DD punched a wall and is now in agony and can’t move her pinkie, will A&E see her?

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Had a row with her BF on phone and unfortunately punched a concrete wall not considering consequences. Is now in agony, can’t move her pinky finger and her hand is visibly not right. Ordinarily would take her down straight away but the hospital is a major city university hospital and I imagine (Well, also know based on what I’ve heard through social media) swamped with CV. The walk-in minor injuries centre near us is also now focused on CV and telling people not to come in and only go to A&E if it is life threatening, which DD’s situation isn’t. Otherwise they seem to just want you to suck it up. Don’t want to unnecessarily risk exposing her or our family to CV, especially if A&E won’t see her for the hand injury. She is 17 so I’d only be dropping her off as I doubt they’d let me in. Really I want to take her but DH is against it as is terrified of CV and wants me to look up how to treat it at home.

Why would anyone ring 111 for a potential fracture? It’s not something you can treat at home.

Depends on where it is. Fractured finger you can just strap up - a&e won't do anything more than that with it. Metatarsal's a bit more complicated.

I'd much rather people rang 111 to see if they needed to go to a&e rather than just scoot off there for any reason.

Glad you’re taking her OP.
And could somebody please point me in the direction of the info which has been telling people not to seek medical help unless it’s life threatening? I’m interested in specific government/scientific sources?

Public told not to put off medical care because of virus

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@GlummyMcGlummerson

I knew as soon as I read the OP that some sanctimonious little turds would pipe up and say "get anger management". She didn't hurt anyone but herself, bursts of anger are completely normal and you're a ridiculous shot stirring drama queen if you think one incident requires anger management.

Have you considered anger management?

Did they go?

Yes definitely take her

Is this a normal reaction from her or one that has come from lockdown.
These circumstances are unusual and can be frustrating. Your DH reaction as well is telling is his anxiety about CV creating an atmosphere in the family

There is a campaign now though to get people to go to the NHS. Yes CV is a nasty horrible and potentially fatal virus we should avoid but not at the expense of our health if we need to see someone

DH had to take DD on Thursday after an accident on the trampoline. He said that the were separating the Covid-19 patients and had them completely isolated from everyone else. They were seen, xrayed and had her diagnosed and strapped up within 90 mins.

OP it sounds like tensions are high in your house; a dd who punched a wall in frustration, potentially fracturing her hand and a dh who is so anxious about the virus, he didn't want said dd to seek medical treatment.

Sounds like you all need to look at ways to release anxieties and stresses. It must be tough on dd not seeing her boyfriend for so long.

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/apr/23/accident-and-emergency-department-coronavirus-hospital-serious-conditions

Also my best friend is an a&e Doctor. Confirmed the above is her experience too. Literally twiddling fingers waiting for patients

@Bringringbring12 stop trolling the poor woman!

On the BBC website now

bursts of anger are completely normal

Most of us manage to go through life without punching someone/something with sufficient force to break our hand. That's not normal behaviour.

DH not happy and is going on about how we’ll be “laughed out of the department”.

What's with all these opinionated asshole men at the moment? Every thread seems to have some 'D'H laying down the law about what his wife and family can and cannot do because of Corona.

If she can't move the finger and the hand looks "wrong" then she needs to be at A&E and I'm glad you're going despite what he has to say about it.

We had to head to A&E last week (head injury, but turned out to be fine) - it was very quiet, they were happy to see us, and we were in and out within an hour. Just in case anyone is nervous.

Glad you are taking her - at 17 she’s still classed as a child & I’d be going in with her ... they will let you :)

Depends on where it is. Fractured finger you can just strap up - a&e won't do anything more than that with it. Metatarsal's a bit more complicated.

How can you tell where or what the problem is without medical training or an X-ray machine?

What are you doing about the boyfriend, OP?

hope she’s ok?

What are you doing about the boyfriend, OP?

One hopes that she's making sure that he's safe and not at physical risk. It's probably best if she keeps her daughter away from him until she learns to control her fists.

Jeez there are some arsehole comments on here. She has anger issues and no doubt self harming? People need to stop being armchair psychologists and give advice relating to the actual OP's question.

I kicked a door in anger when I was 16 (broke my toe) and it most certainly did not begin a pattern of me going around kicking or whacking people. I hope she's OK, OP.

How can you tell where or what the problem is without medical training or an X-ray machine?

Sometimes it's obvious. I play a sport in which finger and hand injuries are common, and it really wouldn't make sense for us to scoot off to A&E for every sprain and swelling. I'm not saying anyone should self-diagnose but there seems little harm in speaking to 111 before committing to four hours in a&e.

She has anger issues and no doubt self harming?

She has punched a wall in anger and broken her hand. What do you understand the words in your sentence to mean?

It doesn't at all follow that she's going to turn into an abuser. But minimising what's happened as a little teenage hi-jinks helps no-one, not least the OP or her daughter.

Then let the op get her dd to a and e and let the hospital decide if she needs a referral to CAMHS or a Family Support worker.

As a parent to a teen with mh issues, I can't see any of these comments being helpful to the op right now

Then let the op get her dd to a and e and let the hospital decide if she needs a referral to CAMHS or a Family Support worker.

100% this.