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To wonder why people aren’t more angry?

520 replies

Rainbowb · 29/04/2020 23:09

Throughout this whole crisis I have really been surprised by the level of acceptance from everyone in this country of the whole situation. I know we haven’t had much choice in the decisions made and we’re probably a very polite nation as a whole but we have been so quick to accept the arrival of a deadly virus and drastic changes to our lives, seemingly without complaint. Is no-one out there demanding to know how on earth this was all able to happen? We’ve faced the huge loss of human life worldwide and it is continuing, surely we are all entitled to get angry and demand answers? I see grieving families, children missing out on being with other children and not having an education, families being separated indefinitely, people’s mental health suffering and vulnerable people potentially at risk and I feel so frustrated and angry. If we got fired up about climate change, why not this??

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Rainallnight · 29/04/2020 23:39

OP, I guess this thread is answering your question!

But I’m baffled by it too. And I don’t understand all the shrugging on this thread. I’m furious.

Wearywithteens · 29/04/2020 23:39

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SomeHalfHumanCreatureThing · 29/04/2020 23:40

Oh, fuck off with your 'sheep like'. It's just a way of coping.

How does being furious help anything? All it does is make this harder.

I'm just aiming for peace amongst the horror. I can do that in my own house.

hammeringinmyhead · 29/04/2020 23:40

Well... it's quite hard to rage against the machine on this one. I see plenty of anger on social media but what can we currently do beyond that? It's not the same as being dragged into a war by a political leader and being able to physically protest.

Sleepyquest · 29/04/2020 23:40

Being angry is a bit of a waste of time. Can't change anything. I was really miserable at the beginning but it's amazing how time really does make things easier. I do think China were completely in the wrong and I wouldn't be surprised if Trump starts a war with them. They should also be forced to ban these disgusting wet markets (I don't know who by though)

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 29/04/2020 23:42

The british are angry at another country causing them pain and anguish and loss of freedom and decimating the economy??
Oh the irony.

"They don't like it up 'em."

I completely agree with you - and I am British.

LastTrainEast · 29/04/2020 23:42

"Is no-one out there demanding to know how on earth this was all able to happen?" we know how. Viruses are not new and nor are pandemics. You can get a book on it from the library.

Climate change is different because to some extent we can avoid it.

EmmiJay · 29/04/2020 23:43

I rant to anyone who will listen at this point. Alot of people seem to feel the same anger. I'm raging that all the hard work my DD has put into nailing her routine has vanished over night; I'm terrified shes going to slip back even though I'm trying my hardest with her education. Our freedom is gone. I am an anxious wreck when I'm outside and I know this will have a lasting effect and double my OCD woes. This whole PPE fiasco. Ugh. Theres just too much to list. I cannot wait for some sort of normality to return.

Poppinjay · 29/04/2020 23:44

There's no point in being angry with a virus.

I'm angry that senior government officials have made such a hash of managing the situation but I'm not convinced that slowing the progress of the disease more would have saved lives because it all depends on someone finding a treatment or vaccine.

I'm sad and frightened. That's probably enough.

LastTrainEast · 29/04/2020 23:44

Sadie789 you took a wrong turn. The David Icke forum is thataway lol

Thefaceofboe · 29/04/2020 23:44

What’s the point in being angry? I don’t wanna live my life like that

indemMUND · 29/04/2020 23:45

Enough people all being angry about the same thing in this day and age would only cause spates of anarchy that's not even close to dealing with where they think the problem came from, it'd only spill out in their own streets. People don't even unite enough to use their right to vote en masse in a way that would help themselves and their communities. Add anger to the ignorance and entitlement prevalent now. You'll only get racism and more stupidity. Anger at this situation is understandable, but it won't get us anywhere.

Mulhollandmagoo · 29/04/2020 23:46

There's nothing and no-one we can be angry at to a point where this situation is going to change because of it, and then we'll have to deal with the weight of our anger on top of everything else we're dealing with which will in turn make everything seem worse, and we'll find ourselves in a vicious cycle

Jakadaal · 29/04/2020 23:47

I am angry, I'm raging ... my DF died in his care home without his family. He was in a place of safety but ultimately he wasn't safe.

My DM and he would have been married 70 years in June but instead she had to say goodbye to him through his bedroom window. Then, because there was covid In the home he was treated as though he had the virus even though he wasn't tested. They were saying he might have to have a post mortem - he was 92 years old ffs. Eventually a death certificate was issued stating sepsis.

Because of the suspected covid contact the undertakers wouldn't embalm him and there was a danger they would not dress him for viewing - thankfully they did and my DM could finally say goodbye.

Funeral restrictions meant that not all of his grandchildren and elderly siblings could attend. No funeral cars. No church service. No singing.

But he is just another statistic that is blithely reported on every hour of the day. His fantastic carers looked after him and his other care home residents with basic PPE and with tears in their eyes.

Oh yes I'm very angry 😡

Sadie789 · 29/04/2020 23:47

But @Divebar my point is not that because people get upset about bin collections they need politicians to look after the big stuff for them, it’s that ... people get upset about bin collections and yet take all their freedoms away, threaten their livelihoods, prevent them from seeing loved ones, stop religious worship, cancel cancer operations... and everyone is seemingly okay with it?

Of course, this kind of reaction simply wouldn’t be possible without MSM carefully mustering fear and panic among the majority.

7Days · 29/04/2020 23:47

Blaming The Government for Lack of Freedoms. How utterly childish. Do you blame Mummy and flail out at her for not letting you get too near the cliff edge.

This is a virus. A totally natural phenomenon. They erupt now and again, and the fundamentals remain the same since even Biblical times. Keep separate. Let it die out due to lack of hosts. Thank God we have modern science and are not relying on lepers ringing bells to warn people to keep back.

Of course its shit. Of course there are questions to be answered regarding preparedness, response, weighting given to particular sectors when everything is being balanced.

Most people get that. But conspiracy peddlers can fucking do one.

Hagisonthehill · 29/04/2020 23:49

My DD age 16 was not surprised as we had talked about how we're were overdue a pandemic.Without the last one I wouldn't have been born.
Raging into the void may work for a day or two but then you need your energy to get yourself and others through it.
And you are only raging at this virus because it affect you.Did you rage at ebola,SARS,bird flu or ant of the other viruses that have move from animals to humans or was that 'other people' not you?

AlexaShutUp · 29/04/2020 23:49

I agree that anger is pointless. It achieves nothing. However, we do need to be asking questions about how this happened in the first place, why we weren't better prepared for a pandemic that had long been predicted, why we reacted so slowly despite what was going on in other countries and why our death rate currently appears to be one of the highest in the world. I think we should pursue answers to these questions relentlessly in order to learn from what's gone wrong, but I see little point in seeking someone to blame. It won't bring back the deceased and it will provide little comfort to the bereaved.

hehwb · 29/04/2020 23:49

Anger is a waste of energy at this point, it will make no difference to anything and you're not going to get any answers no matter how much you demand them as nobody knows them yet.

PickAChew · 29/04/2020 23:50

All that getting angry would achieve for me is stress. If I'm stressed my autistic boys pick it up and make my life hell.

indemMUND · 29/04/2020 23:51

Riots over the loss of freedom? It's a virus, how exactly do you make that your target audience without at the same time ensuring that it spreads? People could flip out all they like, not sure a virus would have the capacity to think "Oh shit, I'd better knock it off now".
If you think people are being sheep about this then maybe the actual point is getting through to them after all.

Theflushedzebra · 29/04/2020 23:51

I'm angry they didn't lockdown earlier, and I'm angry that NHS and other frontline staff don't have proper PPE.

I'm upset my DS1 won't get to sit his A levels, and that it looks like his first year of Unversity will be affected.

But I agree with the lockdown - I don't like the lockdown, but I agree it's what had to be done. I'm fearful that if we send the schools back too early, there will be a lethal second wave.

rogueantimatter · 29/04/2020 23:51

I am furious. The lack of PPE is absolutely sickening. As for Matt Hancock claiming it wasn't being used appropriately. And offering badges for sale to care workers. The way the government speaks to us is annoying. At best it's patronising, " We'll do the right thing at the right time" "follow the science", at worst it's divisive lies. How can they have any respect for themselves when they behave like this?

I keep wondering if the travellers returning from skiing trips had been doing something less 'posh' eg crochet or line-dancing would have been made to quarantine themselves. For want of that, thousands of people have died, thousands have lost their jobs, the economy will take years and years to recover and millions of people are stuck at home for the foreseeable future without being able to see loved ones.

As for the care home situation. So very disturbing.

Meanwhile brexit continues so that Jacob Rees Mogg can continue to make a fortune through short selling and betting against the £, while urging us plebs to " get behind the country and be positive".

How are people so easily taken in by the PM? He always looks shifty and uncomfortable. He can't ever just say something straight.

DamnYankee · 29/04/2020 23:51

I think it's ok to be angry. I know I am.
Anger makes some people really uncomfortable, though.
You just need to find a way to channel your emotions into positive action.
My daily run has never been more brilliant. I haven't run this far, this fast since high school! Grin
And then, afterwards, I feel sooo much better!

ArriettyJones · 29/04/2020 23:52

Anger wouldn’t help. In fact anger would make everything much worse.

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