totally trivial was I being unreasonable wedding thread

[julybaby32]

A few years ago I was doing the reading at wedding. I live about 250 miles from the wedding venue. Wedding was Friday. Had to ask for the day off for the Friday - we can't ordinarily ask for time off when we like but was allowed this as special occasion and for doing the reading. I'd gone to some trouble to buy a suit that suited the colour scheme, but didn't look like a bridesmaid's outfit, bought make up and had a lesson near where I live about how to put it on, did my hair in the way the bride wished etc. drove up after work on Thursday (kind boss gave me the some of the afternoon off so I just made it in time for the rehearsal in the church at 8pm)
Elderly relative of mine, and friend of the bride, came up to me after the ceremony and before the reception and said "I would have thought you would have had your makeup done professionally this morning as I did."
Was I really being unreasonable not to have my makeup done professionally? Is this a given that everyone else but me knows about?
(This is just from curiosity and to entertain others with the trivial. Too late to do anything about it now.)
My hat had quite a wide brim, if that is relevant and I'm rather plain.

That's horrible. I have never in my life had professional make up done and now I don't expect to. I want to look like me with my healthy happy face. What a bitter woman

YANBU. I was supposed to read at my brother's wedding and had a make up demo with Bobbi Brown so I could do my own.

I was all smug because I had it done earlier than originally planned because I suspected they might stop doing make up. Bought a couple of bits there and the rest on line. By the time I had everything we were on lock down and the wedding is postponed. I don't need fancy make up to WFH. My webcam is so crap there isn't even much point for zoom meetings!!

I think the bride would provide some emotional support.

For what?

Emotional support for the fact that your own relative said something rude to you about your make-up several years ago?

OK, the bride could maybe say "Gosh that was rude of her, you looked lovely". That's not "emotional support" that's just, you know, a conversation.

You could say pretty much the same thing about discussing it on an internet forum thejollygargler .

Thanks, but I' really just wondering if there was some social unwritten rule I was unaware of, and there appears not to be in most places. Certainly it would be no help to the bride, her family or the relative to stir up any bad feeling now.
And I am sorry to hear about Stripy's brother's delayed wedding though.

How would she know you hadnt? You went to far too much trouble anyway

My grandmother, who was constantly critical of us as children, wrote to me before my wedding at some length to tell me that I must remember to look tidy and comb my hair before going up the aisle. I was so tempted to reply asking didn't she know that it was an anti-wedding, we'd arranged for everyone to turn up in their scruffiest clothes having not bothered to wash for at least a week, and anyone who had combed their hair was going to be banned.

In the end I controlled my impulses, but I did send her a birthday card with a picture of a cow on it.