AIBU I’m saying you have to spell everything out for men

[sunnyblossom1]

I asked my husband to make a telephone appointment for my two sons. They both have had their eczema flare up during the lockdown. The doctor rings me now about one child and when I ask about the other he says they are not on his list. When I ask my husband he says I rang and said I wanted a telephone appointment for two children but she only took details for one and so I thought that would be ok. Why does everything have to be spelt out for some people. No one gives us a manual when we have babies we just use our common sense. Aaaaaaah just had to vent as I didn’t want to cause an argument in lockdown. Will call docs tomorrow and sort it out as it’s easily done but it’s just the frustration sometimes.

@donquixotedelamancha glad I was able to help by spelling it out for you.

And just for clarification I didn’t say women don’t need it spelling out for us sometimes.

I'm not sure that's equivalent. Repairing a crack in a wall is something that needs done once in a blue moon.

What about mowing the lawn and putting the bins out?

Honestly, though, I think a lot of blokes just get tired of living with a moaner and switch off.

Unfortunately there are plenty of women who indulge men by infantalising them becoming a dogsbody

Especially when they're wearing love goggles and want to prove themselves as worthy marriage material. & Choose not to see actions (or lack of) that show the character of the man.

It's never admitted that women do this. I take the 'my husband is lazy/incompetent' complaints with a pinch of salt because these men were always like this. You don't have to live with a man to see that he has 'lazy' written all over him. There's always a sign. A decent man wouldn't let a woman cosset him. & A sensible woman wouldn't expect him to change as soon as they married. Actually they just think he 'should' change.

I will never understand what is attractive about selective helplessness.