AIBU to feel gutted at the loss of my pet

[whatisforteamum]

I realize people have lost family members and to most this is just a pet so I apologize and don't mean to cause offence.
Thursday I had to have my much loved 15 yr old cat put to sleep.She fell into.breathing difficulties a week ago pills didn't work and she had a tumour.
Yesterday I felt drained exhausted and very tearful.She used to sleep on my bed so she woke me up and was my company when I had days off.as I work unsociable hours.She was the last thing I saw at night when I get home at 1030.
When we left home and was a great comfort.to me.Dd loved her to bits.
When df died a few years ago I'm certain she knew.I was.depressed.I didn't cry much but she purred and became quite.clingy.
My dh isn't always nice.to me so her company became something positive.
I feel empty my room looks empty without her.I do have other smaller pets but it isn't her.
I have had bouts.of anxiety and found her energetic presence calming.Anyone else felt like this about their pet?

I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a much loved pet is heartbreaking.

You said: "My dh isn't always nice.to me so her company became something positive."

Are you able to work on the issues with your dh?

Sorry for your loss. It is not unreasonable to grieve for your beloved pet - they are part of the family - and a huge part of your daily routine. Mine have given me a lot of love and joy during the lockdown.

You aren’t being at all silly. Of course it’s natural to grieve for a much-loved pet who has been your companion and emotional support for so long. Anyone who says they are ‘just’ a pet is an uncaring bellend with no clue.

I am so very sorry for your sad loss.

I've lost 2 of my darlings this year. My lovely old pony aged 27 and my little dog suddenly last week. I feel as if a hole has been punched in my chest and I miss them both terribly.

Hugs OP. It's a pure love we receive from our pets ❤️

Please don't feel silly, you have lost a friend - a loving life. Loosing a loved pet is so sad. And in these strange times, your loss is not silly. Big hug OP.

I am so sorry for the loss of your cat. It’s heartbreaking.

I had one of my boys PTS 4 weeks ago yesterday. I collected his ashes a fortnight ago, so he is home. I still see him out of the corner of my eye, and think I hear his flat miaow (as he was deaf). I miss him draping himself all over me every evening and falling asleep.

YANBU OP, as I am the same a month on. It does get better, as I have had 3 PTS before, when old ago and cancer hit, and I can look at their photos, and remember their foibles with a grin, but it takes time.

When my cat die four years ago I've never known grief like it. He was only four and I adored him. Pets are part of the family, they love is unconditionally and us them. I still feel sad now when I think about him.

YADNBU Let yourself grieve

Aw bless you OP. It really does hurt. Hope you feel bit better soon

Tiddytid that is hard.😢I am sorry.Everyone else too.I think because my dm only thinks of them as pets and has no desire for them herself I do feel a bit silly previous cats I have gone in with to be euthanised.in the present circumstances I wasn't allowed quite rightly so .
I will miss my Fur friend to hug and chat too.Thankfully she was only struggling for under a week.

YANBU. We lost our beloved staffie three years ago and it was devastating.

I lost my cat 7 months ago, had her over 15 years, I still miss her. I do have a dog so her loss isn’t as obvious around the house, but I would love to have a cat too. My DM doesn’t want me to get another cat as she misses the cat so much (she used to stay with DM if we were away).

I'm so sorry OP. Losing a pet is terrible. They're a member of the family.

So sorry for your loss OP. She wasn’t just a pet. She was your friend and companion and you loved her.

Sorry to hear about your loss of your cat. I think the reason we grieve for our pets so much is because animals are such innocent beings, they can't be malicious. And they have so much love to give us.

Posted too quickly - sorry for your loss

I am so very sorry for your loss. Our pets are such a part of our lives that the grief and pain we feel is very real and understandable . When the grief is less raw you will remember all the good memories.

Absolutely not unreasonable! Sending you love. It's awful. I had my dog put to sleep on 1st April. His back legs had gone and he couldn't walk. He was a doberman and would have been 10 in June. I am heartbroken as he has been by my side since he is the was 7 weeks old. Only apart for 5 days in those 9 years.

My dog died on the 3rd. Had him 13 years. It’s like having to begin a new life. He followed me everywhere and also slept with me. You have to remember your car was old and it was their time. Remember the good memories you have

One of our cats had to be PTS two months ago and I was a grief-stricken mess to start with. I was crying pretty much all the time for the first week.

YANBU, it’s heartbreaking. Two months out I’m at “normal” sad, not “a complete mess” sad.

I’m so sorry

I have known true loss. I have been beaten and broken - literally.

And yet if you ask me what hurt me the most, it would be the loss of my dog. She became my everything and although I learned to get on with my life, my heart has never healed since she died. She was my reason to be happy.

You are not silly grieving. Why wouldn’t you grieve for those you loved?

I’m so sorry

I’m so sorry that you’ve lost your beautiful cat. I have a 14 year-old who’s always in the same room as me and sleeps on my pillow (even although DH doesn’t like it). I absolutely dread the day when I have to say goodbye.

Sending you lots of love

YANBU at all