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AIBU to feel gutted at the loss of my pet

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whatisforteamum · 18/04/2020 08:55

I realize people have lost family members and to most this is just a pet so I apologize and don't mean to cause offence.
Thursday I had to have my much loved 15 yr old cat put to sleep.She fell into.breathing difficulties a week ago pills didn't work and she had a tumour.
Yesterday I felt drained exhausted and very tearful.She used to sleep on my bed so she woke me up and was my company when I had days off.as I work unsociable hours.She was the last thing I saw at night when I get home at 1030.
When we left home and was a great comfort.to me.Dd loved her to bits.
When df died a few years ago I'm certain she knew.I was.depressed.I didn't cry much but she purred and became quite.clingy.
My dh isn't always nice.to me so her company became something positive.
I feel empty my room looks empty without her.I do have other smaller pets but it isn't her.
I have had bouts.of anxiety and found her energetic presence calming.Anyone else felt like this about their pet?

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Dita73 · 18/04/2020 23:55

I’m so sorry you’ve lost your dear cat.
YANBU and you’re actually having the reaction that you should have. If people don’t love their animals and they’re not part of the family then they shouldn’t have them in my opinion. It’s very early days so you will feel rotten but things will improve. It’s lovely that you loved your cat so much but I am so that you feel so bad.
My deepest condolences and I hope you feel better soon Flowers

Dita73 · 18/04/2020 23:56

*so sorry

Tired5421 · 19/04/2020 07:59

I just lost my Dad.
However, I’d still be absolutely heartbroken if my dog died, the loss of any family member is awful.
Of course you’re allowed to feel gutted, hugs for you x

Mittens030869 · 19/04/2020 08:40

It really isn't silly, OP, I'm so sorry about your beloved cat. Thanks

I remember how devastated I was when I had to have my 13 and a half year old companion cat, whose health had broken down through the stress at coping with our new DD, who had come to us aged 1. She couldn't cope with the change and had been over grooming as a result. Then she developed all sorts of other health problems as well, and it just wasn't fair to put her through years of medication when she was so unhappy. The vet also told me that she wouldn't cope with being rehomed either.

It became clear that I had to make the heartbreaking decision to have her PTS. She came to me as a rescue cat at 3 years old, when I first bought my one bedroom flat in London and went with me when I moved away to be with my DH, and through years with infertility.

My DD1 (now 11) was 2 and a half when my cat died and she adored her, the cat's name was her first clear word. She was very attached to her, it was unfortunate that the cat never got used to her, but she was already 12 so it wasn't surprising.

It took me a long time to come to terms with the loss as she was such an affectionate cat. (She won my DH over, too, who had never wanted pets before he met me.) I have 3 lovely furry friends now, and I wouldn't want to be without them.

Please be kind to yourself, OP. It will take time to come to terms with your loss.

TravellingSpoon · 19/04/2020 08:46

YANBU at all Op. I am so sorry for your loss. It is like losing a family member, that is how I would feel if we lost our cat. Especially when she has been such a comfort to you.

Fluffybutter · 19/04/2020 08:49

I’m so sorry to read this , these pets really do touch our hearts.
I was cleaning out the garage last week and found my old, cats brush and a couple of toys , all the emotions rushed back .
I still miss him terribly .
I have two more cats now but they were never a replacement.

whatisforteamum · 19/04/2020 09:03

Tired5421 I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad.Be kind to yourself.
Thank you all for your stories of beloved pets and kind wishes.I feel less alone.
Somehow our Fur friends give us unconditional love.😽

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