My DP and I have been together for almost 2.5 years, having met online. We're both in our early 40s, he's been married before and has 2 DCs, I haven't, and have none. We both own our own homes, and live about 6 miles away from each other, I live alone (with a cat!), he has his DC part time (he works shifts, so it's not regular, but it's about 50% of the time).
We didn't see each other for the 1st 10 days of lockdown, trying to be good citizens, but it got too difficult (we have a very active sex life, amongst other things!) so he suggested I go over and then stay at his, which I did on 28th March. I stayed for about 2.5 weeks, only popping home twice (by bicycle, so no risk of infecting others!) to sort out the cat. It was pretty fine living together, considering, except for one thing: he refuses to kiss me! No other sexual activity has stopped. Well, I've refused to give him any bj's since he introduced that rule, obviously! And he's always refused to go down on me, but apart from that, full sex life has continued, just without any kissing on the lips.
He says it's because he's worried about me giving it to him - which annoys me, because I literally see no one apart from him, his kids & my cat, and I wash my hands assiduously & frequently - and about him giving it to me (he's a frontline police officer). My main counter point is that it's ridiculous when we're having sex and sleeping in the same way, as we're just as likely to pass it to each other that way as we are kissing. He says he really wants to kiss me, but I just can't believe him, and it's putting a real wedge between us because I feel that if he really did want to kiss me, he would, and this can only be an excuse, but that's because his rationale makes no sense at all to me and I can't believe he really thinks it?
So, AIBU to feel to angry and hurt, or does anyone else also think that kissing is much more risky than any other interaction?! Is anyone else interacting with their partner differently since this how covid-19 business started?! 