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For parent to call their child sexy?

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theemptywinebox · 02/05/2020 20:56

Saw one mother post about their 'sexy little man'?
One year old doing a pose.
Personally I just think it's weird.
AIBU to think calling your child sexy is weird??

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meow1989 · 02/05/2020 22:16

Ugh, grim. There's not an appropriate scenario where calling a child sexy is ok.

Gooseygoosey12345 · 02/05/2020 22:17

That is grim

womaninatightspot · 02/05/2020 22:20

The phrase "sexy knees" makes me shudder. I knew someone who used to say that to bare legged babies. They can be cute and chubby and sweet but they are not sexy ffs.

Firsttimelottie · 02/05/2020 22:20

It doesn't mean she is intentionally "sexualising" her child and it wouldn't make me think she is a paedophile or anything! But I personally hate it.

BellatrixLestat · 02/05/2020 22:22

It's just.... eew

tigerwhocametoT · 02/05/2020 22:25

Disgusting. A women who I subscribe to on Snapchat posted a picture of her nephew and wrote "isn't he sexy"Shock🤮

tigerwhocametoT · 02/05/2020 22:26

Forgot to add the boy is only 3.

Accio · 02/05/2020 22:26

I had a friend who was otherwise a lovely woman who called her and other people’s children sexy, no reason at all to think she thought of babies that way but every time she said it I felt like I was chewing tin foil. It just strikes me as so wrong and is the last word I’d use to describe children.

Stephie0x3 · 02/05/2020 22:28

So so so strange isn’t it!! There’s sooo many other appropriate words you could use to describe your child why would you choose that one! Completely agree

Ponoka7 · 02/05/2020 22:29

For some people sexy means interesting and/or exciting. It isn't connected to Sexual feelings.

I don't like the term, but I know enough people who use it, who don't have bad intentions or connotations.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/05/2020 22:30

Well 6% think YABU but have not passed comment. I agree with you totally btw.

AndMyHairWillShineLikeTheSea · 02/05/2020 22:32

That's pretty disgusting

indemMUND · 02/05/2020 22:33

It's not a term that should be used to describe a child. Ever. I can't understand why people would say that. I've only ever read about this on here. If I heard/read someone describing a child as such, then regardless of friendship I'd call them out on it straight away. Absolutely vile and unacceptable. There's slang and there's being wildly inappropriate.

LipsyGirl · 02/05/2020 22:46

Is a child sexy?

“No”

Cute, adorable etc. Yes

It’s disgusting and planting a seed in a child’s head that they need to aim to be called sexy which is incredibly dangerous

LittleLeaps · 02/05/2020 22:47

It is vile my PILs have both used the word to describe our eldest daughter - it makes me cringe. Thankfully my partner agrees it's just wrong to say it about a child Hmm

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theemptywinebox · 02/05/2020 22:50

I totally get that some people might use it as an endearing term, such as like when someone said 'my little hunk'.
I do agree, maybe the terminology meaning varies on ... (Don't say it here on mumsnet) I don't even want to say because...sexy and child DO NOT ever match the same sentence.
I do get the term babe though. Is hunk and princess the same? I don't actually think saying 'my little hunk' is terrible?
Nope, still weird to call your child that.

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theemptywinebox · 02/05/2020 22:51

@Ponoka7 yeah as adults!! Don't ever recall telling my 9 year old that talking about feelings is sexy

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theemptywinebox · 02/05/2020 22:53

That's exactly how children get abused. Because the actual meaning of the word becomes obscured!!

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LipsyGirl · 02/05/2020 22:59

@theemptywinebox. Exactly! This is how it happens. Using incorrect wording that a child will aim for. I’d never let anybody call me child sexy

Cuppaand2biscuits · 02/05/2020 23:04

So weird. I witnessed it at a weigh in session at the health visitor 10 years ago and I still remember it now
The mother had stripped her baby down to her nappy ready to be weighed and she was saying to the baby, "move your sexy body"
It was so so strange, i then saw that mother around at playgroups for years after.
Never heard her say it again but never forgot it!

muckycat · 02/05/2020 23:14

I understand those saying it don't mean any harm but just don't see why 'sexy' is the right word to use for a child. 'Cute' or 'gorgeous' seem more fitting and have the same meaning in context.

DamnYankee · 02/05/2020 23:22

OP, I remember a quote from the American model Anna Nicole Smith (now deceased) after she had given birth. She didn't want to overfeed her daughter because she wanted a "sexy baby."

Still makes me want to vomit.

MaryShelley1818 · 02/05/2020 23:24

Ewwww....just awful.

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theemptywinebox · 02/05/2020 23:27

Nope. Nope. Never. The line is none existent. You can't cross a line that doesn't exist!!
Well I knew my option wasn't wrong. But I did speak to family who said I was overreacting. No way.

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Walnutwhipster · 02/05/2020 23:28

It's vile. I can't think of any occasion when calling a child sexy is even remotely appropriate.

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