To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

[garlicbread82]

MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

I think 2 big mac is not excessive eating for an adult. If you feel resentment against your dh doing that, then I don't think I can understand you ever, op.

Agree it’s totally too much but you do sound very controlling.

And please check with your local Food Bank if they really want Easter Eggs, I help with our local one and we were inundated with Easter Eggs, got loads left as it is. I know it’s a very kind gift but basic food supplies would have been much more useful. The same with Christmas when we are given endless Advent Calendars .....

some if the replies on this thread are hilarious 🤣.

Your MIL means well, but considering DENTIST IS NOT OPEN for who know how many more months.. I will be very careful with sugary food intake in general. I read a thread while ago on here that someone's child broke a teeth and nerve was showing but can't get the treatment from anywhere because of covid-19 is going on

BTW well done for maintained social distancing with your MIL to your kids, and donating some chocolate to the food bank, I'd have done the same!

There is no pleasing some people. Takes one to know one.

FFS. I thought this site was for adults. 🤣

Where’s she from? ExMIL is from S. Wales and the heaps of presents/volume over quality ‘big reveal’ seems to be de rigeur. Once I realised that I couldn’t get so animated about it.

DP’s Ex is from Scotland and they have a similar approach so DC see their step siblings getting these piles of gifts (and 6 eggs/bunnies each this morning!) whereas they’ve just got 1 medium egg each- they don’t seem particularly bothered just excited to have a video call. They cheerfully agreed Glasgow must be at the start of the Easter bunny’s round and his bag must have been emptier once he got to England

So I guess my point is it probably doesn’t matter if they get loads or one as long as it’s consistent- they accept their own experience as ‘normal’.

@NoMorePoliticsPlease

“I dont buy my grandchildren easter eggs, I value their teeth”

Good on you . I wish more people thought like this.

Yeah, your MIL sounds OTT - but equally you sound very controlling and judgemental, with a corresponding lack of self awareness. Sad all round for the DC - growing up with a clenched up DM who sucks the fun out of things and a madly over-compensating GM which leads to toxicity and conflict.

I get your point OP but it probably would have been easier all round if you had did as others suggested and slowly/quietly donated the eggs without anyone realising

Your MIL can do what she wants, but I agree it's way too much.

I'd be giving them one a week, and also donate a few to a hospice or food bank.

You need to speak to her and let her know it's too much and this is what you intend to do, she'll get shitty but hey ho.

OP is entitled to bring up her children as she wants to - if you have a problem with that then perhaps it's that you're getting a sneaky feeling that your own way isn't perhaps the right one?

Hope you stretched before making that leap. 😂😂

I was under the impression that the children had two parents who are bringing up the children.

too much. you did the right thing imo.

Your MIL means well, but considering DENTIST IS NOT OPEN for who know how many more months.

If only we had some sort of teeth cleaning paste and a device with which to use it... 🤔

OP you seem to be stuck in a battle with your mil. You want her to do what you want. E.g only giving dc one egg each.
I admit 10 eggs each is excessive, not to mention expensive. Wouldn't be too bad if it was the £1 eggs because it would of only spent £10 per dc.
I think you should step back say thank you and just limit your dc to how much they have and use the rest up in baking.

I'm just surprised you feel the need to ask. Are 30 Easter eggs excessive? 🤔

Yeah, your MIL sounds OTT - but equally you sound very controlling and judgemental

That's kind of the problem when you have a relative hell bent on stamping all over the boundaries you set for your own children though. You tend to end up fucking hating them, not wanting them within a million miles of your children and keeping them as much at arm's length as you can possibly manage!

Picture the scene - a MIL who talks to OP about presents, takes on board 'how you do things' in your home and is generally kind and non-pushy... do you think OP would react the same, feel the same? Doubt it.

MIL is reaping what she's sowing basically.

My kids eat sweet stuff and have no fillings

@Ineedabreak19 “some people me couldn't get hold of any chocolate eggs because they'd all sold out.“

Shame you didn’t live in my area. My normal supermarket has been selling all their eggs bogof, over at least the last 5/6days, as they had so many left! They have also donated cases of chocolate eggs to the nhs, police, fire service as well as local care homes!

What if everyone bought 10 eggs - You did, your DPs did, Aunts and Uncles did - You'd have to dedicate a spare room just to store them

Pre approved gifts 🤣🤣🤣

Recycle the packaging, eat / store the eggs.

Assuming you just don't like your MIL much tbh

Ah I see garlic. The eggs wouldn't be such an issue if she wasn't a pain in the arse

2 big macs is excessive, that's nearly half a mans daily calorie intake

• Do what you want - let the OP do what she wants to. These are her children, not yours

They are also her husband’s children, is he not allowed to count?*

Yabu and abit rude. Its easter, your mil is not seeing her grandchildren at the moment. Id let your children appreciate the eggs and the fact granny gave them for a few days. The food bank is drowing in easter eggs this year. In a couple of days id break up the chocolate of most of the eggs and use it for making rice cakes over the next year. If you want to give anything to the foodbank..the toilet rolls and pasta. Can see why your dh upset with your behaviour. Its easter. As for the person who said they didnt get easter eggs as they value the teeth more. Im shocked. Its easter..everything in moderation and give a teethbrush too if you so worried. Happy easter everyone. X