* obviously. Although there is much shrilling too.

Hibbetyhob · 08/05/2020 09:15

No because I’m still going to work (school) and mixing with lots of other people so I’m too much of a risk to my parents.

I will in the summer holidays after self-isolating for 2 weeks.

Emmylou1985 · 08/05/2020 09:25

Absolutely. I can't wait to have a cuppa with my mum and have a mutual venting session about DS driving me nuts and my Dad driving her Carole Baskin.

SerendipitySunshine · 08/05/2020 09:45

No, I'd never forgive myself if I made them ill.

majesticallyawkward · 08/05/2020 10:00

Absolutely. I can't wait to have a cuppa with my mum and have a mutual venting session about DS driving me nuts and my Dad driving her Carole Baskin.

Driving her Carole Baskin 😂😂👏

Timeforredwine · 08/05/2020 10:39

Absolutely not as much as I do want to and we are so close but what is the point of keeping children off school and apart if you are going to see family and maybe other children and mix people. In that case they may as well lift lockdown. I'm used to seeing my family every day but I would rather they and I stay healthy and I'm going crazy not seeing them.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 08/05/2020 10:41

They’ve just extended vulnerable shielding so will be a while. I wanna see my friends and their kids though

BiddyPop · 08/05/2020 10:45

Our lockdown will allow local family interaction in late May or June, but only within 20km.

Our families are 250km away. So we can't see those until much later (end July), when that is currently planned to be allowed. And no, we won't be breaking it to see them sooner - we have been doing skype and zoom calls, writing letters, having phonecalls etc so keeping in touch reasonably well.

Aragog · 08/05/2020 10:50

I'm not shielding and neither are any of my family.
I'm probably the most at risk - on point 2 and shielding is at point 3.

I'd love to see my family. My parents are under 70. However they all live about 3 hours away so I can't see that being allowed.

Mil is staying with us for the lockdown duration so we see here every day anyway. We saw BIL, SIL and nieces briefly and at a distance for FIL's funeral about 3 weeks ago. Again they live a fair distance from us though.

I'm vulnerable, but not shielded, so no doubt will be back in a classroom at some point mixing with children and parents so I guess if I am able to see them then my family would be no risk to me at all.