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To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious

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garlicbread82 · 12/04/2020 09:27

MIL has just dropped off 10 easter eggs each to my 3 DCs (we maintained social distancing, she left them at the end of the path).

Now dont get me wrong, I am greatful, but 10 each? Really? I think this is not only overzealous, it also undermines me. I have told her in previous years that one egg each is more than enough, and maybe a small gift, however she continues to undermine me in front of my DCs.

I have allowed my DCs to choose one egg each from the pile to go with the eggs they have already received, and the rest will be dropped off at the local food bank next week. DH thinks I am being unreasonable, and has gone upstairs in a huff Hmm Happy Easter hey?

AIBU?

OP posts:
Mummyshark2019 · 13/04/2020 02:30

Yes that's too much chocolate. We've opted to not do eggs this year.

1300cakes · 13/04/2020 03:01

I was going to say yanbu as you've given MIL a very reasonable previously and she didn't listen.

However reading your posts where you say the eggs are "grotesque" in size and describe primly doling out one single egg to each child before getting rid of the rest makes me think you do have some food issues.

1300cakes · 13/04/2020 03:02

*very reasonable request that should say

lilmishap · 13/04/2020 03:05

"They're not your eggs to give away"
"They don't belong to you"
"Space them out"
"Nobody said they had to eat them all at once"
How can you ration your child's chocolate by witholding it and releasing it in increments when you can't decide how much they should have because it's not your chocolate to interfere with?.

Thank christ adult experience, guidance, legal responsibility, boundaries and parents exercising the right to parent outrank any ownership by a child

LoveIsLovely · 13/04/2020 03:11

"However reading your posts where you say the eggs are "grotesque" in size and describe primly doling out one single egg to each child before getting rid of the rest makes me think you do have some food issues."

Oh for goodness sake, are you a psychologist to be making that diagnosis?

How absolutely ridiculous.

squeekums · 13/04/2020 03:42

Are you a person who would eat 10 easter eggs? Really what is wrong with you that you consider that normal

I am, so what?
I lost count how many dd had yesterday, she had a bunny for breakfast, I remember that.

Just for shits n giggles, here dd pile, its easy to see why I think the OP is being stupid. DD thinks she should be fined LMAO.

To think that 10 easter eggs per child from MIL is atrocious
midsummabreak · 13/04/2020 03:51

Why not just keep the gifts and let them choose some for dessert every night.
That worked for us when kids were young, and multiple family members gave chocolate at Easter

1300cakes · 13/04/2020 03:53

are you a psychologist

Oh sorry do you have to be one to post here?

LoveIsLovely · 13/04/2020 03:59

@1300cakes

Is that what I said?

Meredithgrey1 · 13/04/2020 08:14

Dd egg hunt for her only had 45 eggs alone

45 boxed Easter eggs??

the children were given gifts, they belong to the children not the OP. Taking them away without their permission is theft

I've always found this opinion odd, and a touch disingenuous. Are you really saying that under no circumstances would you ever remove a gift given to your young child because you'd consider it theft? You may draw the line way beyond Easter eggs, but you'll have a line somewhere - something completely age-inappropriate for example, or something you'd already told your child you wouldn't allow them to have (I'm not saying that eggs are age inappropriate or comparing them to things that are, I'm just saying that I find the blanket "I can't take away a gift my child has got" rule to be very odd).

Celerysam · 13/04/2020 08:17

This massively shows why we have such a childhood obesity problem in the UK. That is months and months worth of sugar and fat. Children should have chocolate as an occasional treat. One egg a month realistically is probably enough sugar given that they will have other treats as well. That makes 10 months worth of chocolate.

People really believe that children need to eat lots of junk food. It's really genuinely scary.

LoveIsLovely · 13/04/2020 08:17

The idea that taking things from your children is theft is patently ludicrous and proof that some people on here do not live in the real world.

Russellbrandshair · 13/04/2020 08:21

The idea that taking things from your children is theft is patently ludicrous and proof that some people on here do not live in the real world

Seriously! I am cackling at the idea of it being theft! So ludicrous. So I guess that means if your kid picks up a cigarette butt they found on the ground and you take it off them and put it in the bin that’s THEFT! Kids really should be taught to dial 999 so they can report these dangerous crimes of parental theft 😆

Russellbrandshair · 13/04/2020 08:22

I also agree that with this kind of greed and overconsumption it’s no wonder our obesity levels are soaring. Shame as now is the time when being fit and healthy really keeps you safe

MsMiaWallace · 13/04/2020 08:40

I wish my MIL would buy my DC anything or even show an interest.

Think yourself dam lucky she's at least tried.

Celerysam · 13/04/2020 08:54

**I lost count how many dd had yesterday, she had a bunny for breakfast, I remember that.

Just for shits n giggles, here dd pile, its easy to see why I think the OP is being stupid. DD thinks she should be fined LMAO.**

How can you be proud of this? It's your job to teach children a healthy relationship with food. I'm really curious what your child normally eats. How long will that pile last? By my estimate that should take a minimum of 6 months for that to be given in even vaguely reasonable amounts.

It's also not healthy to have some chocolate every night after dinner. I despair of how skewed the relationship is between some families and food.

Anyone that feeds their children 5 lots of fruit and veg, wholemeal bread and rations chocolate is considered obsessive and boring Hmm

I'm not boring. I love letting kids have an ice cream or an Easter egg but they are ocassional treats. Our obesity crisis is because parents have really disproportionate ideas of how much junk food is ok to give a child.

Russellbrandshair · 13/04/2020 08:58

I lost count how many dd had yesterday, she had a bunny for breakfast, I remember that

That photo is gross. Pure greed. Enjoy your future diabeetus!

decisionsdecision · 13/04/2020 09:00

@Celerysam have you ever melted down an Easter egg that comes with a mug? The box is massive but the egg is 'normal' size it's not an extra large one.
If you melt it down it comes to LESS than half a single Cadbury's bar. Say you split 1/2 the egg between OPs 3 DC it worked out less than a square each of Cadbury's chocolate.
Or are you one of these people who think even half a square of chocolate is sinful?

SinisterBumFacedCat · 13/04/2020 09:19

10 Easter eggs is too much. However, telling your kids they have to choose one and donate the other 9 is mean. How about donating half? How did the kids feel about their eggs being taken away?

And then the comment about Xmas presents, saying MIL is only allowed to buy them shoes or a book. No kid ever wants their grandma choosing their shoes!! Or to unwrap shoes at Xmas unless they have wheels and lights on them!

Op is a total joy thief. I think the MIL is actually doing this to wind her up and it’s working.

Celerysam · 13/04/2020 09:27

Yes I have melted down an egg. However there are more calories and sugar in half an egg than a bar. The volume is misleading when you melt and re harden it.

Besides that no I'm not someone that thinks one square of chocolate is harmful. I am however someone that thinks children should have chocolate or sweet things every single day. That's a bad habit to form.

SinisterBumFacedCat · 13/04/2020 09:27

That photo is gross. Pure greed. Enjoy your future diabeetus!

I just wanted to know where the box of mini eggs came from. Is it completely full of eggs? How far back does the box go back? Did you order it?

Btw russell if you’re going to take delight in a poster getting an diabetes, at least look up how it’s spelt.

HarrySnotter · 13/04/2020 09:32

I'm astonished at how many posters on here think that 10 full sized eggs each are perfectly harmless.

I think 10 eggs is ridiculous @DdraigGoch, and I know I may have missed posts on this thread, but I genuinely can't see any posts, even the ones who have no issue with that amount of eggs, advocate eating them all at once. Clearly there's a difference between that and eating one a month for example.

That photo is gross. Pure greed. Enjoy your future diabeetus!

That's unkind and unnecessary @Russellbrandshair. It's easy to voice distaste without resorting to this kind of stuff. (My DD has had type 1 diabetes since she was 18 months old so I'll admit I have a sense of humour bypass about stuff like this).

HarrySnotter · 13/04/2020 09:35

Actually @DdraigGoch, I take it back, I have now. 🙄

StCharlotte · 13/04/2020 09:55

We tend to eat the bars/extras and the use the eggs to melt down for crispy cakes etc.

That's massively unreasonable - Easter egg chocolate is the best!

LadyEloise · 13/04/2020 10:13

10 eggs each per child is utterly ridiculous.
What a waste of money.
What kind of message does that send out to her grandchildren.
Gluttony and greed - will her dgc always expect ott gifts and be disappointed with other peoples gifts to them ?
Has she left a shop short of Easter eggs for other customers because of the lockdown restrictions ?
Is she well off ?
I'd far prefer if she was my mil that she would give them an Easter egg ( big if she wants) and buy them books or book tokens or a visit to a petting farm or a show when the restrictions are lifted or put the residual money into a little savings account for them.
Weird behaviour from her.
Has she a dh/ partner ?

I'd be so cross too garlicbread82.

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