DD (26) lives in London but has been staying with us since lockdown to be away from the city. Over the last few weeks I’ve overheard video calls from her room most days with a male. DD has today told DH and I that she is in a relationship with with a 40 year old man who she met through work. They’ve been together for a few months...apparently DD hadn’t told us because it was still early days but prior to lockdown they had been seeing each other very regularly. Apparently this man has no children, has never been married and owns his own apartment nearby to where DD is renting. I have tried my very best to sound happy for her, but I can’t help but feel concerned. It sounds as though this man is head over heels in love with her and DD sounds just as smitten. I can’t help but feel that they are at two totally different stages in their lives and surely don’t have anything in common which could carry their relationship through in the long term. A 40 year old man who has never married or had children also screams lack of commitment. I’d hate the idea of DD being strung along for years with a man who is wasting her time and who, due to the age gap, she will eventually be left to care for when she is still young enough to be enjoying her life.
AIBU in being concerned? DH says I should keep my thoughts to myself but I feel compelled as a mother to raise my concerns with DD as I feel she may be making a mistake :(