To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

[garlicbread82]

MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

Ten is crazy. One is fine.

Pics or it didn’t happen 🤷‍♀️ don’t get so worked up over rubbish, people.

Way to much ! My parents buy one egg and then a book or craft etc

Pics or it didn’t happen 🤷‍♀️ don’t get so worked up over rubbish, people.

Have to say, I agree.

@Idontwantthis no doubt you get wound up by stuff I would find ridiculous too.

YANBU, that’s a seriously crazy amount. My DC usually get maybe four or five each and because there’s four of them it looks like a lot. This year it didn’t happen because family all live a distance away, they sent alternative gifts in the post instead which was lovely. There’s no need for the excess of chocolate.

It's like those horrible pictures at Christmas with hundreds of presents under the tree. A relentless and depressing competition of mass consumption for no reason and makes the gift giving meaningless.

I read page 1 but not rtft as 12 pages long now, but I'd have just kept the chocolate an doled out as treat every now and again or used it with the kids when baking etc. I can see why you might not want them to eat them all at once but also it does seem ungrateful to get rid of them when mil has paid good money for them.

I'm having trouble picturing transporting 30 large eggs. How did she get them all to the checkout? Must be 3 trolleys worth! Also we bought 5 for us all and they took up the whole front seat! That's dedication from grandma all right.

OP this has made the Daily Mirror.

OP this has made the Daily Mirror

That's because we don't have proper journalists anymore. Just lazy low skilled 'writers' who trawl the internet recycling other people's stories.

@sweeneytoddsrazor I was just going to say this! Just seen it shared on Facebook

As others have said why would they need to eat them all in one go? Be grateful you have a MIL who is healthy enough to drop things in & that wants to spoil her grandkids? You sound cranky.

Left over eggs are great for baking throughout the year.

I can't believe folks on here think it's perfectly acceptable for a grandmother to rock up with thirty large Easter eggs . Feel bad for those families who couldn't get to the shops or when they tried there were no eggs left due to arseholes filing up there baskets. Is this level of egg sharing normal? It does sound like she is competing and it's so stupid. My DC always do an egg hunt and only one set of grandparents get them an egg and it's one each. They have a perfectly good relationship with my kids without feeling the need to ignore my wishes or try to take the shine off my efforts for Christmas and Easter. I would have put my foot down too as would my DH. Your MIL and you should be on the same page and she might find she has a happier and healthier relationship with you all.

10 each is wildly excessive. However you're not going the right way about 'gaining control' for want of a better saying. The more rules you give her, the more you 'say something' to her and show you're rankled in a stifled faux polite way the more this 'game' will go on. My mil used to play these passive aggressive power games. (very messed up riddled with unspoken issues family) I kept being nice. Really sweet and nice to her. E. G she'd say catty passive aggressive things (I'd ignore) then bring her a pot of my home made stew on our walk out. Donated with a smile. It killed me. But it worked. We're now on good terms and the 'games' have stopped. She was reaping no satisfaction from it. So take the eggs with a thanks and a smile. Dole them out as you the mother sees fit and do what the hell you like with the rest. Don't make it a big deal. Stop reacting unless it's absolutely vital to do so.

That probably wasn't overly clear but what I'm saying is ignore (best you can) grit your teeth and keep being nice. If it is a game - the reward is a reaction and to make you look the bad guy in the process is like bonus points. Take yourself out of the ring. It'll kill you a bit for a while but if she stops getting the reaction the game will get boring very very quickly

This story has just come up on my Apple newsfeed

@sweeneytoddsrazor Oops! Does anyone have a link? Hope MIL doesn't see

Yeah, you seem really concerned about that.

Oh god your kids are really young too, you only have one who could really have any concept of stretching things out. The youngest two would surely just be after them all the time.

Me and dh have had a medium sized one each, the kids have had a smarties sized one each from us and my parents - so two each. I think that’s normal. Mil will probably give them mini eggs and an egg cup when we finally see them.

10 each is bonkers and I hope the checkout assistant gave her a hard stare!

@garlicbread82 No photo of all these eggs then?

I think there is more to your unhappiness than just the Easter eggs.
You sound tired of her. I think 30 is too many but I would find it fun if it was once a year or twice.
I don't know what to say because doesn't sound like your husband see any issue.
I don't think you get on well before this Eastergate.

Is garlicbread82 a journalist ?

I literally couldn't get upset about it , if just ration them out let them have 1\2 a week eat and Nick one each to eat in front of the tv 😂 x honestly does it really matter , don't let it get to you , that's what she wants , my mum used to do stuff like this now she doesn't as I don't get annoyed x smile say Thank you that's great and stop buying eggs yourself as you know they will have loads and get them something like a book instead , even better tell her she can do the egg hunt for them next year 👍 x

A lot of things going on here...

-10 eggs each is obviously an insane quantity alongside whatever else the kids have got
-if you've clearly specified a number that would be acceptable, then it's a big red flag that your boundaries aren't being respected
-if the kids had already seen all the eggs it was mean to make them select the one they could keep and feels a bit like you are displacing your anger at the MIL onto the kids and making them deal with it. Way better to just select the ones they could keep without giving them a choice or letting them know that there were more, that way they can't feel hard done by.