To think I shouldn't be named and shamed for not clapping

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I clapped originally and it was lovely and everyone turned out for it here
Last week, after a rough night with DS I fell asleep after he went down and missed the clapping
A post went on our community Facebook group actually naming and shaming me.
I was mortified. The post said everyone else turned out and I showed the street up and if I can't spend a minute showing my appreciation I don't deserve to use the NHS if I or my family get ill
I ignored it at the time but I can't get it out of my head it's really upset me.

Posted too soon..
But hopefully it’ll make others realise this is NOT acceptable

Tbh, a lot of people on the comments have agreed that the OP or anyone shouldnt be obliged to clap.

Doing it as a one off, fine. Every bloody week? Well, now it's more about people looking good, then for the people they are meant to be clapping for.

I hate this kind of fascism. Totally unnecessary. Stand outside clapping or banging your saucepan or whatever if you like, fine, good on you. But don’t impose your actions on other people.

what a f*ing disgusting thing to do! I agree email back and say what happened! x

Name and shame the idiot that posted you out, and also name and shame the facebook Group. I promise you there lives will be destroyed in a matter of hours. They have no life what so ever and you have done nothing wrong.

Whoever named and 'shamed' you is an asshole!
You do not need to explain yourself.

I’ve just joined so I can comment!
I am a disabled lady living in the countryside on my own.No one knows if I clap or not.You can ‘applaud’ the NHS in a million ways.By staying in,by being supportive of families/singles who are frontline workers,by generally being ‘nice’. I have limited ways of helping but I’ve been sharing my deliveries with others and haven’t been outside my gate for a month.Lets all do our bit in our own way.Good luck to the lady and her son in original post.Never let anyone shame you for doing your best.

Don't have any NHS workers in my street - can't see then point of standing on my doorstep clapping thin air. Has anyone got any ideas of when clapping for the NHS will stop or is it going to carry on forever now.

I feel awful for you. The are going to be a lot of people with different reasons for not clapping.
We have missed the last two weeks, both times we've had stuff going on and I purely forgot.
It just goes to show how very inconsiderate people can be. In their world if it's not affecting them, it's therefore not happening. I'd have been tempted to write a reply. For all they know you could have had some bad news.

I think the support on this post shows how wrong this person was. X

This makes me really angry. I supported the NHS by not voting Tory and to remain in the EU. The vast majority who are clapping are massive hypocrites and I refuse to clap, it’s meaningless virtue signalling.

I would tell them I was taking a massive shit x

What a terrible thing to do to you! I can't believe people would be so absolutely 'nasty'. Try and ignore it. I love the NHS and everything about it, owe my life to it too, but have never gone out and clapped. Wouldn't it be better to do some crowdfunding to raise money for these heroic people that work so hard to help and protect us instead of being nosy busybodies!!!

I would answer like this (but that’s just me seriously & easy to say)

“We live on such a lovely street and the one good thing which has come out of this awful time is the sense of community.

I was actually putting my child to bed last Thursday - although it’s nobody’s right to know - and missed the clapping.

I’m genuinely surprised to have been singled out and honestly don’t think it’s an appropriate way to act.

I hope we can all continue to help each other over the next few months.”

Then complete silence - don’t answer a single response.

Yes it’s on sky news

Say sorry we're ill with Covid 19

You poor thing. This just shows what vile a neighbour you have if this is the way they act. Hopefully its just the one idiot and your other neighbours will take your side and ask them to take down the post.

Grimpos...you ok ??

That’s some BS! I’ve been out every week but forgot last night as I too had issues with my little one and I genuinely didn’t even know it was Thursday! I’ve been out every week, in the back garden first and then in the front last week (bet my neighbours thought I was a new by) I’ve donated lots of items to my local ICU for nurses and I’ve stuck to the rules like glue. I feel a little bad inside I didn’t clap last night but it wasn’t intentional- your neighbours are out of order I would be livid too

We have had a neighbour do this is awful, you go out if you want to ignore the haters or say you were putting child to bed

I also want to add that their are a lot of hypocrites. Clapping for NHS but not adhering to social distancing and purely fake people. They never help their neighbours

I work in the NHS frontline and I find the whole clapping thing a bit cringy. It just seems so hypocritical when people voted for a government that voted down a pay rise for nurses. Doesn’t make sense to me. My neighbour gets annoyed if I don’t go out so they can clap me and my husband who also works on the NHS front line. Would rather have a pay rise/ equipment that is not outdated and be paid according to the level of qualification/ responsibilities we take on ie masters degree and saving lives, while risking our own!

Your not alone OP.

10 Yr old DD loves to clap so last night she stood on the doorstep whilst I tidied the garden. About 20:05 we walk down the road for a quick stroll chatting to each other and a neighbour across the road started shouting at us 'Come on put your hands together! Clap for the NHS! Your a disgrace! Come on its not hard!'

Ive been at work this week caring for keyworkers children. My school donated our science and tech PPE to the nearby hospital weeks ago following my suggestion - not that that's important. DD found it very intimidating and it really pissed me off.

Clapping has become the new poppy.
Only done because it should be and to not means you hate everyone in the nhs.

I don't clap, I work in healthcare as do my siblings and it's cringe and mainly hypocritical.
Plus is really an excuse to ignore lockdown and chat to the neighbours.
The videos I've seen there isn't a lot of social distancing

I would respond on the same social media site. "For those of you that commented and agreed that I was out of order by not clapping on Thursday. I shouldn't have to explain, but here goes, after a tiring day, I fell a sleep before 8pm with my child. How dreadful of me. I didn't think I would be named and shamed by my neighbours. Probably the same people who liked comments over the last few months, about, if you can be anything, be kind. Such a shame that at this time, people felt a need to comment. Now I can't win, if I am out this thursday, you will think it is because of your comments, if I don't are you going to shame me again? Well shame on you if you commented or liked. Feel free to discuss face to face if you wish.

I’m a care worker. I have never clapped for anybody and I don’t need anybody clapping for me either.