AIBU to be highly offended by this?

[Keepcalmandcarryon7]

I'm in a very new relationship (6 months). Due to lockdown we haven't seen each other in about 5 weeks. We talk daily and have made plans for after lock down. He has asked to come over to mine several times but I have said no as it's against the rules. Anyway this evening we were talking as normal and he decided to ask me if I was trying to see/meet up with other men. To me this implies that he doesn't trust me and doesn't think much of me. I am a single mum at home with my children every day. He is also showing that he is a very insecure person amongst other things. Should I just get rid whilst still in the early stages? AIBU to be pissed off and ignore his numerous texts and phone calls?

Blimey, sounds like a proper catch !
You don’t need this.

Dump him. Assuming you’re trying to shag someone else cos you won’t meet him? 🚩

Yep, I also think there's the unsaid "... because that's what I'm doing." I think your instinct is right.

If you're annoyed/not happy, then you're annoyed/not happy. You don't have to put up with someone who's actions make you feel that way, especially that early in a relationship. He's too naggy/pressurizing, pushing at your boundaries and not respecting them. Life would be more peaceful without him- if not now then definitely further along the line.

How rude of him. Shows how much he trusts you.

"he decided to ask me if I was trying to see/meet up with other men"

I think it's fairly normal to have a talk about exclusivity at six months, probably overdue tbh.

Unless you mean he was accusing you of avoiding meeting up so you can have other men over?

Dump

Dump forthwith.

His behaviour and attitude now are a shadow of what’s to come if you choose a future with him.

Have you agreed to be exclusive?

We agreed to be exclusive from around the first month as things were going so well. I agree that when someone says such a thing they are probably doing it themselves, or planning to do so.

Have you agreed to be exclusive?
Reasonable thing to wonder about in normal circumstances, but not in lockdown when the op can't very well be gallivanting with all and sundry anyway.

Run as far and as fast as you can.

What a freak. Yes, dump him loud and clear.

I don't get the whole 'agreeing to be exclusive' thing. Maybe within the first couple of weeks, but any more than that isn't it pretty much assumed?

you've dodged a bullet there -get rid asap

I would just not bother with this man, he sounds like a numpty, and people who keep texting all the time, would drive me mad.

Oh how I love MN. All the advice to run for the hills. If you were the one to ask it would be your spidey senses dont tingle for nothing, check his phone

This would put me right off. Either he’s accusing you of cheating or (if you’re not exclusive) he can’t cope with the thought of you having an independent life. Both are worrying.

Perfect time to get rid!

Nah, dump.

Sounds like a deeper problem that won't go away after lockdown

Dump!

MN is so confusing. It’s a deal breaker for a man to just come out and ask if a woman is looking at other men (asking, are we exclusive) but it’s ok, even encouraged for a woman to snoop a man’s phone behind his back to make sure he’s not so much as texted “how are you?” to another woman.

“I don't get the whole 'agreeing to be exclusive' thing. Maybe within the first couple of weeks, but any more than that isn't it pretty much assumed?”

I think exclusivity was assumed for our generation, but my DCs assure me that it is the opposite now. It’s assumed you are not exclusive unless you verbally and specifically agree to be exclusive.

“I agree that when someone says such a thing they are probably doing it themselves, or planning to do so.”

I don’t agree with this. It is more likely that the person worried/asking their partner if they are seeing someone else is a person that has been cheated on in the past and so has trust issues.