To feel annoyed that DH arranged to meet a friend for a walk?

[Overseasmom100]

Said he was walking to the shops yesterday whilst I worked from home. Thought ok that's good freshair exercise etc. That evening I find out he'd arranged or his friend arranged it...to meet along the way to walk together. I confronted him and he's all arsey saying what's the difference to mixing with people in a supermarket. I said hang on...we've been told not to meet with people outside our families who knows what he would potentially bring back. Im not meeting with anyone not even family. We've even drilled it onto our DS 15 he cant meet friends.

Am I being unreasonable?

i am sure it is ok, as long as no one gets run over trying to keep 6 foot apart

how long was he walkign for?

Did they walk 2m apart? If so I'm with your DH, the risk of catching it from his friend is negligible compared to that of catching it from someone at the shop when he gets there.

Over an hour prob in total hour and 3 quarters...

Technically you're not being unreasonable but realistically? As long as social distancing is observed I can't get too excited about it - I have actually adhered to the SD policy throughout lockdown and haven't met up with anyone outside my household by the way, even though I don't think it would be a problem to do so in a socially distant manner. 🙂

People go out to work, people work in supermarkets, stacking shelves, no protection.
either of you particularly vulnerable?

Doubt very much they walked 2m apart but he didnt tell me so he knew it was wrong plus weve stopped our DS meeting his friends so not a good example imo

I would be annoyed that he thinks he’s a better of the risks than you or anyone else. But I also think restrictions will be eased up soon and these meet ups will be considered okay.

I couldn’t complain about this seven weeks into lockdown tbh.

To me it's just another potential risk which could be brought back to our household and again I dont think a good example to what we're saying to our DS.

Im not vunerable but visit my 88 yr old very vunerable (lung condition and housebound) DF once a week so he knows I worry abour that.

I thought you could meet with one person as long as you start 2 m apart. This wouldn’t bother me at all. But I’m not planning on staying in the house until a vaccine is available.

Yes I think Im also annoyed that he thinks he's different he was all arsey about it so I know he knows it was wrong

Are any of you in the vulnerable category?

Personally I think you are being over cautious, I walk with friends, my teenage DS plays sport with a friend, I meet my elderly parents for a coffee (sit in the garden) & I do a volunteering job that involves talking & helping people and it’s not always possible to have a strict two metre distance.

I know many people take the ‘rules’ very seriously but I am prepared to take my own risks.

You can't expect him to live like that.

You are not to meet up with anyone outside of your household

I agree OP. Why should everyone else have to follow the rules except for him.

It's more about the example he's setting to your DS, I suppose.

You are not to meet up with anyone outside of your household

Your father?

And yet you're meeting up with your 88 year old 'very vulnerable father' once a week 🤷‍♀️

Which is SO MUCH WORSE 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Can you not see how you are completely and utterly contradicting yourself OP?

I agree OP. YANBU. The examples other posters have given eg shelf stackers, going to work, visiting a vulnerable person to provide food or medicine are considered essential. Meeting up with a friend is not. It’s not about weighing up what you consider the risk to yourself, it’s about preventing wider transmission of the virus. I’m amazed how some people consider themselves so special the guidance doesn’t apply.

I HAVE to feed my DF and take him shopping ...used to go twice a week but have dropped it to once a week. DH dies not HAVE to meet his friend

Lol at your hypocrisy. This is why I love MN

As long as they didn't spit, cough or sneeze on each other I really can't see the problem? It's entirely possible to walk alongside someone while observing social distancing guidelines (I learnt recently ours are more stringent than recommended by the WHO which recommended 1m distancing). We also need to get used to being back in the company of other people really soon - such an extreme situation wrt lockdown is unsustainable and I would go so far as to say damaging (& I'm not alone), and getting panicky about examples such as this is not going to help forward progress.

IMO, obviously

Why on earth do you HAVE to take your father shopping? Surely you can do it for him and leave on his doorstep.