Another teens sleeping in late post

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My teenagers since the lockdown are up half the night and sleep in very late, most days till 1-2pm but eldest has slept till 5 some days!
I've now decided the mornings I leave them as it's my peaceful time , dh is decorating the house I work.at home atm. At around 1.30 I start waking.
To stop.my stress over it I decided as long as eldest gets uni work done and youngest does something constructive / creative ( no school work as GCSE yr) , they get fresh air every other day and we eat dinner together every evening that is reasonable.

What do others think esp those with teens

Am I being unreasonable with this plan ?

Nope pretty much the same here.
School back tomorrow so I will ask him to be up a bit earlier so he can do some work, but even so, won't be considering before 11.

YANBU, at least let them enjoy that one frowned-upon teen-specific thing for a bit while they're not allowed to do any of the other frowned-upon teenage things!

I’m a secondary teacher and am registering my students on a google meet at 8:40 tomorrow morning.
Obviously it depends on what your school is doing but it worries me that schools are doing such different things.

When you need to change their sleep pattern it's easiest to keep them up all night and the next day rather then trying to get them up earlier IYSWIM.

No point ours getting up early as the internet bandwidth isn't coping with me and DH WFH let alone them trying to do schoolwork 🙈

I had a rule growing up that I could only sleep in til midday.
5pm is ridiculous.

OP, I think a peaceful house is important, within reason.

If the work is being done, i would go with it.
One of my sons is night owl too.

They are lying in a bit late too.

I'm being flexible too.

As you are wfh, I go with it make life easier for yourself.

I could easily sleep until 2pm into my twenties. Getting up early has always been torture (though it has gradually improved with age) - luckily I have usually had jobs that start later than 9 am. If it doesn’t mess things up for the family as a whole I think your stance is reasonable.

As long as the work gets done, let them be. And did I read that right - you have a uni age adult?

I'm in my 40s and can still sleep in- I love duvet days! On Saturday I stayed in bed till 4pm ! Netflix on , no reason to go out so what the heck!

Unfortunately I'm working still but I'm not an early bird- I can still sleep 12 hours even now - I'd say if it's not causing any problems leave them to it . What do they need to be up for ?
I sow myself one massive au in a week - recharges my batteries!

Yeah dd (24) and ds (20) as adults I let them keep their own hours. It doesn't bother me. They are polite, helpful and good company so behave well. We all keep our own hours and need our own space at times, 4 adults living together in a stressful and unusual time.

Thanks only ds has to be awake for online uni lectures but they start end of April. DD has nothing as GCSE year so no work at all.

Can I add th 5pm wake up has only happened twice ! It's normally 2 ish

Bet parents of young kids can only dream of this problem 😉

Yes @imcockerhoop - I tend to do things the other way round nowadays and go to bed very early to get my ten hours in so I can still get up in the morning.

Mine are young teens... Almost 13 and 14. "Holiday" time I let them sleep till 10/10.30am but WiFi goes off at 10pm so they don't stay up really late. School started last week and they both have to register by 8.30am and seem fine with that and WiFi now goes off at 8.30pm. Far too much gaming have been going on but as long as they get their work done properly and get outside for exercise an hour a day... Its all good.

Mine are older - eldest turned 19 recently and youngest is 15. It's harder with the oldest as he's a young adult now ?

5pm doesn't sound ideal but teenagers' natural sleep patterns are very different from young children or adults. You've set some basic expectations eg eating dinner as a family and getting some fresh air. As long as these are met and they don't disturb you if they are up late and you have gone to bed, then I'd leave them to it.

My dd (17) has been getting up in time for 10 o'clock live video lessons with one of her teachers 3 times a week, but I leave her to it the rest of the time. She usually emerges about midday

I let mine sleep in, school aren’t doing online classrooms so his work can be done at any time. I work from home so get mine done early. We have our main meal together. Without the different sleep patterns we each would never get any time alone, not good with a moody teenager

Am a bit concerned by the schools that are apparently abandoning their Y11s during lockdown... the school where I govern still very much has these kids' education - both now and for the future - in mind.

What is it with parents hating teenagers sleeping?

Is it a "You must conform to my Norms" thing?

I do strongly dislike gone off food, and mould ridden cups in their rooms though.

They have settled into their normal rhythms. One (16) appears around 10am, one (20) somewhere around noon (although she was up at 1030 today,) and one (18) around 2.30pm. They scavenge for food periodically and disappear back to their hidey holes (16 isn’t a hider - she likes to work at the kitchen island) and we all eat together in the evenings, by which point they are craving a bit of social intercourse so I don’t even need to force it. The 16 and 20yo are working hard. 18yo is on temp lay off but as he gets up to start work at 6.30 when he has to, I can’t get excited about forcing him to maintain a schedule for the point of it. They all seem quite happy.

Malvina81 you have a good point, why do we as parents get agigated about teens sleeping in so late, maybe because the 'norm' is up early , breakfast, lunch , dinner, 'making the most of the day'

Gradually relaxing it here now and who cares if they sleep through breakfast and lunch, as long as the fresh air, family meals and any work gets done.

Been up working since 9 and it is peaceful and bliss!

I get one up at 12 and the other at 2pm. I can't think of any good reason to wake them up .

We get ours up at 12. They have to be downstairs - and dressed - for lunch at 12.30. PCs etc go off at midnight. They have to do some schoolwork and some exercise (easy as we live in a seaside village with tons of space).

I said I am waking mine by 2pm latest and they agreed to the 'deal'. There is no point waking any earlier (unless eldest has online Uni) as they just sit about on phones or ps4 anyway !

Also feel my year 11 child has been abandoned, nothing from school at all. Its like they've just forgotten , Ive emailed school but no reply.!