AIBU or are pretty much everyone's neighbours being unreasonable by this point in?

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We have naice middle class neighbours who have a right of way over our yard.

They have interpreted this as teaching their kids to cycle in our yard, telling their kids to "go play in that bit" (our yard) and now parking their car in our yard (so as to leave more space in their own yard).

Please tell me that this craziness will end after lockdown (-and that I don't have to go tell them off because I am dreading that as in many ways I like them-).

if they make that change to their property Hunt, unless there is some sort of caveat preventing them from doing so, you are going to have to suck it up... :)

“So turn some of your yard into a garden?”

I sort of am! But beds round the edges (other leaseholders have rights...).

A neighbour on the other side cut down all his beautiful trees and plonked two huge sheds on the boundary....like bloody watchtowers they are. now that was upsetting.
So funnily enough yes I do believe that having beauty next door really matters :)

“if they make that change to their property Hunt, unless there is some sort of caveat preventing them from doing so, you are going to have to suck it up... “

Absolutely. But they won’t. It’s a big reason why they moved here. And I’m grateful for that.

YANBU being hacked off with your neighbours taking over your garden
YABU assuming everybodys neighbours are equally inconsiderate - mine are fine thanks!

(That does not extend to the two sets of workmen with several JCB diggers, jack hammers and pick axes on all sides of my flat

So - didn't vote, mixed feelings.

Yes my neighbours are. Out in the street with their kids all day yesterday making the most noise. Yes it was nice weather but it's not the summer holidays and some of us are still trying to home school.

Could you not also argue that as the area is for parking, it's not safe for young kids to play on? Do any of the neighbours who are entitled to, actually park there?

Devil,

I think the answer is yes, sort-of.
I think it's actually more annoying when a parent is watching them from the seclusion of their own private garden as it makes me feel I'm being watched as I potter back and forth (I've got two private bits on either side of the yard).

But also, like perkin said, it's important to just say "I'm not happy because I don't wish to be responsible for any accidents" rather than "do you think it's safe...".

Crikey, 94% said YANBU.

Neighbourly relations are being strained up and down the country.

My neighbors have had 2 separate visits from family/friends who don’t live with them. I’ve heard them in the garden- acting as if it’s totally ok in the lockdown. They don’t even try to be quiet but openly breaking the rules! I guess some people think the normal rules don’t apply to them.

@Dilovescake21 some people are finding this really really hard. Standing two meters away from your family in the garden and having a chat surely isn’t the worse thing?

I talk to my parents In their garden when I drop off groceries. To be honest if some curtain twitching neighbour is tutting I really don’t care.

OP,
As many others have said, I think you need to tackle this now because it if not, they will treat it as a play area. Maybe like you suggested, they think it is just a free for all with no restricted access in place? If so, perhaps approach it not as a neighbour but in your management capacity and explain the right of access to them? Is the lovely garden on your diagram theirs? If so, why aren't their kids playing there?

Thank you BovaryX.

Most of the time the children are playing in Lovely Private Garden which is basically "The Secret Garden" heaven but the one thing it lacks is a paved area so there is nowhere to ride their bikes unless they are taken on a Special Expedition. If they put in adequate areas to have the kids ride bikes there it would be Unlovely Carpark Garden...

Some positive news. They are now parking only briefly to load and unload and faff about with the kids then putting the car elsewhere (the one car parking space in their Lovely Private Garden is occupied by a skip).

I think the thing to do is to say thank you for doing that (the parking). A sort of "gratitude sandwich" principle.

Got home to find a little bike amongst my plants. Right now it's a super-cute bike but it won't be once they're in year 6!

I think I need to treat this as a behaviourism issue and reward the good. My biggest fear is that I will snap (lots of PMT at the moment) and say something harsh or unpleasant that can't be taken back .

"OP,
As many others have said, I think you need to tackle this now because it if not, they will treat it as a play area. Maybe like you suggested, they think it is just a free for all with no restricted access in place? If so, perhaps approach it not as a neighbour but in your management capacity and explain the right of access to them? Is the lovely garden on your diagram theirs? If so, why aren't their kids playing there?"