Neighbours and my WIFI

[Imrubbishatuserables]

Hey!
Straight to point I got a new neighbour in my block of flat a few months ago and she asked for my wifi password to connect her console to so they could watch netflix.. i thought why not.. one other thing connected to it wont harm and she has just moved in.. it's her first home she hasn't had chance to set up her own yet. She then gets a new tv in the last few weeks and connects to my wifi but she has also connected her phone and her mates phone to it as well as they are picking up our google speakers on the network her mate joked they should play songs through my sons one in his room from their phones. So I have no idea how to change the password but would I be unreasonable to turn it off every night at 8PM? Considering we are in lockdown and she cant get her own during this time as they will need to come and connect it up. Previous tenant in that flat never had wifi either.

I have changed the password and the router name so it doesnt look like it's my router anymore.. found some help on page 3 of google searching and it told me the username and password which wasnt admin (weird) but I have done it and they arent having it again. I've had enough of people that just take advantage. I'll try and stop being a nice person. Just cannot wait to get back to work now.

Just change your bloody password instead if handwringong on here.

I doubt the OP is reading this - she's switched her wifi off at the wall, after all!

OK, cross post !

Guessing you are in Hull op.

Don't wait until the morning.
If you can't work out how to change your router password tonight, then just turn off the router. If the CF neighbour tries to query it with you, just say that you got an unexpectedly high bill recently due to the fair usage policy being exceeded and you've taken to turning it off at night.
Then tomorrow, do Three things.

1. Work out how to change the name of your WiFi Connection and do it
2. Work out how to change the password to connect up to the WiFi connect and change it
3. Any device you have in your house, reconnect it to the WiFi router and then disregard any questions or issues from CF neighbour.

If CF neighbour contacts you again, just go with the acceptable usage policy (data download limits) and say that you were using excessive amounts of data during the lockdown and you are now keeping a much closer eye on how things got so out of hand. You are also not going to give out the password anymore as you're being a lot more security conscious during the lockdown.

Good luck!

Imrubbishatuserables Good for you! There some really pleasent people out tonite the pressures of lockdown, must be;!

If you really want to amw a full job of it change the SSID thats the name that on other peoples screens like "mywi-fi" and the like.

One of our locals once had;

"whichofyoucuntsvotedforbrexit?"

Bit more imaginative!

Well done, op. Don't be concerned for one second what this cheeky neighbour might think. If she asks, all you have to say is you are not willing to share your Wi-Fi anymore. End of conversation. She's taken the piss long enough.

I would actually say the opposite for now and don't get in an argument over something like wifi right now. So I wouldn't change the password at the moment.
But I would turn it off early and I would just say it keeps dropping out. If you have bad wifi she will probably be more inclined to sort her own out. If you change the password she'll just ask, and possibly keep asking, for your new password.

Definitely the type of person who doesnt like to upset people and just go out of my way to be nice. Without thinking of the consequences for myself.

Im no where near hull though :)

@ClareBlue her neighbour certainly thinks she's a mug. I don't think she is I think she's tried to be nice to someone and been royally taken the piss out of. When the Internet provider contacted me they said I could be held responsible for content, I've no idea if that's true or not but it scared me into having better Internet security.

Change your password, before she does!

Your kindness is being abused and the more devices on it, the slower it gets

Am pleased that you have changed your password.

When the Internet provider contacted me they said I could be held responsible for content, I've no idea if that's true

This seems to have been repeated a few times on here - it's not true.

It’s not about being ‘too nice’ or ‘too kind’ or ‘avoiding conflict’. It’s about not having learned how to create and manage healthy boundaries. A normal, positive, adult skill.

Assertive isn’t the opposite of ‘nice’. It is a key way to be nice- to yourself and others. Think of it as learning to be nice across the long-term, not just saying yes in one awkward moment and now souring neighbour relations and making yourself feel resentful into the bargain.

If your CF neighbour has the cheek to ask for it again just tell her you are protecting your son from possible invasion of privacy and she did well to have 4 free months out of you. If she starts with nastiness or a sob story just shout 'social distancing' and shut your door.

I’m always flabbergasted at these posts about sharing WiFi. A neighbour has never asked me
for my code! Ever. I find it so buzzword anyone actually would ask.

@Imrubbishatuserables Well done!

How did you hear your neighbour's friend joking about disturbing your son?

Perhaps a white lie with a bit of a warning?

Mention that your own stuff isn't working properly/has gone v slow as they are taking too much of your bandwidth and that in a couple of weeks you’ll be changing your password.

I think the suggestion that you’re now using your WiFi for work, and they’ve changed all passwords.

OP, you need to learn how to say no. You can be kind and assertive at the same time.

You're also setting a bad example for your son, as he won't learn how to establish boundaries, and will risk becoming a doormat.

Maker sure you switch your router off for a while, like overnight, then switch it back on in the morning and make sure your devices are connecting with the new password.
That should ensure that everying with the old password is kicked off and, she can't reconnect.

And like others have said, if she asks, say it's due to work. For security reasons.

I started a thread on this very subject a few months ago. A neighbour asked for my password and I just told her nicely that I do not give it to anyone. She was fine about it and just as well as no way would I share my wifi and pay all the bill. My charity does not extend to that.

Well done for working it out OP!

Don't stop being nice, but do be more aware of cheeky fucker advantage takers.

My lovely neighbour let me use her wi-fi for years but we are good buddies. They are taking the piss and you must just change your password - just google how to do it.
You don't need to give a reason but working from home security is a great one.