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AIBU or are pretty much everyone's neighbours being unreasonable by this point in?

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huntinthehornybacktoad · 05/05/2020 19:16

We have naice middle class neighbours who have a right of way over our yard.

They have interpreted this as teaching their kids to cycle in our yard, telling their kids to "go play in that bit" (our yard) and now parking their car in our yard (so as to leave more space in their own yard).

Please tell me that this craziness will end after lockdown (-and that I don't have to go tell them off because I am dreading that as in many ways I like them-).

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TisTheSeasonToBe · 05/05/2020 19:17

Honestly, nip this in the bud now.
A right of way is not a car parking space nor a kids playground.
you really don't want this to become the norm.

make them shift the car everytime they do it.

RedAzalea · 05/05/2020 19:18

i think we need a diagram for this!

Knittedfairies · 05/05/2020 19:19

I suspect that the end of lockdown won't change a thing; they'll still park on your part of the yard/tell their children to play there. You need to tell them otherwise...

Glittercandle · 05/05/2020 19:20

I think you just have to tell them, break the habit now.

ChandlerIsTheBestFriend · 05/05/2020 19:21

Oh you definitely need to nip it in the bud now OP! This will only get worse.

yellowbluebell · 05/05/2020 19:21

Tell the cheeky fuckers to park and play on their own drive

PerkingFaintly · 05/05/2020 19:22

My neighbours are only being unreasonably helpful and kind!

Yours ABVVVU, though. Agree with posters above: tell them right now that this is not a shared yard, it's yours.

NewIdeasToday · 05/05/2020 19:24

Why are you being so wet?

Just go and speak to them politely - now before it’s too late. Explain what the right of way covers and what it doesn’t (playing, parking etc). You could emphasise the importance of social distancing re the kids playing. And ask them to stop.

Suggest you do this today before you get cold feet. You’ll feel much better if you calmly stick up for your self. No need to be unfriendly, just clear and assertive.

Cherrysoup · 05/05/2020 19:24

Have you spoken to them? Don’t keep quiet or they’ll just take advantage. Right of way definitely does not mean parking on your yard or having kids cycle all over it.

Boom45 · 05/05/2020 19:27

Ask them to stop parking in your yard, I think that's reasonable. My neighbours have right of access through our back garden and they had builders once who left their tools in my garden and my (then) 3 year old was VERY excited to see them when we got back from nursery, he'd run in ahead of my and I found him messing with a very sharp stone cutting thingy. I spoke to my neighbour who at first was a bit defensive but it was fine, we're still friendly neighbours. There are ways of asking neighbours to stay out of your garden without it being confrontational

dentydown · 05/05/2020 19:28

We need a diagram

user1471453601 · 05/05/2020 19:32

Your neighbours might well be unreasonable (sounds like it to me), and it may or may not be because of C19.

My neighbour on the other hand are being very considerate and helpful, as I hope they think we are.

Some people are shits, what ever the situation, but most people try to be kind and considerate. Thats my experience anyway

OhhhPeee · 05/05/2020 19:32

DI-A-GRAM! DI-A-GRAM!

RainMustFall · 05/05/2020 19:44

Not me. I don't have a clue what my neighbours are doing and as long as they don't impact on my life, I don't care.

TwistyHair · 05/05/2020 19:46

@OhhhPeee agreed.

HalloHalloHallo · 05/05/2020 19:47

OhhhPeee Tue 05-May-20 19:32:21 DI-A-GRAM! DI-A-GRAM!

Grin

Agree with pp. Nip this in the bud now OP or they will be doing it forever more.

Itwasntme1 · 05/05/2020 19:58

I agree - remind them of the conditions of the easement. Be very specific about what they can and can’t do. Maybe a note and take a copy.

And yes my neighbours are all being dicks too.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/05/2020 20:00

They need to park on the road if they want the kids to play on their drive. Idiots.

WindsorBlues · 05/05/2020 20:04

It feels like it's been forever since we've had a parking thread and diagram. T'was much simpler times back then.

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huntinthehornybacktoad · 05/05/2020 20:08

oh god ok hold on

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huntinthehornybacktoad · 05/05/2020 20:12

here.

there is a boundary line.
the car is on the side of it that isn't their's

I really like them in so many ways but they seem to have a blind spot about our yard. I think the problem is that I have to share it with several other families (not them) and so it seems to them as though it's nobody's. But anyone who has ever had to be the director of a management company knows that the opposite is in fact the case - you have loads of people with slightly different interest....

AIBU or are pretty much everyone's neighbours being unreasonable by this point in?
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TheFuckingDogs · 05/05/2020 20:15

My nearest and only neighbours are my parents. I screamed at my mother in the garden yesterday 😏

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huntinthehornybacktoad · 05/05/2020 20:16

:) the fucking dogs.

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huntinthehornybacktoad · 05/05/2020 20:17

their kids are also super-cute and have lovely natures. I enjoy hearing them in their garden - just not in ours.
To be fair, they have completely reined in the children thing.
I just don't know where they are coming from with the car thing.

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huntinthehornybacktoad · 05/05/2020 20:19

it's not a very good diagram is it?

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