To think my husband is being a cunt

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I can't actually believe how well we've been getting on during lockdown. Really close, really loving eachother etc. But tonight my mum calls and he's turned into a total cunt. Kept playing Chas and Dave on his phone.....the song about "you don't stop talking". Making me having to speak to my lovely mum a few decibels louder. She was only showing concern for me and my mental health yet my husband believes she did called purpose to stop us watching a programme we like!!!! Literally wtf.....so not true! I love my mum so very very much and I balled my eyes out when I got off the phone to the point I was hyperventilating, but was totally ignored by my husband. So so so sad tonight

Is he jealous of all other relationships you have?
So he is loving lock down so he can have you to himself?

He's trying to isolate you from your family. Next he'll be telling you it was all a joke and you're too sensitive. You've been getting on well during lockdown as your behaviour has pleased him. The minute it doesn't you are punished. Red flags. Run, run, run. It only gets harder to leave as the years go by...

Sounds like he’s only loving when he has you all to himself eg) things are only great because you’re in lockdown together but he throws a strop when you take a call and he hasn’t got your full undivided attention. Sounds possessive.

Been together 24 years

That is a massive red flag - he's trying to isolate you. He's got you whete he wants you because of lockdown, your mum threatens that.

This man is nit your friend.

Prize cunt. Sounds like an attention seeking child at best.

Bit strong to call him that I think.

How can watching a TV programme take priority over a phone call? TV shouldn't take priority over anything.

Why does he hate your mother so much? He sounds completely out of order btw.

Is he jealous of all other relationships you have?
So he is loving lock down so he can have you to himself?

This! You act suprised that you are getting on so well!
Do you not usually?

He acted childishly and shouldn’t have done that but if you started chatting away on the phone in the same room as me, talking over a program you knew I was watching, that’s really ignorant of you and I’d be hacked off too. Both behaved badly imo, in different ways.

He acted like a dick. If he had an issue he should have asked you to call her back after the show finished. You're right, it wasn't about that.

Use the time to have a convo with him about why he has a problem with your mum/your relationship with her.

Take it from someone who's going through a divorce. Have the difficult conversations now, otherwise you have to have them when you're deciding who gets what in the settlement and that's even harder...

He's jealous, bad mannered and childish.

I dont like when I am watching tv and someone is on the phone. You can move into another room with a phone. You cant move the tv. I personally think this is rude. He may dislike your Mother because he is jealous/controlling or he may not like her for legitimate reasons. There is not enough info provided to say.

My ex was lovely when he had my undivided attention. He's vile. I don't know anything else about your relationship but please stay safe and look into the freedom program.

He sounds not very nice to say the least: what was your relationship like before lockdown?

He sounds like he is resentful of you having other relationships with anyone other than him. That would explain why he is loving lockdown as he has you all to himself. Do you not find it suffocating?

24 years is a long time to be with someone. Has this issue not come up before?

You’ve been together 24 years?!? How is he this childish when he’s clearly an adult?!

What are the reasons he gives for hating your mum?

Was he just not having a laugh? Had you had a few drinks?

This has been going on for 24 years?

Why doesn’t he like your mom?

Yeah he is being a shit, so is the person on here that said you are moaning.
Sounds like you've got on great then he spoilt it, what is it with some men, give him what for, don't let him think its ok. She's your Mum whether he likes her or not and he needs to respect that.

If you were on the phone to your mum while he was trying to watch the TV in the same room YABU.

@PippaPegg It didn't justify him playing a tune about 'you don't stop talking' when OP is on the phone to her mum. As he made her cry he clearly wasn't doing it in a way that was meant to be amusing to her, he was being a tosser.

In fairness bawling and hyperventilating seems a bit extreme though