Another teens sleeping in late post

[Busymum45]

My teenagers since the lockdown are up half the night and sleep in very late, most days till 1-2pm but eldest has slept till 5 some days!
I've now decided the mornings I leave them as it's my peaceful time , dh is decorating the house I work.at home atm. At around 1.30 I start waking.
To stop.my stress over it I decided as long as eldest gets uni work done and youngest does something constructive / creative ( no school work as GCSE yr) , they get fresh air every other day and we eat dinner together every evening that is reasonable.

What do others think esp those with teens

Am I being unreasonable with this plan ?

1:30/ 2 is way too late I’m my opinion . Literally half the day has passed !
I’d let ds sleep in till midday at the latest but now he’s finished uni and is working from home he is up by 7:30 ,sometimes earlier and will go for a run before logging on at 9am.
He goes to bed around 12am

Why are you monitoring your eldest doing Uni work? I just let them get on with it!

Ref, no layins

I didn't have a choice !, my parents ran a very strict household

It has helped me when I've been in education or employment

My 14 year old was always a early riser even in the holidays.
Since the lockdown he's been sleeping in longer. When I asked why this is he said it's helping him cope with the situation.
So fair play to him.

My 16 year old sleeps till 12. I just let her get on with it. She is up to date with school work etc. She comes downstairs when she’s hungry and we all go out for a long walk in the afternoon- we live rurally. She says she likes sleeping late as it helps the days to go more quickly! She is really missing her friends and sixth form. It’s a very difficult time for teens.

I’m leaving mine to it. Of the 3 teens 2 are sleeping late and 1 isn’t. They’re all getting school and uni work done, they eat round the table with the rest of us at dinner time and are generally coping pretty well with the situation.

It’s much easier for them to get online in the afternoon and early evening for school work. The speed is dire in the morning, presumably because of the sheer number of people using it.

I’m another one who can’t believe your GCSE child has no school work. Don’t you and your husband think you should be setting something yourself for her. Starting to look at the A level curriculum maybe?

I cba with people who think everyone should be up early in the morning just because. There's plenty of evidence to suggest that different people have different bodyclocks, so the idea that we should all fit into some arbitrary timetable is just bonkers.

1:30/ 2 is way too late I’m my opinion . Literally half the day has passed

So? It's not your day. It's theirs.

we’re all lazy in our house so we’re loving the late starts. my 6 year old gets up at about 12ish, my 12 year old about 2. the baby wakes at about 10 but my boyfriend gets up with her so i can sleep in. we’re due a new baby in 3 weeks so we’re all getting as much sleep as we can before then. it works for us so bugger what other people think.

Half the day hasn’t passed if you don’t go to sleep until 4am

Half the day doing what though? We have nothing but time just now. Sleeping half the day away makes the days feel faster in my opinion which is no bad thing at the moment. Also as said above it’s not half the day if you’re up all night.

I think there is a balance to be struck. Sleeping until 10 or 11 am sounds ok. Staying up most of the night, being online, and then sleeping for half the day doesn’t sound that healthy - physically or mentally.

My 14 year old has to log in for school every day before 9 am but even in the holidays and weekends she hasn’t been sleeping later than 9.30 am, but she does a lot of exercise.

My yr 11 DS is usually awake between 10/11am, so not too bad. I dread to think what time he goes to sleep, but it's definitely not before midnight!

He's another one who's school seems to have forgotten he exists . One of the two colleges he's applied to have sent a small bit of work to keep them going, unfortunately though it's the college he's unlikely to go to, so he's not overly interested in looking at the work. Hoping the other college follows suit soon!

@ LagunaBubbles the whole point of the thread was to ask opinions on this .. that’s what I’ve given !

I'd be in bed til lunchtime if it wasn't for my toddler to be honest. There is nothing at all pressing or urgent to do by a deadline at the moment.

fluffybutter

Yes your opinion is half the day has past but my opinion is you can't control what others do with their day so saying half the day has past is pointless really.

@Busymum45

Just out of interest how is your DD planning on coping with A levels (assuming she's planning on doing them?) if she does no work between now and then?

As the parent of a toddler, leave them be. I wish I’d made the most of my lie ins when I could!

We asked college if we can order books now to get started but they said not to do that as they are sorting the curriculum and don't want anyone doing things in advance.

So what is she supposed to do exactly?

I have 13 & 16 year old boys who go to sleep later than me so who knows what time and wake between 11-12pm. To be honest, I don't wake them unless it's gettjng to 11.30 as sleeping the morning away is enough and it really messes up mealtimes! By the time the eldest comes down getting his breakfast, it can be nearing 1pm and I've just cleared way my lunch things!

I'm really trying to leave them to it as they're both doing school work (even the Year 11 one) getting exercise most days and we're doing more as a family than ever. Saying that, I couldn't cope with later wake ups than midday!

So what is she supposed to do exactly?

Well I assume if she'd had GCSEs she'd have been revising and consolidating that knowledge to ensure she knows it thoroughly. I expect she'd be able to do similar consolidation work in terms of making notes and revising key concepts to ensure she's prepared for A levels.

Just my opinion though, and you know her best and evidently think she'll be fine going into A levels after months of doing nothing

Personally I wouldn't be happy with my kids sleeping through the whole day. It's not good for them (particularly mental health wise). Mine luckily are pretty sensible and on school days like to follow their timetable and school hours so were up this morning by 8 and started lessons at 9. At weekends and in the holiday they were up no later than midday. It's good for them to spend time with us too and get outside in the sunshine. Just my opinion though - lots of their friends are up all night and waking up late in the day.

Staying up most of the night, being online, and then sleeping for half the day doesn’t sound that healthy - physically or mentally.

But why not?

@Busymum45 - you are me. If someone read your OP and knew me they’d think I’d written it! I have eldest who’s a univ student, and second child is GCSE year. They also get up really late, and stay up late. We eat an evening meal together every night but apart from that they are upstairs on computer/laptop . I also have KS2 DD who I have to home school - whilst working full time so that’s a juggle. GCSE child is still doing some maths as he’s going on to do Maths A-level, and reading around his other subjects. Univ student still has assignments to complete and is revising for online exams.