AIBU to feel gutted at the loss of my pet

[whatisforteamum]

I realize people have lost family members and to most this is just a pet so I apologize and don't mean to cause offence.
Thursday I had to have my much loved 15 yr old cat put to sleep.She fell into.breathing difficulties a week ago pills didn't work and she had a tumour.
Yesterday I felt drained exhausted and very tearful.She used to sleep on my bed so she woke me up and was my company when I had days off.as I work unsociable hours.She was the last thing I saw at night when I get home at 1030.
When we left home and was a great comfort.to me.Dd loved her to bits.
When df died a few years ago I'm certain she knew.I was.depressed.I didn't cry much but she purred and became quite.clingy.
My dh isn't always nice.to me so her company became something positive.
I feel empty my room looks empty without her.I do have other smaller pets but it isn't her.
I have had bouts.of anxiety and found her energetic presence calming.Anyone else felt like this about their pet?

I meant to say gutted** not better in the title!

I’m so sorry for the loss of your lovely cat. It is completely normal for you to feel this way. We lost our cat at Christmas and I was heartbroken, I have only just been able to look at his photos on my phone and smile.

Pets are family and a few people don’t understand that but lots of people do and will feel the same as you. It will get easier and then there will be times when it breaks your heart again .

I get it op, it does hurt to lose a furry friend and it will take time to learn how to manage your feelings. Be kind to yourself

Pets over people

I'm so sorry about your cat. It's heartbreaking isn't it

Sending you a huge hug. What a horrible time for you. YANBU that you're feeling this way over the loss of your pet, pets become like family members to us. I don't have any advice only that you're definitely not being unreasonable, but I couldn't read and ignore this. Hope you're ok OP

OP I would maybe ask MNHQ to edit the title as no doubt you will get people who don’t read your post and will start bashing you for being happy your pet is dead

I completely get it, so sorry for your loss

I get it op. I lost one of my beloved cats almost two years ago and I still feel like I've been punched in the stomach when I think about him passing. I do miss him terribly

I get it completely, we were just saying the other day that pets make this easier.

So sorry for your loss

I was like that at the loss of my last cat. He knew me so well. Losing him truly broke my heart.

How do I get MNHQ to edit the title?

I’ve reported it for you.

So sorry got your loss. Pets are family here.

So sorry for your loss. My beautiful boy died a year ago, I still miss him. A new rescue cat has helped heal my heart but doesn’t replace my boy.
Feeling bereft for the loss of you faithful friend is natural. Im so sorry

@whatisforteamum

How do I get MNHQ to edit the title?

We've edited it for you now, whatisforteamum.

So sorry for the loss of your dear cat, especially at such a difficult time.

Sending good wishes.

I really do feel for you OP. They are not just pets but a valuable member of your family. It’s their unconditional love that binds them to us.
I’m so sorry that you have lost her and you have every right to feel gutted at her loss. She was lucky to have such a caring owner for 15 years and I’m sure she loved you as much as you loved her. Keep strong. ❤️

Thank you Jo mumsnet 😊

I was devastated when my dog died. They are such a big part of our lives. Be kind to yourself

Nannewnanew thank you.That made me cry.She did love me and everyone who passed out house.For many years she ran up to school children who passed by much to their delight
.Our dd couldn't say goodbye.She loves animals too.
Hard to distract myself without work.

I am sorry for all your losses.We love them so much don't we.!

I'm very sorry for your loss. I've had my share of human bereavements but I still miss my furry best friend every day.

They're with you 24/7 and stay with you through thick and thin, and you really do experience genuine love.

I hope you can take comfort from the fact you could give her a lovely and long life xx

I had my oldest cat put to sleep on Wednesday so I understand your very raw pain. He was 15 years old and was loving life (if a bit creaky!) up until a week ago.
It was quick, painless and the vets were amazing. I know it was the right choice for him.

for everyone who has lost a pet.

I’m sorry for your loss. Our pets are dear, close and true friends who bring us quiet comfort. It’s natural to mourn their passing.

I’m dreading the day I lose my dog. Can’t imagine loving another one so much!

Eatdessertfirst I am sorry for your loss. I feel silly being so upset over a pet.They are just so dependant on us and give us such great fun.

Im so sorry for you're loss and definitely NBU to be gutted. Pets are part of the family and some people have no other family apart from their pets

Not being unreasonable at all, I'm.so.sorry for your loss. I have a cat I adore and would feel the same xxx

Never feel silly for crying over the loss of a pet. I lost both my girls within 10 months and still feel sad now sometimes. They were my friends, they got me through a horrible breakdown years ago as although I didnt care about my own life I had to get up and function to take care of them.
The house didnt feel like a home after that so I rescued a kitten.
She s now 3 and such a friend and a comfort.
You need to grieve and anyone who minimises your loss isnt worth knowing imo.